me & broke ex boyfriend 3 years ago..unfortunately he gave up on me because we had a problem with his family..we just got back being friends & everything is just goin' fine..he has his own life, i have mine..however, knowing that he now has a girlfriend & that he is happy would sometimes still makes me feel bad & feel hurt..i am wondering if it is because i still love him or is it because of my ego? could it be that i just cannot accept the fact that he is happy & that i'm not? that i a should be the one who's happy because i was the one left behind but i'm not? that i am supposed to be the one who's happy coz i deserve to after all that i've been through but i'm not? help..i'm somehow confused..
2006-09-24 04:33:05 · 5 answers · asked by -= Qtee =- 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like it's just your ego that's being hurt.
You were doing ok before he came back into your life with his new girlfriend... but now you're unhappy.
The situation is undoubtedly making you feel like he thinks you're not good enough for him... rejection from him (as a girlfriend) is bruising the ego.
I wish oceans of happiness for you.
2006-09-24 04:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First.... never wait for someone else to make you happy. You're the only one who can find happiness within yourself. When you manage that, then someone else can add to your happiness.
Second.... You're probably remembering the good times and wondering where it could have gone if there had not been issues with his family. It's natural to feel "pains of regret" in a situation like this. Obviously you thought enough of him to rebuild your friendship but did you do it with hopes of getting back together with him or innocently enough? Only you can answer those questions.
Step back from the situation and continue with your life. Be honest with yourself about your needs and your feelings.
Try keeping a journal where your just write in it. Don't think about what you're writing and resist the urge to read what you're writing. Don't worry about spelling, grammar or punctuation. Just let yourself go. Take a week or more, then go back and read what you've written. You may surprise yourself with what you find out about yourself... and what you're really thinking.
2006-09-24 04:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not because you love him really. Alot of it has to do with time and distance and the fact that you have too much of one and not enough of the other. Give yourself a break and go out. You don't need to hang around with ex's...they are in your past for a reason and most likely need to be left in the past.
2006-09-24 04:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH I THINK THAT YOU ARE STILL IN LOVE WITH HIM OR STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR HIM. AND YOU JUST REALIZED THAT YOU STILL DO DUE TO THE FACT THAT THERE IS ANOTHER GIRL, AND CANT HANDLE HIM BEING WITH SOMEONE ELSE.
2006-09-24 04:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by MIMI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, is your EGO !
You will find your match don't worry.
2006-09-24 04:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋