Each Sunday, my friend and I go to church together. Now, while I love going to church with her, she is late all the time. For instance, last Sunday, she was out of town, & I went to church alone. I made it there very early, therefore I was on time, & didn't have to disrupt others, searching for a seat. Our church has a very large membership, and fills up very quickly, so getting there early is a must. I like to leave at least 30 minutes early. Well, this Sunday, she is back home, and I am ready to leave now, but when I called to see what time she could be ready, she wants to leave 15 minutes before the service is supposed to start! I love my friend dearly, and I don't want to leave her, but I just cannot stand getting there late, & not being able to find a seat. She is not depending on a ride, as neither of us drives to church. Our church is right down the street, so we walk together. She might get mad, but would it be wrong of me to leave her& meet her at the service later?
2006-09-24 06:15:09 · 17 answers · asked by Sassy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Instead of asking her what time she will be ready, why not tell her a time. It is not rude or improper of you to say to her that you want to get there early and your reasons why. Tell her you love your walks with her to church and if there wasn't some way you two could possibly leave earlier. I think your friend will understand. You will never know unless you speak up. And I say once again you are not being rude or mean. You both sound like really sweet understanding people. Another suggestion maybe if she can't get around earlier is to tell her you will save her a seat and just meet her there. It will work out.
2006-09-24 06:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by GraycieLee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is a true friend, she will understand that you and she have different ideas. This is one and you like being there early. She probably likes the attention that she gets by being late. She will understand when you explain to her that you like being early, like picking out the seat you want to sit in, getting there without feeling rushed, and enjoy sitting quietly before the service starts. Let her know she is a good friend and you will gladly save her a seat beside you, or if she prefers she can find a seat on her own, but after the service you two will meet up and go out for dinner or whatever. If she has problems with this scenario then she's not as good a friend as you thought.
2006-09-24 13:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it is not wrong. Explain to her your feelings: I enjoy being at church on time- I really want to be part of the praise and worship and I feel uncomfortable walkingi n when things are already in progress. How about I go when I am ready, meet me there, I will save you a place and we can hang out, have lunch , whatever after service.
If this person is a true friend and actually going to church is more important that having a "buddy" this person will understand and it should be fine- there is a risk of her getting offended but if she is a true friend and Godly person she should get over it pretty quickly.
Just doint point the finger - YOU are always late - YOU cause us to disrupt service etc. avoid dealing with it in that manner and in dealing with this be considerate of her feelings and things should be okay!
2006-09-24 13:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have a problem with being late alot also, so like others suggested tell her how you feel like you told us, then if it really bothers her she will be ready sooner,otherwise she can just meet you at the church try to save her a seat though. Some people are just habitually late for some odd reason they know what time they need to be at any certain place yet they just cant quite get there in time, I think its a psychological thing, even a bit rude, but at least that's how I seem to be. Myself I'm working on it.
2006-09-24 13:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by turtle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a God fearing woman you should know that honesty is always the best policy. Tell her that you do NOT like being late for church service. Tell her exactly how you feel. Look at the flip side of this situation, your upset with her for making you late but you still want to be her friend. Just be honest, it really is easier and the best way to go.
2006-09-24 13:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you enjoy having her with you at church, but that church is very important to you, then tell her kindly that you don't want to hurt her feelings but you would like to leave before her so that you can be there ahead of time. Also see if you can save her a seat since you will be there before her. If this can be done, then tell her you will save her a seat.
2006-09-24 13:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you call and ask her what time she'll be ready? Why not just tell her what time you are leaving, and she can decide if she wants to go with you. If not, tell her you will save a seat for her.
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2006-09-24 13:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kathryn™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that you are going to leave earlier, but explain how that will be an advantage to both of you. You will be able to be there and save her a seat so that she doesn't have to search out for a seat, because all you have to do is tell her what area you'll be in, and she'll find a seat waiting for her.
2006-09-24 13:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not important how you get there, when you get there, or who you go with. What is important is that you are there. I can personalize with you. I hate to be late!!!! But, don't worry about it. Once you are in God's house, you will forget all about the fact that you were late, or just not so early. Your friend probably doesn't even realize that her habit of tardiness is bothering you. You should go with her today and then talk with her and tell her how you feel. But keep the convo light and casual so that she won't think that you are mad at her and get her feelings hurt. It is really not anything to agonize over.
2006-09-24 13:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by ms.melancholy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the dilemma!
Just tell her that you are going early and you'll save her a good seat! She ought to be happy with that!
As the "late starter", I know I would be thrilled to have a good friend who got there early and saved me a good seat!
2006-09-24 13:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋