I have a question about honoring thy mother/father?(PLEASE BE NICE)?

Question

Throughout my childhood I was too lazy to honor my mother and father. When I turned 21 I realized I had a problem so I went and got some medicine for anxiety and to keep your mind from going into chaos.

Now I appreciate my mom more and I love her so much I don't want to see her go anytime soon. I regret all the times I disobeyed her(only the times when asked to do chores).

The bible says children if you honor your father/mother you'll have a long life here on earth. Well I didn't really honor them that much until this past year. So will I die sooner than the rest just because I honored them too late?

The only times I have struggle of honoring my mom is going to church with her because I don't like that church(I liked you all's advice on my other question).

So is it too late to honor your father and mother?

Now that I'm an adult what are some other ways to honor my mom/dad even if I don't agree with their suggestions and stuff?

Answer 1

It is never too late to start doing right. Tell your parents how you feel and then let go of the guilt. Even if you do not agree with what they say, you should respect their title. Much like your boss on the job.

Answer 2

The bible says children if you honor your father/mother you'll have a long life here on earth. ....
The above is NOT correct. Whatever life you've been assigned when you were born is the life you'll live unless you meet an accident or commit suicide; this doesn't count for your real life that you could have lived, otherwise.
Honoring parents is advised by all the religions alike, Christianity, Budhism, and others too, more specifically Islam..
It's NEVER late to honour your parents; you could help make life better for them just as they did it for you as an infant and later as a child until you were grown up. They deserve all the respect you could give them. Doing what you think is not correct relgion-wise, is also correct, but to go against them when they ask you to do according to your religion is ill-advised. They ask you to because they do in your best interests which you will realise sooner or later....
Parents to one should not be any lesser than God who Himself has advised us to respect them in each and every respect except going against God, if they choose to....
You'll live as long as God has wanted you to, no sooner no later, whether you're pious or you're devil.... Even the Devil has been with us from the beginnning to the End, and a devil is a devil..

Answer 3

From an Islamic perspective, rather than a Christian one, it is NEVER too late to honor your parents. I believe we all have our regrets about how we treated our parents in the past. We all now have the responsibility to make that up to them, now that they have survived through what we did, taking care of us, providing for us, and nurturing us. I believe it is now our time to return the deed.
One thing you have to keep in mind about older people is that with their age, they have developed habits and ways of thinking, and they are now set in their ways. You shouldn't try to change them because it is who they are and how they think and feel, and the best you can do is to let them be on those matters. However if they are harming themselves, we should do our best to help them. Respect their advice, listen to what they have to say, even if you don't agree with it, and follow their advice as much as you can so that they feel they are still your parents and not just your burden.

You may not die sooner than the rest, but it may feel like it. You are now in the state of mind where you want to reverse what you feel guilty for, so no time will ever be enough.

Good luck!

Answer 4

well --I'd brainstorm.

To love womeone --there are 5 ways people experience love. Some people are more receptive to words, some to actions, some to gifts, some to quality time, some to hugs. the fifth way is sex so that doesn't apply here.

So what I do for people is to make them something --like make them a cake. then tell them how much I appreciate them in my life and give them a hug. So all the bases are covered.

There's a great book about this idea. It's the 5 languages of love or something. Check it out. I think it's a Christian book.

Something I've also gotten into doing is giving money for different projects in someone's honor. Here are two charities I like.
http://donate.wvus.org/OA_HTML/xxwvibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?section=10052&item=1270206

http://www.hscv.org/sponsorships.htm

I give money for a project or item that makes me think of that person. . .

best of luck to you.

p.s. also speak to someone at your church about this idea. I think they'd probably have some great suggestions for you.

Answer 5

Just be happy you got the hang of it sooner than later.

As for the past, remember God has forgiven all of your past and does not hold it against you, so why should you do so?

Here is the best part it all. Now that you have got it right, do whatever you can, whenever you can, to make for the lost time. Believe me, it will still be a lot of fun. Some of it you will treasure in the days to come. I do.

Go into their world and find out things that make them happy. If they are old, try helping out in their routines, spend time talking with them (you know just listening to what they have to say- yes listen with your heart). You will be surprised at the changes that take place.

Answer 6

it is NEVER too late and God bless you in your decision! i undertand some of your stugggles and can only say -- just be respectful. my mom often give me her opinions when i ask. it takes everything within me sometimes not to say -- what are you nuts ; ) instead i take it, listen and say, i'll take that into consideration. i don't rub it in her face that i don't care for her opinion - it's her's after all and i asked. I'm thankful that i no longer live with my folks. while i love them, one thing i've realized is - no matter how hard i've tried to deny it - i AM my mothers daughter. could the two of you be at odds (or even your dad) becuase you are too much alike - think about that openly though.
i believe, by making this step, you are honouring your mother & father just as your Father has requested.
About the church thing - can you invite your mom to your church?
Recently i saw a picture of a spot we'd visited when we werekids. I cut it out and sent it to my parents - explaining that, even though i didn't thank them then or appreciate all they did for us, i know understand and realize and want them to know how much i love and appreciate them. sometimes admitting your oversight is a door opener for all involved.
God bless you!!
YSIC

Answer 7

You should live your life the best way you know how to. In the past you did things badly, now you know better all you can do is apoligise to your parents and God and all parties I'd bet will forgive and forget. Forget means that God isn't going to punish you for a mistake. Your time will come eventually but if you ask for forgivness then a past discression will not cause your life to be shorter.
Tell your parents, you don't always agree with them but you understand that they have different experiences than you so you respect them enough to always listen to them and think about their idea.

Answer 8

there is a difference between honor and obey. as a child you were taught by your parents in the laws rules and mores of the Culture and Society you were born in. this was their duty as parents like it was your duty to listen to them. now when the time comes you will perform the same duties and obligations to the next generation. as an adult you now have the right and duty to practice free will and make your own decisions although you can still ask for others advice and council. remember the truest form of honoring your parents is to emulate them in doing good for your Culture and Society as you see best.

Answer 9

Repent of that sin, and be good to your parents, for they are the only one's you have. And when they are gone, they're gone. And all the I should of's I could of's and the why didn't i's wont bring them back or take away the guilt after they are gone. EVery day is a renued chance to un do all the bad and change for the better. Use these brand new days wisely and praise and thank the Lord for them. HE is a very forgiving and merciful Lord.

Answer 10

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to honor your parents is simple because basically you have already done that .by realizing and growing up and understanding how important they are to you .
all the things they unconditionally have done for you throughout your young lifetime .
but there should be no regrets or fears it is called life and all parents EXPECT their teens and young adults to rebel it is a healthy personality that rebels and wants to find their own truths.
they should be proud to have a daughter like you who indeed now that she has matured realizes the sacrifices they have made so that you could explore and be free .they did a good job .
honoring does not mean BEING LIKE THEM !you should not feel like you have to go to church ..................................just explain that you are indeed trying to find your own spirituality and that when you go to church you don't feel comfortable .but be pleasant and also non judgmental of her beliefs .