We lost a 12yrd son 3years ago it has been the hardest thing I have ever been through I don't sleep ,still loseing weight and mad at everything,I don't like being this way sure could use some advice,thanks
2006-09-24 06:53:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
let the anger out...don't hold back on your feelings. It's time to move on with your life. I'm pretty sure your son wouldn't want you to suffer like this. Continue with your life and cherish the memories of your son that you both shared. Best of luck.
2006-09-24 06:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by gwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not say I know what you are going through because I don't. I can tell you that anger is a very powefull emotion and it usually is a sign of fear-fear that if you let go of the anger you will forget your son. I know anger all too well-its my most powerful enemy. I strongly suggest a good therapist and this might take some time to find---like 5-6 sessions to determine if this is the right one for you----please consider that option. I am sorry for your loss.
2006-09-24 13:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death of a child is something I've never dealt with but the anger is becoming a stronghold upon u.. God has a purpose for ur child to go on to heaven and wait for u there.. hang on to the good times of the 12 yrs. and if ur a believer that Jesus died for u, u will be in heaven with ur child when u die for ETERNITY... I will pray u can loose anger and lack of sleep and I bind u to peace that passes all understanding and may u find Jesus and his love for u.. and know that ur son is with JESUS... what a blessing!
2006-09-24 13:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Amy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been under a doctor's care? You need to be on an antidepressant to get you through all of the issues dealing with your loss.
You need to be in a support group for parents who have lost a child. They are the only ones who know how you feel and what you are going through.
2006-09-24 13:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Larry B
Ur son would want you to find some inner peace so let me say that I will have your family in my prayers and I hope someday you can find the peace that you deserve I can only imgaine what you are going through I like to write poems or praying about what is bothering me may you find peace and happiness someday
God Bless U and your family
2006-09-24 14:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek a really good counselor. Losing a loved one is rarely easy to get over by yourself....I know, I've been there. You need someone who is trained to listen and offer sound advise. You will never get over loosing your son, but you will get through it. There is no shame in seeking help and advise. Lots of luck to you.
2006-09-24 13:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by cowboys21angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without getting more details i guess the loss was tragic and is also unresolved...this hurts.. but u have to seek professional help..this kinda stuff can eat u up and make u less of a person..call on a good friend and talk about it... really talk ...about deep inner hurt and emotions and make sure its someone that will listen and is uplifting..
2006-09-24 14:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lost a son he was 14 hit by a train it is hard to not be pissed off all the time i had to let it go because of my other child it was starting to carey over to her , make peace with in your self and make peace with your son that is gone
2006-09-24 14:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put all your energy into community activities, things that benefit the community. Educate them on matters related to loss. Go to college and take up courses you find interesting. Don't waste away. Take your angry energy and turn it into something else.
2006-09-24 14:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by casual observer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the deep breathing excercise. Meditation will help you for sure
2006-09-24 13:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋