worth....and ive got girls on my messenger list that ive met off dating sites, and i dont no wat to say to them. i suffer with low moods to where i dont go out any where or do anything because of i anxiety as well, im 29 i live on my own place im waiting to get the right help from my mental health team, and ive yet to meet my new psychiatrist
2006-09-24 05:43:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
ive been texted twice on my mobile from a girl i met on a dating site and i havent replied yet because i feel so bad, so unworthy, such low self worth, i dont even no wat to say...
2006-09-24 05:45:23 · update #1
its like their normal and im a saddo freak with a mental health problem, who doesnt work...well cant at the moment, and half these girls are doin well in university..
2006-09-24 05:47:26 · update #2
honestly dude if a girls not shallow she wont care about past and problems shell love you for the perosn unless you a totally **** then youll be fine i found with most guys they actually feel more lucky to have you because you might not still be here today cos of problems good luck xx:)
2006-09-24 09:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Starting a conversation with a member of the opposite sex is never easy, especially if it's a cold start. In other words you haven't been previously introduced by a mutual friend.
A conversation is a two-way thing. Both of you must want the conversation to start and then to continue.
Confidence is a very strange feeling. Sometimes we don't start conversations for fear of rejection. We don't want our feelings hurt. Remember this though. If you don't talk, the girl has already rejected you. You never know, the girl might be just as anxious as you but unless you talk to her you won't find out.
Good luck and I hope your self-esteem picks up a little. Don't worry, most people have problems chatting people up at some times in their lives. You aren't the only one.
2006-09-24 07:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by markspanishfly 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hunny. I wish I could say something that would make perfect sense and make all your low moods disappear, but that's impossible. I suffer from low self esteem too, and sometimes you feel like something scraped off of a shoe, but it's not always that bad. Just remember that you are a worthwhile person, just as deserving of love and happiness as anyone else. It's never easy, but with support it does get better. If you ever want to talk to someone who has been there, you can contact me any time. Hope things work out soon, and keep your chin up.
2006-09-24 07:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by krissy_butterworth 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Things will improve for you. Its not always necessarily true that no one will love you if you dont love yourself. Im sure u have lots of good qualities to focus on. I used to get down too, quite badly so, in the past. I also suffer from anxiety too so know a little how ur feeling. One day u WILL meet a girl who will understand where u are coming from. It will just happen. Hang in there and get some support from your friends & family before ur psychiatrist gets back to you. Good luck! U wont always feel this way. Oh and this girl obviously likes you! Text her if u are too shy to talk! I kept on getting knocked down in the past and kept getting back up. You will do the same!
2006-09-24 05:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that when you find the right one, she'll like you for what you are and not what you think you are.
My self esteem was really low at one point too. I stayed with my abusive husband because I didn't think anyone else would want me. I was soo down I got into drugs and things. I hit rock bottom.
My life only turned around when I realized it doesn't matter what anybody else thought about me. I did what makes me happy and found that I actually was happy again, on my own. If some guy didn't want me, so be it. You have to move on. Eventually you will find your one, but you have to actually let yourself find out what's out there and you can't be afraid of failure. Life is too short to be shut in hiding. When I finally sort of ran face first into the love of my life, later, I wasn't too scared any more to try. And now because of that, my life is wonderful. I have my man who loves and respects me, a beautiful baby girl (3yr) and my life is now where I want to be. Away from all the negativity and drugs.
That's great for me, considering I never thought I would've made it out of my slump. I went through hell and back. But I did it.
And YOU will too. But YOU are the one to do it...
2006-09-24 06:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i guess you need to concentrate on making friends rather than dating, it's always easier when you aren't actually looking. try and concentrate on widening your social circle. to build up confidence why not try a day centre to practice talking to people, then think about doing something you might enjoy like an evening course. it's an uphill struggle when you want to do this, but it'll be easier if you take small steps and build up your confidence. people who don't have problems with anxiety or depression generally can find real difficulties in using dating sites, be a bit kinder to yourself. good luck, there will be someone out there for you...
2006-09-26 10:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by molly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
reply to the text, go meet them and guess what you might feel good, if you AREN'T GOING TO DO THIS STOP LEADING THEM ON YOUR NOT DATING let them try contacting people that will respond, they may be feeling terrible because they got all their courage up to respond to you and have had NO REPLY how does that make THEM FEEL - remember your going to these sites the least they deserve is a response even if it is an apology for getting thier hopes up
2006-09-24 07:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by mini the prophet of fubar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh ****..i got me some guys too on my msngr list....maybe one of them is you...i suffer in the same thing...i'm 21 sharing bills for our house w/ my parents..to be continued...
2006-09-24 05:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
dude you're probably fine - remember there is someone for everyone!
2006-09-24 05:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by mesun1408 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
COMMIT SUICIDE. HANG YOURSELF. ANYTHING!!!!!! JUST STOP YOUR BLABBERING
2006-09-24 05:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 11⤋