All it means is that you haven't had sex yet??? Big friggin deal ya know? At some point your going to so why is it such a big deal to hold on to it? It's like not knowing how to drive, at some point your going to learn. I'd like some intelligent answers please.
2006-09-24 05:06:04 · 26 answers · asked by DialM4Speed 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its because guys like virgins better then girls who had sex. Less risk of getting STD's and much more of a challenge.
2006-09-24 05:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Love your question. You nailed it with your analogy. First I've noticed that this "virginity as gift" mentality is mostly something that is ascribed to how women should feel about their virginity. Men are socialized that virginity is something they need to "get rid of" and "lose" ASAP LOL. My theory about this is that because many societies including North American society have tried both subtle and overt ways to control female sexuality (either by suppressing it all together or turning it into something that has nothing to do with the female herself, that simply makes her an objectified tool to be ogled then used by males and discarded.), placing a high value on virginity serves two purposes. It controls the female's sexuality so she can't have sex for fear of giving away her "gift" and it gives some man an ego trip when he gets to be "her first". Never mind the fact that she may be totally ignorant of sex or think that a penis is ugly, scary and not at all sexy. Never mind the fact that she may have no clue as to what stimulation she needs to have an orgasm or how to give a man one. So no there is not any special value in it other than patriarchy found a new way to control women and give themselves a extra boost of ego at the same time.
2006-09-24 12:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Book Diva 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's religion. Religion is to blame for a lot of things, but this goes to the "No sex before marriage" thing. Why would anyone abide by this? Say you don't have any sexual contact with your partner till you are married. Now you are married and you find out that your partner is horrible in bed, or has a completely different style, or you just don't like they way that they do it. Now what? Your stuck.
A wise man I once new gave me the best advice I have ever received. He said "There are three things you should do before you even talk about getting married. One: Don't show her your bank account. This way you will know that she wants you for you, and not for your money. Two: Meet her mother. This way you will know what she will look like if you stay together for a long time. And Three: Have sex with each other. This way you will know that you enjoy doing it with each other."
2006-09-24 12:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because if you have a bad experience the first time- it can have a negative impact on the rest of your life- and us women are raised to believe that it is- and not to mention that you should know that is a stepping stone from childhood to adult hood that requires losing some innocence. The younger a person is that engages in sex- the less respect they have for it- besides, you have to be pretty responible when "doing it"- and the last time I checked most children arent anywhere close to it. Here in america, where puritain values are still taught by the majority- it's a inherited stigma
2006-09-24 12:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people in the UK who lose their virginity before the age of 16 regret it for the rest of their lives. Pretty shitty to regret something for the rest of your life.
I guess you only have sex for the first time once, so better make it a good one. I think it's a lot to do with the uknown of sex. There are lots of people who think it isn't a big deal. More perhaps the pressure from other older people who give the benefit of thier experience and find it's been better fro them in a certain way.
2006-09-24 12:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never thought of it as something sacred. Chances are it's gonna go sometime. It doesn't do you any good to hang on to it. But it really doesn't matter when you lose it either. Your still the same person. As for as waiting for the right person, I would still be waiting. I really don't think there is a right person. And how will I know if he is right? I thought my ex husband was the right one. I was wrong there. I think it would be worse to never have sex than to wait around hoping the right one would come your way.
And I don't mean have sex with everyone that looks your way either.
2006-09-24 12:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by danadeville 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's about perception and the idea of virginity being special is grounded in history. And even more importantly it's grounded in religious history. To understand how significant virginity is in connection w/religion you have to look no further than the conception of Jesus. So virginity has been identified w/purity and ppl think virgins are good ppl as well. In today's society the concept of virginity doesn't hold the same appeal, but non-the-less it's still considered to be something sacred......
2006-09-24 12:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because it IS a gift. You can only lose your virginity ONCE. It should be lost to someone you love and who loves you. Not some one night stand that you will never see again. My husband and I both saved ourselves for marriage and have no regrets. I see so many people on here saying their partner has had multiple partners, they are afraid of STD's, worried that he/she is thinking of an ex. My husband and I don't have those issues since we have only ever been with each other. It IS a personal choice and as for me and my life, I am glad I made it.
2006-09-24 12:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Virginity SHOULD be held on to for as long as possible. For moral and practical reasons.
I shall not elaborate on the moral reasons which I think everybody should know by now.
Practical reasons involve risk of pregnancy, STDs, having the guy dump the girl after sex etc.
2006-09-24 12:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To some people, myself included, sex is a tremendous decision that must be done at the right time and with the right person. It is a special gift that was originally meant to be the physical means of telling someone that you love them deeply and want to be with them. According to the Bible, when you make love, you are becoming one in flesh with your partner, and I think that is a huge decision in anyones life.
2006-09-24 12:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I see it as that, that is why I'm savng my virginity till marriage because whoever I marry has to be a virgin too because I feel that if you wait and save it inthe end you'll be better of you and yor partner/ husband won't have to worry if he or she has an std or hiv or something. I feel that holding on to your virginity tells people that you have self control and you declined temptation, I'd rather save it the waste it on people that I really don't love and never will.
2006-09-24 12:23:03 · answer #11 · answered by amerine09 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋