Whenever I come home, I go to this church I don't like with her just to honor her because she feels lonely if I don't go. So how do I get myself to go even though all the bad memories and hurts of those people's judgements come back whenever I go there? I'm a Christian though and I go to other churches.
2006-09-24 05:36:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Think of it like this: When you attend other churches to learn, grow and deepen your faith and devotion to God. Coming to church you dislike with a noble intent of making your mom happy is like a Term Exam?
1. Exam for course of Forgiveness... if you have no one/memories that reminds you of pain, who is there to forgive?
2. Exam of Letting of the Past to move on to a bright future?
3. Exam of Patience? Course for sure they will irk your patience and try to make you impatient...
....so... this is your chance to put everything your pastor/priest has shared with you into real action practice and not just a logical concept. Christianity is not just about feeling good and praying and singing songs, it is ALSO Strengthening your Love, Forgiveness and Patience with others... just as Christ was... to be a Christian is to be Christ-like.
p/s: It is so sweet of you to put your aversions aside just to please your mom... your mom is a very lucky woman. Good for you!
p/s2: In the bible it says if you cannot honor your father that is on earth whom you can see, how can you honor your father whois in heaven whom you cannot see. ( I assume this applies to mothers as well ) Being selfish and self-centred about only ourselves and Our well being and Our spiritual progress without regard for the one whom raised you... do you really think the Lord would bless such a person? Vanity is such a subtle flaw in us all
2006-09-24 05:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sheena 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's great that you honor your mother in a sacrificial way. But after that it sounds like you need to be healed of emotional scarring so that you can attend a church with her without feeling distressed about it. If you have access to Biblical/Christian counseling you should take advantage of it.
It could be that you are keeping people in unforgiveness which really only harms you. It could be that you have trouble seeing yourself through God's eyes and are haunted by lies that you have at least partially accepted that were told to you in the past. At most, going to a church you don't particularly like should be boring, not painful or distressing.
2006-09-24 21:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, going to a Church means; you are going to meet God, know about Him and His word for mankind. Just the courage to pass through those doors into the church is a big deal for you as you may sound. And then sitting there and be part of the congregation. You are a strong guy! Your heart will change little by little. You are doing this person and yourself a big favor.
Whatever church it is, you represent Jesus in there. The power!
2006-09-24 12:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ciriel M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Writes like you were wounded in the church. Also, writes like you aren't forgiving others for their judgments. Also writes like you were falsely judged.
I have been there. Actually God has delivered me 100% from those wounds. Sometimes Christians (who we love) have cursed us because they spoke a slander & believed it. I did forgive & thought I was over it. But when I prayed with other sisters in Christ about past hurts it came before my face loud & clear. Here I thought I was over it. So, I just visioned a boomerang dipped in God's love returned to sender. It left me for good, & I don't know what the hurt feels like. So it was a curse that was causing the pain.
Also forgiving means forgetting. Not bringing it up in one's mind. Jesus forgave us & forgot our sins, so we need to be like Him toward others.
Also, don't go to the church if it isn't a Christian church. The truth sets free. Also true Christian churchs are founded on Jesus Christ & the apostles. Salvation (eternal life) is free & inherited when one is born of God through heart faith. The difference is Grace. All others is works & works can't save us because even one sin will prevent us from going to heaven. So our sins need to be covered by the precious Blood of Jesus Christ.
2006-09-24 12:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by t_a_m_i_l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to have a reason to go! I love to pray but I have a problem with the lack of equality between men and woman of my faith! As a feminist I have conflicts so I usually try to focus on the positive when I do attend but sometimes I just give up and meditate and pray alone!
2006-09-24 12:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better question is why does she go to a church where she is feeling lonely? Perhaps SHE should seek a church with a more friendly community?
2006-09-24 12:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by mom3kids&adog 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem, after talking with the Lord a few times about it He laid it on me like this, "Forget about the others, forget about your sins, just focus on me, look straight at me, and I will show you your sins and I will lead you to greater things that they will see." I still go to that church and I am growing spiritually faster than they are. You don't go to church for everyone else to like you, you go to worship the Lord. Worship Him and they will find themselves wondering what have you got that they haven't got.
2006-09-24 12:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go! If you do relent and decide to try it one more time, be sure to sit in a place where you can exit easily.
I'm speaking from the voice of experience!!! I had to sit through an hour of "hell's fire and damnation!" Why does anyone convert to such a vicious religion?
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2006-09-24 12:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hatikvah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you explain that to her and find a church you both are comfortable in? If God is leading you to go to that church you rely on Him to help you deal with it, but if God is leading you somewhere else than go.
We go to Church to worship God.
2006-09-24 12:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by shepherd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we go to church from yhe guilt or from fear or to please somebody else or to please got or pastor or from the tradition in my culture they said if u didn't go to the church u didn't know what the day is to day.takt the break from the church and u go slightly forward if u don't like something give the rest for while as speaking of i like to go to the church watch women dress up and fresh smelling nice perfumes and they were turning me on those beatiful godesses that what i call fun of course it was in the name of god with good intension bless u with love
2006-09-24 12:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋