I'm not a clingy girl. I don't think I could go out with a guy that doesn't give me at least some space. I don't feel that incessant need to call all the time. Do guys like girls like me? I just don't think it's necessary to be with a boyfriend every waking moment. I've had boyfriends, yeah, but they don't seem to last. I am a farm girl and can do things for myself. I seem to end up more like a good friend than a girlfriend.
2006-09-24 03:46:41 · 21 answers · asked by I'm awesome! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In one word--YES!!
Independence is SO attractive to most men! Why wouldn't it be? You don't need him for everything, and you REALLY don't have to be with him to feel validated. It puts the stress off of the boyfriend and more respect on the relationship between the two.
You haven't found the right guy yet, that's all! There are plenty of fish in the sea, and from one farm girl to the next--some of those guys LOVE our independence. My fiance actually kept raving about my independence, and our relationship is strong and healthy because we don't depend on each other to feel validated. We each have our own lives, but we choose to be together and be happy.
2006-09-24 03:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Independent guys like independent girls. I would like you a lot. Some men might call you low maintenance. They would be right, but they would have to respect the space that you need to truly be yourself. You define your life in terms of you and no one else. These are fabulous quality traits. Some men get into co-dependent relationships where both people lose their identity as individuals. Some men are threatened by independent girls because the women are more in touch with their feelings than men are and the "provider" function is not a given. Mentally and emotionally developed men like independent girls because both of you would ask each other: "Where can we best put the time that there is to give". You are a treasure.
2006-09-24 08:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys love an independent girl. I am with you on the not being clingy. But what is your definition of clingy? It is great to have plenty of space in a relationship, but focus on what your guys interests are, and let him know where you stand.
2006-09-24 03:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Christina L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I like a independent woman. I like to have my space, but at the same time I do urge for the need of someone to be clingy to at times and I want to be clingy to them. I like to get a phone call everyday, but I don't want to talk each day on the phone for hours though...I do have other things that need to get done. Well, to you question...I do like girls like you and I am looking, but girls like you are hard to find.
2006-09-24 03:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by Novotny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people like different things. Some guys like independence, others don't, others act like they like it, when they really don't. I think everyone wants to feel needed, but don't want someone who is too clingy.
There are guys out there who like you. You haven't had the luck of finding one. It's also a maturity thing, if you find a mature guy, he'll probably have less of a hard time dealing with independence.
2006-09-24 03:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. Independent guys tend to like independent girls. I don't like the 'clingy' type either. Someone has to have their own interests before I feel interested in them. Woman who are waiting for a man to tell them who they are are boring to me.
2006-09-24 03:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like girls being independent,but at the same time they want their girlfriend to be dependent on them,so that they feel that they are responsible and can handle things, can take care of thing about girls too apart from other things
2006-09-24 03:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by neo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys are intimidated by independent girls while others have a great appreciation for them. Keep lookin' and you will find your guy.And whatever you do and whoever you meet do not change you.I say be yourself and let him be who he is and come together to make the relationship whole.
2006-09-24 03:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by FAND 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, especially as you get older...I know I love a girl who can be by herself,think for herself, handle herself, a girl who is intelligent and confident enough to be by herself and not "clingy" is usually what the mature ,well adjusted male wants..now some guys might actually want the cling girl..but then hey they have their own issues! :D
2006-09-24 04:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Tom H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, there are guys like that out there. Perhaps you keep your distance so that nothing too serious can develop and you never have to risk your heart being broken ? Just a thought. Good Luck ! :)
2006-09-24 03:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋