i have tried to do this before...normally i am over emotional i feel like if hes not paying attention to me nobody in the world cares about me..when i try to stop depending on him for my happiness i am under emotional for example he will tell me he misses me or loves me and i dont feel anything i feel empty....how can i stop relying on him for my happiness but still love him?
2006-09-24 06:32:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is tough. I have been in the same situation several times. I had to finally decided that happiness comes and goes. But I can find joy in everything that is going on in life. I had to decide that my boyfriend does not make me who I am. He didn't fall in love with me, just for me to an emoitional wreck all the time. I had to do things that make me happy and joyful and then he gets to be apart of my wonderful life. It really works if you can just give it a chance. I hope you do. Take care!
2006-09-24 06:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is not depend on others for your happiness .you should try to make your boyfriend happy by doing things he likes usually when you do something that makes someone else happy it makes you happy that you brighten someones day this should be your goal for everybody stop thinking about how someone else can make you happy just do to others what you want done to you .Good luck
2006-09-24 06:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW THIS ONE!!! :) lol
Ok your happiness depends on your thrive or will for you want to live YOUR life. Are you boring and lazy? Or do you get out there and enjoy life? Your boyfriend issues are because you want someone to share your passions for life and thrill for whatever excites you, do you two do anything together you each enjoy? Besides the unmentionable things? Find something to do with your free time, with or without your boyfriend. You will come to realize in life you have to live with yourself and your happiness depends on what YOU are doing with yourself and who YOU surround yourself with.
2006-09-24 06:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men suck! I don't depend on them for ANYTHING! Maybe when you get older, and stronger you will agree. Find something for yourself, a hobby, or go out with your friends. Men don't like clingy women anyways, that only pushes them away. If you love him and want him in your life, you will give him some space an show him how independent you can be.
2006-09-24 06:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax.
Be yourself.
Get active in the things you enjoy.
Don't hinge your happiness on anybody but your self, because in the end, you're the one that you'll have to face in the mirror. As Cher said, "Sooner or later, we all sleep alone." So quit worrying about what others think and spend some time discovering and celebrating who YOU are. Remember, you are the only you that you have -- and if you don't take care of and celebrate your you, who will?
2006-09-24 06:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by hersheskissed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest getting some hobbies that you may or may
not share with him. You can offer to share them with him,
but don't react emotionally if he tries it and doesn't like it.
The important thing is he must try, but you should be
understanding enough to accept it if it's not for him.
If he wants you to share in his hobbies, you should try
them too, but don't expect to make or break the relationship
on that basis.
You should have at least a few things you can do together
that are neutral, non-emotional territory. It could be
playing cards with friends or doing a non-competitive sport,
or a competitive one without being overly competitive.
My ex wife wanted nothing except to go to plays & movies
with me when we were dating, but after we married she
judged me on the basis of this or that activity being to her
liking or not. She was way too touchy and forgot that the
reason we did activities together was to be together and
not to worry about the success or failure of the activity.
BiB
2006-09-24 06:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bamboozled in Brewster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have some serious issues. when you think that a man can make you happy or complete.and you become too depended on him.also when you think you dont need him ,you become too independed.dont seek for happiness ,be satisfied with what you have.be satisfied with your life,your love and your state. once you find the inner peace, you wont need anyone to make you happy.
2006-09-24 06:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start making your self happy first people seem to get into relationships thinking thats going to make you happy you have to learn to make yourself happy pamper yourself keep yourself up and looking good at all times this will be a start
2006-09-24 06:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to become your own best friend. Find things to do which bring you happiness, surround yourself with family and friends who appreciate you for who you are. Do some reading, and some research on what makes people tick. It is doing a disservice to one's partner to rely totally on them - you have to bring your best, independent self forward in order to be able to share.
2006-09-24 06:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what else makes you happy. Count on that as well as him. That way you have those things and him for happiness and you still love him because he is the original.
2006-09-24 06:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋