He is nice, everybody seems to like him. It just that there is not enough passion. He said he loves me all the time, but there is no caressing, cuddling, or even french-kissing. We've been together for 10 months. Sex is just going to the point. No foreplay whatsoever.
2006-09-24 05:08:38 · 16 answers · asked by KoKo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no need to be in this relationship if it lacks what you really crave for. Have you tried telling him any of this??? If not why don't you try talking with him first and telling him how you feel about this before you decide to leave. Some things like this can be worked on and they can be helped. You will feel a lot better knowing you have tried everything to make it work before you do something drastic by breaking up with him first. If things are still the same after trying with him then I would consider going on with my life elsewhere. As a woman I know how much you are craving that warmth, and passion from your man. When it's not there you don't feel so important. You want to feel special with him and it's not there. Talk to him and tell him what your telling us. Being upfront and honest is the best way to go with this. Atleast he will know either way.
2006-09-24 05:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would break up with him. Dating and bfs etc is a way to find a mate that could be a lifelong partner. Love is all about YOUR needs being met....and he's not meeting one of the most important aspects...so it will reflect upon other areas of your relationship.
You've found out what you DONT want in a mate...and life is all about lessons. Everyone elses feelings about him dont matter because they are not intimate with him. Also...what one finds good sex is different from person to person.
I would say...if you are madly inlove but feel the sex is bad...you should take matters into your own hands and TELL him what you want from him.....he may think you like what he does so keeps doing the same thing. If, after you have expressed your needs, he stays the same...then take the hint that he doesnt care enough (saying the love word doesnt mean anything unless its backed up by actions).
2006-09-24 05:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...do you actually love him and if you do, then is your love for him more important to you than sex. One thing you might try is to tell him that you want to cuddle and kiss or whatever. If he loves you in return then he will truly make a conscious effort. On the other hand maybe he's just no tone of those people that likes showing affection. It all depends on what is important to you.
2006-09-24 05:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try a little gentle 'educating'. Initiate affection. When he does something you like, tell him. In this way he can learn which behaviors you like and what makes you turned on. Men respond surprisingly well to behavioral conditioning when you take the approach of praising good behavior, and ignoring bad behavior.
If that doesn't work, feel no shame in ending things with him so you can find someone who knocks your socks off!!!
2006-09-24 05:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by norberta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I was just looking for sex than yes I would break up with him.Cause i'm waisting my time with him if their are other guys out their who can satisfy me. But if I just wanted a boyfriend who loves me for who I'm am than I would not leave him. I would just bring the freak that's inside of him out. If I want to cuddle, french-kiss I won't wait on him to do it I'll start it off myself.
2006-09-24 05:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by Redbuddafly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Koko, I looking for people around the world to talk by skype in order to achieve a good friendly relationship and improve my english, I know that you are from Indonesia and wasn´t easy for you to learn english. If you are interested, please contact me by email.
About your question, just GO AWAY!!. I´m from Argentina, but I leave in Brazil.
2006-09-26 02:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you opened up yourself and talked to him about your expectation and desire of sex between you and him?
You should let him know and give him a chance to try at least, before you say quitting. That's only fair to him and to yourself.
You don't want to make a quick decision, do you?
2006-09-24 05:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That wasn't your G spot. it could, although, have been your cervix. you may bypass see a Dr ASAP! you may in no way be in that lots discomfort with the aid of intercourse & you may no longer be waiting to head something around like that.
2016-10-17 21:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by dampier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is good in every other way, then I would make an effort to get him to know what it is you prefer sex-wise. Because, to be honest, if the sex isnt good, it only leads to problems later.
2006-09-24 05:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah get rid of him now so you do not end up in a marriage with a husband that isn't sexually satisfying.. Or talk to him about it tell him what he is doing wrong and see if he corrects the problem
2006-09-24 05:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋