i need help!!!?

Question

Ok, here's what happened. Last night my boyfriend and I were talking, and there's this other guy I like a lil bit more than a friend. Well, when I asked him what he would do if I told him that I liked another guy, not being obvious about telling him and he told me, he would hit things really hard and then find a weapon and kill himself, cuz he loved me too much. Well, then I told him I liked someone else, he didnt talk to me for a minute, then I asked him if he was mad at me and he said "A DUH!!" and then he had me talk to his cousin while he went for a walk, he came back like, 10 minutes later. When he came back I asked him if he was still mad at me he said "i dont know" and we talk for a while then he wouldn't talk to me and he had agreed to call me, but I'm afraid he wont and I really need some advice for this situation.

Answer 1

maybe your bf is just trying to make you worried in the situation, guys are not that sensitive with the crush issues. who knows? he doesnt tell you he is crushing another girl. its just "like" not "love" so its okay, everybody does that in a while..haha.. with his point of killing himself maybe it was the first thing that came in his mind without reevaluating the situation . in his part of saying " i dont know" maybe he is not mad already because if he is then he would say yes in the first place,right? cheer up girl! you've just been honest with your boyfriend and its really nothing..liking is normal...but just to lighten things. jsut tell him that like is different from love. you wouldnt replace him with a guy who you just like in a moment its just infatuation! tell him he owns your heart hope i gave a helpfula advce =)

Answer 2

There's a little thing called "dating". It's a really simple concept... you go out with different people until you know what you want.

If you were serious about the guy you're with, you wouldn't have thought seriously about another guy. Looking and admiring is one thing but liking someone else is something entirely different.

I suggest that you get some maturity and stay out of a relationship until you do.

Answer 3

i will be honest here and tell you i didn't read past the weapons and kill himself part...my aunt had a boyfriend like this and he almost guilt-ed her into marrying him with these tactics she finally just left him because she realized he was just trying to control her with scare tactics.....and guess what *what a surprise* he didn't kill himself after all and now lives a couple of blocks from her and they even talk from time to time....i would lose this guy though...let him hit things or do whatever as long as he doesn't hurt you...i would talk to my mom or dad for advice on this one though i mean they should know what is going on (especially if your a teen/minor) believe it or not parents do know best and your b/f may need some psychiatric help whether you stay with him or not

Answer 4

Well heres my take on it. Its obvious you are fickle and not faithful to the guy you are with. Instead of messing with his head and his heart you should end the relationship. You don't deserve him if you're gonna give him scenarios like that and then have the nerve to ask if he is still mad. If he does call you back it surely means he cares about you. If you still want to pursue this other guy and be blind of your current boyfriend's compassion towards you then you need to be honest and make a decision who you want to be with. Don't mess with his head. You've already ruined his weekend as it is. Its chicks like you who make a guy want to leave the seat up after he pees.

Answer 5

Okay well first off i give you so much props for even being honest in this situation. If its just a little more than a friend anf you dont think it will evolve into anything more then stay with you boyfriend and if he loves you he will understand that crushes come and go. I hope everything works out okay, good luck!

Answer 6

Are you blond??? or just plain mean?, why you have to make this guy feel bad without a reason?If I were him I'd star looking for another girl because if you like another guy, and you tell me, it is because you are going to dump me. It doesn't matter what you say, the doubt is there to stay, It will never be the same. be in his shoes just for a minute and you'll understand

Answer 7

Well first off just calm down. I think it is really good that you told him, b/c it would be better to be honest and let him know than him finding out from someone else. But, you two really need to sit down and decide what you both think is the best for your relationship. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

well you should had ask him what happen that's not what he said he would do if ,you like some else what happen to the hitting thing real hard and all the other things he said he would do now tell him your mad. you had no clue that he was a liar

Answer 9

alittle more then a friend? Sounds like someones been cheating. Look dont prolong this. Make up your mind which one you want, either end it and move on with the new guy or make amends with your old one and leave the new one in the dust. Draging them along like this will do nothing.

Answer 10

Just tell him u were joking, to test him.
Then tell him that u have found that he loves u so much that even the thought of u getting away from him makes him INACTIVE....LIFELESS.
Tell him u wanted a life partner just like him....and tell him that girls do these kind of things to test their guys....whether they r truly in love with them or not.
Understand.
And plz.....next time.....even if u r in love with sumone else actually.....never ever tell ur BF before breaking up....or else u ll create a mess for urself.
Best of Luck!