why is it kids listen to their dad and not their mum?

Question

well i have a 1 year old and a 2 year old and they are in a stricked routine but when their dad is out they really play up and when i try to put them to bed which is 6 oclock it takes me till about 10 to get them asleep but they are not like this with their dad any ideas

Answer 1

because of or perhaps in spite of that close maternal link that a man will never understand. men can detach from the fact that this is their child and view this a a situation that needs to be resolved. would ia be right in thinking that the strict routine was put in place by the dad. its the same in my house. dad gets to be the strict bad guy who always puts the foot down - but trust me you will get more respect and raise better adjusted children if they understand discipline and repect. just try to detach a little and mean what you say!!!! or is it say what you mean.

Answer 2

I had a friend with the same problem the reason that they listen to their dad is bc the dad is VERY SRITCK and the mother isn't. the father makes the children live by the rules but the mother does not. dads are strick and the BOSS in the house and the mother is the loving one and they think since you are the loving one they can act like they want but the father is a different story the father is the one that has the rules by him bc he is the more strickter parent. what you can do is try to be more strick with them but still be loving and they will pay attention to your rules. good luck! ;-)

Answer 3

i am not sure i have wondered the same thing.. except with my 2 they are 4 and 2 they dont listen to there dad because they live with me and there dad only comes when he please's.. so i am not sure but i would try and get them on a routine.. like i put them in the bath at like 9:45 and by 10:15 they are in bed..

Answer 4

Hi! Interesting question.
Generally, in any family eithe wife or husband -one will be more aggressive than the other. Similarly, one will be soft to kids and another a bit strict. This is required to build confidence in children while one brings in discipline.
If you are correcting the children for all their mischief, they need some one else to shoulder their 'problems'

It is often true that dads love daughters more and the wifes - sons. And once they become teenagers, it reverses.

Do you raise your voice more often than the dad? If you do, try to make friends after some time by getting what the child likes.

Then they start coming to you more !

If I ever shout at my kids, I buy the Cadburys' they like the most !!

All the best :-)

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Ramesh
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Answer 5

Cos mummy's are sweet and soft ....
My sons the same with the wife ..all hell breaks loose when I'm not around..soon as I get home ..little angels.
Maybe u should observe your hubby when he's with the kids see how he interacts with the boys.Most sons and daughters first heros are there dads..
I tend to spend a lot of time at home and we actually share the childcare duties.I have noticed my wife is more softer and less harsh than I am .KIds will always try to push the boundaries..

Good luck

Answer 6

Mothers tend to be more of the easy going parent while fathers tend to be viewed as the authority figure. Only way to break the habit is don't give in. Do what dad would do. Don't let them think can treat you one way and him another.

Answer 7

Dad's are usually seen as the more dominant parent. Usually it is the mother who does most of the caring side of parenthood, the ones who give the cuddles and feeds and bedtimes. The mother is therefore seen as kind and nurturing and not always seen as authoritative. Because the father has this bit of distance from the nurturing side he is seen as more of the 'boss'.

Answer 8

This appears like a classic case that dad is a wino. yet another words he's an alcoholic who needs to drink. Alcoholics do no longer sense pleased with them self. they commonly attempt to cover the actual shown reality that they ought to drink. it really is amazingly an dependancy that ends up in further and extra uncontrollable situations. he's abusive to himself and obviously to mom and also you youthful toddlers. at the same time as he does get money he buys extra alcohol. only because he beverages wine that would not make him a extra socially important drinker than the homeless man or woman on the line who would also be an alcoholic and choose the restore. He needs to hitch a application to paintings in this drug dependancy and locate out the thanks to cope with reality. I doubt you could convince him. commonly those human beings ought to get into worry, sink so low earlier society places them of their position. try besides to jot down him a letter about this challenge and tell him you'll search for help consisting of your practise counselor at school if he would not search for remedy. tell him you adore him yet you do not understand him for this habit and also you comprehend it ought to easily be led to through his choose for wine it somewhat is a ailment dependancy. sturdy success!

Answer 9

This is news to me! I have 5 children who addressed their mum
when the subject was in her domain, such as dressing, eating
and, obviously when I was working. They addressed me on
other subjects such as sports, painting, photography and at
bed time (I was the chosen one to put them to bed). However,
there always was a tendency for the two boys to address me
on all subjects and two of the girls to their mum, but one with
me, I suppose because of artwork and photography (today
she is a professional photographer).

Answer 10

well for me (i have a 1yr old and a 2yr old as well and i am pg with my 3rd) my hubby is in the ARMY so he is not home that much so it is one of the "i have to be on my best behavior". But it might be that dad has a lower more powerful voice.