Can you honestly say, if u have had a good or bad childhood?

Question

I always say i had a terrible chilhood but when i look back on it, it wasnt all bad, there were a few rare good times in there too. but when i hear what some peoples childhoods are like it makes me think, at least mine wasnt that bad! I do feel that what happens in ure childhood stays with you forever, what do you think?

Answer 1

I can honestly say I had a horrible childhood, my father was a psychopath and very manipulative, he thought nothing of hitting us with the buckle of his big leather belt, mom was terrified of him too and the only time we were shown any love was when he was out of the house and we got our mom to ourselves, she was a beautiful wonderful woman and I so wish she had had the courage to walk away from him, it was so different in those days though, the one good thing that came out of it was that I refuse to be a victim of my childhood and just get on with my life, I can't change what happened but I can make sure it never happens again to any of the kids I know, I will protect them with my life.

Answer 2

Yes, of course it stays with you forever, but it's up to you if you let it ruin your life. You shouldn't. Every time you find yourself behaving in a way that is detrimental, stop. You can start over and not listen to those voices of the past.

You know that you are a worthwhile human being, so don't let your past dictate your future. Yes, it was bad, but it's over. Put it on a shelf and leave it there. You are the master of your own destiny and you can start to re-invent yourself and be the person you want to be.

There's a saying, act the way you want to be and soon you'll be the way you act.

Become that person you KNOW you are and can be. Allow yourself to be happy. Then you can turn around and stick your tongue out at the past and say hey, I've beat this and you're not going to ruin the good thing I have now.

Of course it will come out and bite you in the azz every now and again, but you have control of your life now.

Often it's the bad memories that stick with us too, overshadowing the good. Just remember that your parents did the best they could with what they had and that they were human too.

If you're parents now, you get to "re-live" your past (childhood) and fix all those wrongs with your own kids by not making the same mistakes. Stop yourself when you hear yourself sounding like your parents and be a friend to your child, now and always. They will bring you great joy throughout your life if you do and you will soon forget about the past as you have a wonderful present to live right now.

I feel so sorry for many people raised in broken homes or troubled homes. No child should have to have it so bad. Take the time to heal yourself. Maybe nobody ever showed you that you are good inside and deserve to be loved but you do. Don't make the same mistakes and destroy yourself. It's hard, but you have to believe in yourself, forgive yourself and most importantly love yourself. Then get out there and create the life you want and deserve. It's all out there for the taking, it really is. Just believe it and get out there and start living. Doesn't matter what you do, life will unfold for you. Not saying it will be easy but in the end you'll find it was all worthwhile as it made you the person you were meant to be.

I was always told I was stupid. Stupid, stupid, stupid! I was far from it. But the scars still remain. And of course we were seen and not heard. Fed and shoved out of the way and then given a bunch of rules to pretty well chain you down in shackles, (metaphorically!) and it was hard...made a lot of mistakes...was very foolish and gullible...but I built strength and character along the way and had more drive than I knew what to do with but it all came in handy and I know I am where I am meant to be. It was tough but life is fair to everyone...it breaks all our hearts...but in doing so, it shows us what really matters.

Answer 3

I agree, it stays with you and is what makes you who you are right now.
When I was growing up I thought it wasn't a bad life. There were always some who I was jealous of, and there always will be. But in hindsight.....I had it a whole lot better than some did.
There was no abuse in our household, no crime, no unreasonable rules ( I can see that now) . The more people I come to know as go through my life, the more gratefull I am of the childhood I had.

Answer 4

Childhood isn't always about good times. Look at those people raised during the depresion. they were considered to have had a good childhood if they had food. What about those Jewish children during WWll thiers really sucked. Get over it ,yours I'm sure no matter how bad you think it was , was not bad.

Answer 5

I've had a good childhood. I played with my friends, all kind of games, I prepared kites, played football, I had a lot dolls, I lived in a flat with a playground. I used to go to the beach everyday during the summer holidays.
I'm from Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

Answer 6

i had a very bad chidhood and yes mines stayed with me and yes i remember some good times too but everyone has their own way of dealing with things i now have three children and because of the childhood i had i was very protective of them i made sure they didnt go through what i had went through and my daughter is 16 now and thinks her life is worse than anyones but its not so its normal for people to think the way u do as long as we relize that others could have it bad also then were not selfish

Answer 7

I think I had an awesome childhood. Sure there's the things I'd like to forget but they're few and far between.

Answer 8

Looking back, my childhood was great. I was never molested(thank God), I have2 parents who loved me even though they were divorced, grew up in a decent suburb and just overall enjoyed being a kid. I still have great friends since elementary school. I agree, having a f****** up childhood stays with you forever so thank your parents if you were one of the fortunate ones!

Answer 9

i had a good childhood except when my father used to hit my mum i only saw it once in the 10 yrs i was living with them both.i have a younger brother and sister we moved around alot as my father was in the army so i was never in a place long enough to make proper friends.My mother did used to say that my father and her went to buy a pram for me when i was a baby but my father ended buying a expensive camera (he likes his gadgets)he was very strict with my mum cant really remember my father ever hittin me only once when i said the f word which was understandable but always remember my mother being around all the time.My mother left my father in 1989 we then moved back to wales as we were in germany at the time my mother had to drag us around the airport,train stations untill we got to wales.My mum was alright we did used to get a smack if we were naughty but that was it she could never afford expensive things for us like kids have today.I think shes the best mum in the world for bringing us up on her own.

Answer 10

i had it bad enough but im learning from it, im 20 and my mother is dead 12 years today, and when i was growing up my father battled with alocholism, but because i was a child i didnt know of it untill i was a teenager, so up until i was 14 i was oblivious to it all, i have my hard days and i have my easy days, i just hope i can grow into a nice person and not carry alcoholism with me!!!!! and u are right there is ALWAYS someone having it harder