He is suppose to be in a special group "readiness" or some like that. He is not actually in pre-k to graduate or get any diploma, he is still 4, why complaints about discipline when he is suppose to be learning to upgrade his skills? Has this happen before, or is this normal for kids on pre-kindergarden school?
2006-09-24 06:33:44 · 16 answers · asked by AnieFTM40 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
Well, no matter why he is at school, good and reasonable behavior is essential. He, and the other students, cannot learn when there are behavior issues. How can he upgrade his skills, when he is goofing off and acting out? So, I guess I would think it was normal, in instances when children are not doing what they should.
I am assuming this "readiness" class in sort of remedial in nature? If I were you I would really work on his discipline, make sure he understands he has to do what is asked, when asked, how it was asked to be done rather than talking out, getting out of his seat, etc. If you support the teacher, perhaps take away toys at home for things that happen at school, you will set him up for a successful school year in kindergarden and beyond.
2006-09-24 14:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Beth M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I think you need to find out more about the program your child is in. Parent involvement is key to a successful school career for your child. Next, your child needs to learn self-control to be successful in school. Since he has had complaints, maybe this is an area your son needs to work on. Go get involved in the school. Set up a conference with your child's teacher. She's probably just waiting to speak with you about this matter. Remember, you are your child's first teacher! Get tips on what you can do at home with him and you will see success!
2006-09-24 17:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bobbi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he in VPK? I've helped with both VPK and regular preschool, and I definately prefer the latter. It's much more relaxed and not as academic. If he's not going into kindergarten next year, you might consider switching him.
But I know for a fact that discipline is hard to enforce when a teacher is faced with a room full of screaming 4-year-olds. Lots of parents complain about everything. I'm sure his teacher has enough on her plate right now...
2006-09-24 16:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by ashcatash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he is in readiness classes it doesnt mean that he doesnt see other kids doing bad things. So it could be from school but it doesnt mean it's public school private school does have the same affect on children. All you have to do is tell him he needs to start being nicer and behaving. Every little bad thing hedoes at home dont punish him but tell him firmly that its not right to do that and give him 2 warnings per behavior and if he does it a 3rd time simmply put him to bed or punish him however you punish him. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-24 13:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by boycrazedprinces709 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the school or the program your child cannot learn if his behavior is impeding his learning. Not only does this directly affect your child but it also impacts other students around him. The teacher cannot instruct or educate her children as well as she could if your son wasn't misbehaving.
Now, I know we all want to step in and defend, or protect our children but you should make him responsible and accountable for his behavior. Imagine how other children's parents AND this teacher feels knowing that your child is impeding or impacting other childrens' learning potential.
You should step in, discipline your own child. Good discipline benefits his classmates and teacher. If you continue to stress good behavior and discipline at school, HE will ultimately be the one who benefits the most from this. An unruly child who doesn't pay attention affects his classmates and teachers only a bit but the one who ends up losing out the most is the child himself.
2006-09-24 06:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by bitto luv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if it is a readiness group, they still need to keep you informed about his behavior.
Also, if the behavior is extremely bad they will have a paper trail and be able to suspend him or remove him from the program.
Even while working on improving his skills he has to try to follow the rules within reason.
My son was sent home from Headstart DAILY because his behavior was so bad. Finally the parents (we adopted him so he was not ours at the time) went to school and sat there with him and made him behave.
2006-09-24 06:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question implies that discipline is irrelevant to the learning process, which is exactly opposite of the reality. Children who misbehave in school generally learn less and diminish the learning opportunities for their classmates. If your child is not required to behave properly in the company of others, this will certainly affect his "readiness" to learn. The rate of complaints you describe, at this early stage of the school year, certainly seems abnormal, which suggests that your child is abnormally disobedient. You have an obligation to the child and to society at large to remedy that disobedience, and the question of whether you or he get a diploma for doing it is as irrelevant as it is self-absorbed at the expense of others.
2006-09-24 06:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by BoredBookworm 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that's how my niece is
she used to be in a catholic "day care" and she was a very good student and the teacher was very nice
then this year she started pre-k and she doesn't want to go to school for some of the students and she wants all the attention so she tries to act up...
and i also noticed that the teacher is sooo stressed from all the children soo sometimes shes a lil too grumpy
and my niece was very nice in the catholic school because there weren't many students and the teacher wasn't under that much stress
so you son just needs to get used to this environment
2006-09-24 06:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
parents need to be involved. you should go in for a parent teacher conference.as this is when he develops many skills for life ,many developed by age 5!!!!
no, this many complaints not normal.
maybe be good to do a parenting class. parenting its the hardest most important job in the world and we get no training. if this is your first kid especially don't expect to "just know" everything.
there are mommy and me classes and some other parenting usually through the schools or social servcies..Go for it -can only make parenting easier!
watch that nanny 911 show on tv or through internet for more tips too.
2006-09-24 06:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by macdoodle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to have set structures at home with your child, and that involves consequences and rewards; respectively for negative and positive behavior. What you are willing to accept at home from a 4 year old child is your choice. Don't expect it from others who are trying to perform a duty to those trying to learn or play.
Don't question it, accept it, and then make a change at home.
2006-09-24 09:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by Go Longhorns! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋