Me and my boyfriend been going out, and every time when i am around him he looks at other ladys and then say something to me about it, and i really hate it cause it feels like he don't want me in his life, anymore. sometimes i see him stare at girls with short skirts, he saids wow look at that ***, and it get's me mad, i just don't understand guys anymore. so plz help me solve this, thanks
jaimie
2006-09-24 05:08:29 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Exactly what he is, a BOY> A real man would pay attention to his lady. Like me...I never look at anybody else when I have a lady. It's rude and disrespectful.
2006-09-24 05:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by ansem7 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a difference between looking and acting/commenting. I always say, it's natural to look when something is appealing. Just how hard you look is one thing for me, if my boyfriend were to turn right around while walking with me I wouldn't like that. He can look while respecting me at the same time. Not making any passes at the other party etc. Secondly, comments of any kind are uncalled for. Tell him how it makes you feel, and otherwise just know that someday you can be with someone different that would never want to cause you pain or not make you feel like you are the hottest person in the world to them. Also, depending on age.......young or immature/insecure people do this sort of thing.good luck!
2006-09-24 05:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares about you, if he is really willing to be devoted to just you, then he will be willing to stop making those comments. Being in a relationship isn't about having one person always available while you scope others!! He should be so happy to have you as a girlfriend that he thinks you're the only girl in the world while you're together! Tell him that his comments hurt your feelings. If he's really the right one for you, he'll accept this and stop. Remember how great you are and how lucky he is to have you and know that if he's not willing to consider your feelings, he probably isn't the right one for you. You deserve someone who cares enough to keep the focus on you!
2006-09-24 06:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bear with me on this. Just because you are in love with someone doesn't mean all others disappear from your view. Everyone still looks. But he doesn't have to do it in front of you!!! Tell him you respect the fact that his eyes may see something from time to time but to not be so obvious about it in front of you and what's more DON'T COMMENT ON IT!!! Tell him you see guys that catch your interest and COULD comment on them to him but you don't. OUT OF RESPECT FOR HIM!!! Ask him to give you the same respect or you will give him an earful the next time you see a hot guy.
2006-09-24 05:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by BLANK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jaime.....I'm married and I see my husband looking as well. I asked him some time ago....and we even had a discussion on it, as to why he looked at other women. He says it's natural. Just because he looks at the menu, doesn't mean he wants to order off of it. He knows what he has :) My hubby is 59 & I'm 47. If you're bf is looking, he knows that he can get a rise out of you and he likes that. Try being nochalant.
2006-09-24 05:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound strange, but your bf saying these things could mean that he really does care about you, and is willing to be open with you. It is the guys who supposedly stop noticing hot girls when they begin to date you that you have to look out for. I've always commented on hot guys and girl even whe I'm dating a person. It doesn't mean I'm going to cheat on the person, because I've never cheated a day in my life on a relationship, it just means that I want my bf or gf to feel open enough to share their emotions towards other people with me just as I do with them.
2006-09-24 05:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People naturally look at others, but he's going a bit far.
Looks like prime dumping material.
He's totally taking you for granted.
It might hurt, but I really think you're going to have to let this guy go. A bit of pain now for peace of mind later.
2006-09-24 05:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think all guys have it in them to look at other girls, but to do it in front of you and even make comments about it... perhaps he thinks you're okay with it because you haven't said anything.
Let him know how it makes you feel when he does that. If things don't change, maybe it's best you reconsider things with him.
2006-09-24 05:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is looking at other people then there is a good chance that it means that he is not going to remain loyal. Talk to him about it and tell him how this makes you feel. If he truly loves you then he will take your opinions to heart and stop looking at other women.
2006-09-24 05:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because your favourite flower is a rose it doesnt mean you never appreciate the beauty or smell of any other flowers...
just tell him to think his comments to himself if they offend you...you probably get annoyed and give him a lot of attention when he does this which is probably what he's looking for as he's probably very insecure and does this to get negative/jealous reassurance from you that lets him know you want him for yourself,lol(whoever said woman was a complicated creature HAD to be a man,haha)...dont tell me youve never admired another man before???
2006-09-24 05:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋