I am getting married out of town and not inviting anyone and wanted to know if it was right to let my friends have showers for me when I am not even inviting them to the wedding.
2006-09-24 06:30:01 · 15 answers · asked by Lauren B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Absolutely...this is exactly the type of thing that is supposed to happen! Your friends love you enough to want to celebrate, and to help you out! Let them be a part of your wedding by having these pre-wedding parties!
2006-09-25 09:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not okay to have a wedding or bridal shower if you are not inviting anyone who attends that wedding or bridal shower. A better idea would be to have a house warming party after the official wedding or throw a reception. If your guest finds out your not inviting them for the official wedding they may never speak to you again. Good Luck
2006-09-24 14:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did the sam e thing. I had a HUGE shower and got married in Vegas. What definately needs to be done though is let people KNOW that there will be no wedding to attend. Write it on the invite then make mention of it again when you thank everyone for coming to the shower at the end. This way no one feels slighted.
2006-09-24 22:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by GiddyGiddyGoin 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, it is not OK. Anyone invited to a pre-wedding, wedding-related party (shower, bachelorette, enagagement party, bridal tea, etc) MUST also be invited to the wedding itself. It would be extremely rude to go against this basic etiquette rule.
Politely decline their offers of a shower. Maybe plan a post-honeymoon party night for all your friends, if they are that excited about your getting married.
2006-09-24 18:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course - I went to a shower for a couple that was getting married out of town, and it was an opportunity for everyone who wasn't going to celebrate the couple and wish them well. It makes the other people in your life feel included - and the shower can be all the more important to them because they won't be at the wedding.
It may be their only chance to be involved. Unless you feel really strongly about it, don't take that away from them.
2006-09-24 13:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your friends know that they are not invited to the wedding and wish to give you a shower any way, I would let them. It may be their way of sharing in your celebration knowing they can not do so at the wedding. Good luck and enjoy your day
2006-09-24 13:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by linda m 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I wouldn't. I am a firm believer that if they are good enough to come to a shower to give you gifts, they are good enough to invite to the wedding, no matter where it is. They can always decline the wedding invite.
2006-09-24 15:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If THEY are the ones that are wanting to do it - YES - it is acceptable. Lots of people get married on their own because it is so absolutely expensive to have a formal wedding and invite people these days. I totally understand.
Why not have a small get together when you get back so that your friends can share in your joy? It doesn't have to be anything extravagent - just crackers and cheese and being together could be all and it would be a very nice way to thank them for their generous spirit and friendship to you both.
2006-09-24 13:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by thisisuandme 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Only if they offer, and if they already know they aren't invited to the wedding.
I was married out of town and refused the shower offers, I felt it was greedy to accept.
2006-09-25 15:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by exclusiveindigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that isn't fair to everyone else. yes it's not their wedding.but it's sending a message that you are good enough to get me stuff but not good enough to stand by me @ an important time in my life. if you are doing the away wedding don't do the showers and stuff
2006-09-24 14:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋