my age is 24 and i had still not experienced sex and nowadays i m so desperte so what should i do??

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Answer 1

I think u r suffering from sex addiction... read this

What is Sex Addiction?

Sexual or sex addiction, simply put, is the use of sex or pornography to address non-sexual emotional needs. Countless people from different cultures struggle with this condition which not only disrupts their everyday life but also destroys it in the process. If the following situation sounds familiar to you or someone close to you then you are not alone:

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Your mind is bombarded with so many pornographic images that you find yourself distracted for hours.
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Your desire or drive to have sex, view pornography on the Internet or buy **** videos and magazines is so strong that you are willing to relinquish your primary responsibilities and obligations.
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As a result, you may be in financial debt and maybe out of a job and yet, you still continue to engage in sexual behavior that you know is risky.

There are many more symptoms of sex addiction; please review our sex addiction assessment for a preliminary self-diagnosis.
Why is a Person Addicted to Sex?
One way to understand why a person is addicted to sex is to look at other types of addiction such as drugs and alcohol. Someone who is addicted to alcohol or drugs uses these substances to change his/her moods; in other words, the addict tries to numb emotional pain. The substance becomes more important than family, friends and work.

Eventually, the individuals reach a point where, in order to feel normal, they must have the drug or alcohol. Dr. Patrick Carnes, in his book, "Out of the Shadows", writes, "...to feel 'normal' for the alcoholic is also to feel isolated and lonely since the primary relationship he depends upon to feel adequate is a chemical, not other people."

Sex addiction parallels the above dynamic in that addicts use sexual behaviors to "medicate" or numb their feelings (such as fear, anxiety or anger) to the degree that their sexual acting out becomes their primary way of coping with emotional stress. Therefore, it is important not to confuse sexual addiction with sexual desire.

Most adults have a healthy sexual desire but not everyone uses sex to address non-sexual emotional needs. Sex addictions can take on many forms including but not limited to the following sexual behaviors:

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Anonymous sex
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**** addiction (pornographic photos, videos, magazines, cyber-sex, Web sites)
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Chronic affairs
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Compulsive masturbation
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Sexual massages
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Voyeurism

Feeling Powerless is the Essence
According to Sex Addicts Anonymous, a 12-step program dedicated to helping sex addicts, "...the essence of all addiction is the addicts' experience of powerlessness over a compulsive behavior, resulting in their lives becoming unmanageable. The addict is out of control and experiences tremendous shame, pain and self-loathing." In addition, Dr. Carnes explains that one of the traits of sex addiction is that it is progressive in nature. In other words, these habitual behaviors increase in frequency and variety which result in extreme consequences.

The sex addict does not necessarily need to have sex with an individual in order to be addicted. Pornography addiction or cyber-sex is a type of sexual addiction in which the individual, more often than not, masturbates to pornographic images on the Internet. This compulsive behavior where increasing amount of time is invested in downloading images, creating files and exchanging sexual information with others via chat rooms creates a fantasy world in which the sex addict spends most of his time.

The Internet provides exactly what an addict seeks: material to fuel his insatiable sexual desires and secretly feed his fantasy in an isolated environment with an endless variety that is available not only at a touch of a button but also at any time of the day. As a result, the individual's emotional pain and stress are numbed by these fantasies and rituals dozens, if not, hundreds of times before having true intimacy (and/or sex) with a real person.

The sex addicts who use the Internet undergo a speedy progression of their addiction. An exorbitant amount of time is spent in front of the computer which leads to greater risks, increasing one's chances of getting caught. This is the reason why **** addiction has been appropriately deemed the "crack cocaine" of sex addiction.

According to review Web sites such as WebSense.com and Internetfilterreview.com, Internet pornography statistics for the year 2003 were as follows:

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90% of 8 - 16 year olds have viewed **** online (most of them while doing their homework)
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The largest consumer of Internet pornography is the age group between 12 - 17
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About 12% of total Web sites are pornographic
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25% of total search engine requests are ****-related

Why is it Important to Overcome Sex Addiction?

The consequences of sexual addiction can be devastating to not only the addict but also those close to him/her. It can leave an addict isolated, intensely anxious and depressed to the point of being suicidal.

Low self-esteem, shame, hopelessness and despair are also common feelings experienced by sex addicts.

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70% of sex addicts report severe marital or relationship problems
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40% report the loss of a partner or spouse

The ramifications of sex addiction do not end on an emotional level but rather, continue onto medical, financial and legal ones as well.

Medical consequences of sex addiction may include HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as genital herpes, syphilis and gonorrhea. In addition, genital injury may result from excessive sexual activity or the use of foreign objects for sexual stimulation.

Financial consequences of sex addiction may include the loss of one's job, getting sued over sexual harassment or sexual exploitation charges resulting in legal fees. Purchasing pornographic material, use of prostitutes, calling 900 phone numbers and traveling for the sole purpose of sexual contacts can create enormous debt in credit card bills and exhaust the financial resources of an addict often times to the point of bankruptcy.

Legal consequences of sexual addiction. Arrest and incarceration are the most common legal ramifications of sexual addiction. The addict's out of control lifestyle compels him to engage in high risk, illegal activities such as voyeurism, exhibitionism, inappropriate touching and the solicitation of prostitutes.
How Do I Know If I'm Addicted to Sex or Pornography?
A basic approach in recognizing any addictive behavior is to assess whether it is creating overwhelming trouble in your life and yet you choose to return to it despite the problem.

If your sexual behavior is draining your time and energy and it causes you to compromise your core values and the beliefs that you hold dear to your heart then there is likely a problem. If you are acting out sexually and your behavior has resulted in health complications (psychological and/or physical), job loss and financial problems, relationships being strained or broken or more serious consequences such as being involved in litigations over inappropriate and illegal behaviors then you are most likely a sex addict.

A common misconception among sex addicts is that the problem will go away on its own and they will often say to themselves, "This is my only opportunity... I will never get a chance like this again...this is the last time that I am going to..." but experience and research shows that they will return to the same sexual situations, in spite of previous vows to change if they do not seek professional help.

Answer 2

That's a good thing. Don't just go do it to do it. Real life is not like in the movies or on sitcoms. That is not normal. You'd be better off saving yourself. Besides, if you must look at it purely from a logical standpoint, you could get a sexually transmitted disease or wind up with a child. Love is not lustful desire, but something sweeter and so much more valuable. I hope that you will make the best decision and abstain until marriage.

Answer 3

In Islam a remedy is to fast, however one is also encouraged to get married as soon as they can. I congratulate you on your abstaining of pre marital sex. Ask a relative or friend to help you get introduced for a potential wife, if you find it difficult in doing so yourself. Meanwhile try to keep your mind occupied and less thinking about sex. Hope i helped...

Answer 4

if you just want sex, just go to a pub or bar, find some someone drunk, but not TOO drunk. Although you should start get to know people and date them, get serious with them and blah blah blah, may take a while, but more meaningful for your first time than one night stands. althought they are just as enjoying. :P

Answer 5

As they say - youthful people is wasted on the greater desirable youthful! on the same time as i replace into in my babies I probably had plenty greater desirable intercourse than I do now yet replace into it the appropriate - nah. I nonetheless had hangups approximately my physique and so on. Now i'm 35 and with age comes the easy actuality which you have nicely-known then on the same time as adult males say you're acceptable you do no longer could desire to declare "yet my bum is soooo vast", you basically say "thank you" and grant them an enthralling smile. With age, additionally comes adventure and know-how what you rather like. as quickly as you're youthful you're too scared to ask or probably you do no longer probably understand what you bypass with yet. i could desire to have much less intercourse (consistent with possibility having a toddler has have been given some concern to do with that) yet I actual have a loving husband who does not techniques my stretch marks ,thinks i'm acceptable and that i'm effective sufficient to delight in it. i think of of it does get greater desirable suitable with age. i think of i'm no longer as slim or actual extremely as I as promptly as replace into yet on the same time as i glance decrease back at those photos of me with the spiral perm i think of of i in my opinion do look greater desirable suitable now lol!

Answer 6

I got friends that are 34 virgins LOL good luck

Answer 7

lol well well well lol ide just make sure you know what your really wanting sex or just getting off, ide say dont if your really waiting for mr/ms right,but if your just wanting to play,ide say go for it

Answer 8

If you need help and a kind considerate guy to show you the way....then Im your man

Answer 9

ok, if youve never had sex-how can you be desperate for it? youve never experienced it-when it happens itll happen..dont worry about it

Answer 10

save it for marrige.

Answer 11

ook! then get out there and do it