i was in labour for 12 hours and i had the funeral 3 weeks ago.is it normal that i am feeling so hurt as i feel like i am being stupid for not moving on plus work is giving me a hard time and things are not working with me and my partner?.
2006-09-24 05:32:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know how you feel I had a stillborn at 9 months. It is VERY normal to feel hurt and low. Hun all you can do is pray to help yo through this. this is the TOUGHEST time in your life tat you EVER have to deal with is a loss of a child. You Will learn how to deal with it although the baby will NEVER b far from your mind I KNOW it has been sense 97 when my son was born.
2006-09-24 08:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I had a miscarriage at 18 weeks and I also had a funeral for my daughter. You are not being stupid, it takes time to heal and the hurt never completely goes away. As time goes by, it lessens but even after 12 yrs I still miss my baby. My faith in God is the only thing that got me through it and eventually I went on to have more children. You will heal but in the meantime, life does go on and you can't give up on living.
2006-09-24 06:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by blue-eyez76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lost a child. No matter when it happens, it is a catastrophic event in your life- you start to bond from the moment the pregnancy test is positive. For some reason, alot of people have trouble understanding that. To expect you to finish grieving after 3 weeks is inconceivable. It is also normal for a loss like yours to put an incredible strain on your relationship with your partner. Please consider going to grief counseling or joining a support group for women who have had similar losses. It is going to take time for you to heal. You should also talk to your OB about the feelings you are experiencing- you are at high risk for post-partum depression. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hang in there- it will take time, but eventually it won't hurt quite so much.
2006-09-24 05:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by abcd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage in Dec while i become 12 weeks pregnant. I have been given pregnant back in March. i'm just about 12 weeks now and the toddler has a sturdy heartbeat. there is no longer an bigger probability of miscarriage when you have already had a million miscarriage. the probabilities bypass up in case you have had 3 or 4 miscarriages. you would be super. attempt to no longer rigidity it too lots...i be attentive to that is hard. i become freaking out each and each of how till i heard the heart beat. I nonetheless get worried especially situations. you would be super. sturdy success!
2016-10-17 21:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by dampier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like LynnK said, you have suffered a tremendous loss. And recently, at that. You have had your life changed and it is hard to grasp onto that.
I am terribly sorry for your loss. Could you look into grief support groups in your area for miscarriages/stillbirths of this type.
Once again, my heart breaks for you. Give yourself time. You need to grieve. Try to talk to your partner. Remember, he suffered a loss as well.
2006-09-24 05:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by pouncermom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have suffered a tremendous loss. The death of a child, no matter what age, is devastating. Go to your doctor and request a referral to a good grief counselor. What you're going through is perfectly normal and you need a skilled person to help you with it.
2006-09-24 05:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need someone to help you through this. and your partner has had as great a loss as you. what you are going through is normal. try to get help through counseling.
there are also groups that deal with specific traumas. ie... cancer, deformities, or the loss of a child. your doctor or local hospital may be able to help you get in contact with one of these groups.
i'm so sorry for your loss.
kat,
2006-09-24 05:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋