I got in a fight with my boyfriend last night. I was already upset at my mom when he called and i tried to talk to him about it and let's just say he was distracted... he kept talking to someone else in the room, so i hung up on him. Then i called his friend because i really needed to talk to someone and he was like "tell her i'm mad at her" and i was "whatever i don't care" and then i talked to his friend for a long time (his friend is my best friend for over 10 yrs.) Well after we talked my friend asked if i wanted to talk him and i was like ya if he wants to talk. Well my boyfriend said he'd call me back after the movie he was watching and then asked for the phone and just hung up on me. He never called. I was mad because i really needed to talk and he wasn't listening, but he's making me feel like i should apologize... Then he never called. I mean this shouldn't be THAT big of a deal right? i need advice on what to do? should i call? or wait for him to call?
2006-09-24 04:24:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you bf is in a snit. You can call him but if you do he will think you're apologizing. So if that's what you want him to think give him a call. Otherwise wait and let him call you. Or tall to the friend tell see what he has to say. Basically your boyfriend was being a jerk. But you probably weren't helping by stirring up DRAMA. You should both cool off. But if he treats you like that again rethink you relationship
2006-09-24 04:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by pgiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this happen often? If it does and the two of you are not seeing eye to eye, and you guys are not even living together. Just imagine how it will be if the two of you decide to live together. I think that it would be best for the both of you to just go your separate ways. You don't owe him anything, just like he does not owe you. You should just find someone that is interested and is also willing to listen to you, while you are explaining your problems or only having a conversation with him. and you should do the same for him as well. Compatibility is one of the best things to have in a relationship. If you do not have that, then it is hard for the relationship to go any farther.
Good Luck!!!!!
2006-09-24 11:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is a bit selfish, which we all are a bit. But in this case, if he really cared about you he would have taken a few minutes to be there for you. If he isn't willing to sacrifice a little of his time for you when you need him, then don't bother calling him. Wait for him to call you. And when he tries to make it your fault, don't you go and apologize for looking to him for support. Let him know that if you can't go to him with problems then you won't go to him for anything. He can find someone else to treat this way.
2006-09-24 11:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by producer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys has got the habit of not listening and it create a huge frustration with the ladies. Most probably he was distracted in some way. Call him up and state what you want. Make it clear that you expect him to listenwhen you want to talk to him. Conversation is two ways
2006-09-24 11:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he is just distracted...He probably doesn't know how to deal with your problems and figure that if he can avoid you then they will go away...He is probably more confused then you are and has no clue what to do with you. it is just a defense mechanism. Give him some space and let him work it out onhis own. He'll call you sooner or later. just don't get manic and bug him about it. It really isn't that big of a deal.
2006-09-24 11:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple fact about men..I am learning this too. Men pull away when they are stressed, we need to pull people closer. He could be passive aggressive. He knows you need to talk, and hes using that to control the situation by witholding from you. It comes from holding anger inside from a source...a controlling mom..etc.. I know its the hardest thing, but try to f in not call him. Time is the best thing for this...if you truly love him buy the book....Living with the Passive Aggressive man, Scott Wetzler. .Look to your best friend..
My best friend, I should have married him...biggest mistake I made. You may not be attracted to him now..but when the chips are down, hell be the one your thinking of. ..Make sense?
2006-09-24 11:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by oneIrishgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a day or two from the fight and then call him ... if he doesn't call you ...or better yet go see him
2006-09-24 11:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't mention how old you are or how old the boyfriend is.
my answer would definitely be influenced by your answers to these questions
2006-09-24 11:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by yapest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up.
2006-09-24 11:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋