Met a girl a month ago, we hung out for a bit, she said she wanted to do something with me, then i really started liking her, and she told me that she's involved with some other guy.i said i didn't know, so we just stayed as friends.Later we plan on going to different places but everytime she bails on me with bad reasons. Then she tells me she's being distant because she doesn't wana give me the wrong message.
Then she said that her and her relationship are over, but she's not ready to move on.then she says she really really likes me, she wants to stay friends and see where it goes.Then again she says i feel guilty because you're such an awesome guy, and i have no reason not to like you like that.Problem is that most of her friends are guys, and they are all very different from me, in style, looks, personality.
What annoys me is that she contradicts herself in everything, saying she likes me, then saying she doesn't know what she wants.should i talk 2 her n wat should i say?
2006-09-24 04:20:39 · 13 answers · asked by Uber-numb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
couple nights ago, i sighed at her, and she asked me what was wrong, i said nothing, theres somethin on my mind but i don know what it is. she kept askin me to tell her, i said i didnt know what it is, and that i needed to sleep on it and not do somethin stupid. then she tells me if i dont tell her she'll stop talkin to me, i told her if thats how much you care, then go ahead
I left and went to bed, she then emailed me and says of course she wouldnt stop talkin to me over something like that, and that i should give her a call. Then she messages me on the internet saying she's sorry, i say why, she says cuz i was mad at her. I told her i needa talk to her alone in person. She says alright i guess. I don really know what i wana tell her tho, i feel like i need to talk to her, but i don't know what to say. help me out.
2006-09-24 05:01:24 · update #1
or should i just ignore her for a few days, and see if she calls me, and if she doesn't i should just totally forget about her?
2006-09-24 06:36:05 · update #2
First, she may feel guilty about the time she spent with you while she was still involved. It's possible that she told her boyfriend what happened and that may be part of what called the dissolvement of their relationship.
Second, it's possible that she's not really sure what she needs or wants right now since she's just getting out of a relationship. You said she has a lot of male friends, maybe you're so different from her norm that she's a bit afraid of where it may go.
Give her some time. Talk with her but keep it light. Don't ask her out again for awhile or make her suggest that you two get together. I wouldn't close any other doors of opportunity you may have open at the moment since she may never come around. Good luck!
2006-09-24 04:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those girls that has no clue about what she wants and is probably a little selfish. Sounds like she isn't sure about her feeling towards you but is keeping you on a backburned just incase.
One thing not to do is call her. Let her do all the work, she should have to win you over if she decides that is what she wants. And, even if she does call don't make yourself so available. Never cancel any plans you have just to hang with her. Trust me you do not want to be that guy she can depend on to always be there to hang out when all of her other guy friends are busy. I am not saying to be a jerk, but just make sure you know and she realizes that YOU come first to yourself. Don't make sacrifices for someone who isn't willing to do the same for you.
2006-09-24 11:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by neon49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should still talk with her when you see her. But you should not call her, or start up a conversation with her. (Let her make the first move)! All that you need to do is say hello to her when you see her. Because it sounds to me like she is trying to play games with you, What you should do is just let her see that you are not as interested in her the way that she thinks that you are. Her ego is taking control, and making her believe that she has you wrapped around her little finger. You should just move on with your everyday life and not give her a first/second glance. When she sees that you are not as interested as she thought that you were, her attitude towards you will change completely!!!!!
Good Luck!
2006-09-24 12:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is very indecisive and it's taking a toll on your mental health. Remember you come first and a relationship should not take all this effort from you. There are so many other girls out there that probably would love to be with you, please don't waste your time with this girl. She is obviously not ready for a stable relationship and she's telling you this through her words. Sounds like she wants to hold on to you just in case. If that's how you like to be treated then fine, but if you value yourself you would just move on and enjoy other opportunities that may come your way. Love will come when your not looking for it...the extra effort will result in you being hurt when you find out she is with another guy...and just strung you along. She is using you to feed her ego, trust me I've been there...learn from my mistakes.
Billy
2006-09-24 11:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by billyboysblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy,i say move on.If she realizes that she really cares about you then let her come to you.I found that most girls have many "guy" friends,so don't let that bother you.Don't waste your time chasing or waiting for a girl who can't commit or decide what she wants.The real "Miss Right" might slip by while you're hoping for this one to be with you.Life is too short to be living in a dream world.Good luck pal.
2006-09-24 11:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by rokkyroller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she likes you, but is worried what will happen if you 2 go beyond being friends. Why dont you just start of being really good friends (but make it clear that, thats all you want right now) and just see where it goes.
2006-09-24 11:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by reaganaiken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical woman... You have to decide whether she is worth the hassle or not. Been there, done that...It was a hugh mistake and She wasn't worth it but you have to make your own decsion here. Take it day by day...it will work out either way..
2006-09-24 11:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Leave her alone. Can you imagine how confused she will be if she gets involved in a relationship? Find someone that knows what they want!
2006-09-24 11:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Cubanita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being kept on the side in case she needs some one . If thats ok with you then carry on. If its not tell her pee or get off the pot
2006-09-24 11:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she wants you as a friend and is afraid of loosing you,don't put any pressure on her about a relationshipand maybe someday it will evolve into just that
2006-09-24 11:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋