i've been having arguements with my parents the past couple of days.they say i have absolutly no friends at all because i never invite them over and theyre just blaming themselves.i have 2 twin brothers that i love and care about but they can get really annoying though and so its embarrassing to even be around them.my folks dont believe in me and they think its a lie.i do intend to lie to them so its wonder why they dont believe in me......................i need major help to gain the trust back to my own mom and dad......HELP!
2006-09-24 04:45:09 · 17 answers · asked by firemansdaughter11 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i also got a new boyfriend about a month ago and im flipin crazy about him!!my dad says that ever since he asked me out that my life was centered around only him.i told dad that my life wasnt centered around him but (yet again)he doesnt believe in me.he says that im only 13 years old and that i shouldnt get to deep into this relationship or it mite screw up my life,my hopes,and my dreams.i want my dad to believe in me!!
2006-09-24 04:49:52 · update #1
Gaining back the trust of your parents is a process. If you have proved that they can not trust you, now you should work on that they can trust you. That needs time.
Talk to them about that, and tell them that you wil do your best. Communication is always a good thing. Give them some time, and you will be fine. Try not to dissapoint them though. Even if you did something wrong, be honest.
Good luck!
2006-09-24 04:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by Bloed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they ever say I love you???? cause if they don't you know that they're going to regret it because we're all going to die some day and when you die and they see what has happened, they're going to feel really bad about how they treated you and what they said about or to you. So just invite some of your friends over to your house and have a good time and show your parents that your not embarrassing and that you love them and care about them. It'll do you good. Trust me. I have an older sister that's 13 and no one trusts her because she steals my clothes. So if they think that you can't be trusted tell them to think again. There are alot of people who can not be trusted at all. And my step sister is one of them. So cheer up. I'm only 11 and sometimes I can't even be trusted by my parents to. So your not the only one. K??? hope your life is full of good memories.
2006-09-24 12:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by McKenna W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop lying to your parents. Do the normal teenage thing and invite your friends over. Yes, brothers can be annoying, but you have to learn to deal with it. Your friends will understand. Most of them have annoying siblings as well. And your dad is right that your life shouldn't be centered around your boyfriend. Show him that you are still keeping up with your studies and have other friends.
2006-09-24 12:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your little brothers embarrass you a bit? So only invite your closest friends...they should understand when you have to deal with little brothers. And if you keep inviting people over they may settle down and leave you alone.
Why do you intend to lie to your parents? Why do you have a boyfriend at age 13? That is just crazy....you are way too young to date much less have a steady guy....you should be happy your parents let you do as much as you do....
2006-09-24 11:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So....basically, you are saying that everyone elses family is NOT embarrassing? I assume you go to friends houses...and accept them as is. BUT as for bringing them home...its a no-no because yours is different and embarrassing for you?
I have a 17 year old daughter....she was 13 once. And she acted exactly the same way as you are. AND its ok to feel that way....some parents are more sociable than others...and sometimes you dont have a space in the house to hole up and talk by yourselves.
The thing my daughter did, to lessen my concerns, was....to ask for a b/day party at home and invite all her friends over. To have bf/gfs come to the house and say hi to me before they went out. I didnt need to know them and perform for them BUT to trust I needed phone numbers, to know where they were going, what time they would be home and to meet them...even if only for a moment.
So dont lie, dont hide, give phone numbers and be mature about your feelings. You may want to ask yourself why its ok for others to have bros/sisters/parents and you are accepting BUT its not ok for you to be less (in your eyes) perfect.
After my daughter got over her phobia of family...she was astonished at how many of her friends thought we were great and how they wished they had a younger bro/sister and mum like me. The love was there in abundance but she couldnt see it until her friends acknowledged it.
So, stop thinking that any other kids have better parents because your are the best for YOU. Telling them that and making them feel wanted, will make them realise that you are not drifting away from them. They raised you and love you.....transitioning to maturity is hard for you and them, they worry about if they dont set boundaries you will get lost in your own world...so allow them to take care and help you through that process.
If you were an adult, parenting you.....what would you like to see happen?
2006-09-24 12:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever since I was 11 years old it has been hard for me to mesh the friends I have made with my family. Sometimes I feel like I am two different people and when I gather the two groups together I don't know what they will think of me. I don't want my friends to view me as a Mama's girl or a bratty little sister. I also realize I am who I am and those who love me should love all of me. I have found brief introductions to be best and gradually increase the time spent with family and friends together so that it is easier on me.
Just explain to your parents that it is not their issue, that it is yours and that you will try to improve on it but that they need to give you time to work on it. Then you should try to introduce them to one or two of your friends, you can ask them to be there without your brothers so that you are not overwhelmed. Its not so bad, just tell them you will work on it.
2006-09-24 11:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Lord Almighty LOL
tell your dad from a girl that started to date guys at age 13 herself LOL sure I have had my heart broken but then after time my heart heals and I move on no way would I let one guy ruin it all for me never ever ever so on that note be strong and reassure your dad that u will continue to move on even if this guy doesn't work out
HUGS
2006-09-24 12:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out of the house and make some friends --
Benefits:
1. You wont have to worry about the annoying twins then,
2. You wont have to make your parents see your point of view then,
... and above all
3. By make friends, you would do exactly what your parents want... you will certainly win back their confidence.
Good luck @};-
2006-09-24 11:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to slow down,parents are going to worry about their children. Maybe if you invited some of your friends over they would feel better about it. Even if your brothers are annoying. I'm sure your friends have dealt with annoying siblings before.
2006-09-24 11:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite you're friends over. find some way to ditch your brothers and make a big fuss over your parents meeting your friends, that should make them feel better
2006-09-24 11:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋