Boyfriend problems?

Question

I love my b/f, we have been togetrher for a year and half, we live together, but every now and then we start these insanely stupid fights...which are all my fault. Resulting in us not talking, I try to not start fights, but sometimes he makes me so mad and I just do it. He is starting to tell me he is not sure about us and I don't know what to do...should I stick around to see if he is going to break my heart? Or just leave him because I am no good for him? Please answer seriously! Thanks

Answer 1

If you love him and he is willing you both need to sit down and communicate with each other. I mean, really talk about the issue and have a real, sincere desire to work it out. Also you may want to take a serious look at "why" you are prone to starting fights. As far as getting your heart broken, well...relationships are not easy, they take much work. The question is"Are you willing to work at your relationship or will you get out of dodge each time you feel things are getting tough". Good luck with this.

Answer 2

I think you answered your own question. The fights are your fault and now he is questioning the relationship because of the fights. Stop picking fights and learn how to express yourself to him iin a calm nuturing way to solve your dissagreements or leave. Your next relationship will go the same way , you will continue to pick fights and the next boyfriend may not stick around this long . There is a book out called "fair Fighting" and a number of other books for communicating , start there , if that don't work , look into counseling for yourself and go from there . Any relationship is a lot of work , put a little more effort into this one before you go to the next step.

Answer 3

You might want to think on why you start the fights. You say he makes you mad but you can have control on what you feel and how to Handel it. Maybe you start the fights because you don't want him to get to close for fear that he might hurt you. All you are doing when you do this is push him away and you may push him right out of your life. Talk to him and let him know you are going to work on how you handle things and prove it by action. You may just save your relation ship. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Why would you ever think you are no good for him? Maybe hes no good for you!!! If you argue,,we all do sometimes..but there is always a time to cool off then sit down and communicate about what you were arguing about and telling eachother you are sorry. If he makes you mad all the time,,what are the reasons? Are they honest reasons..or are you just fighting over stupid little things? Maybe you both need a little time away from eachother..and if you two were meant to be,,then you will find eachother again.

Answer 5

You don't say when the fights started. Recently, or ever since you lived together ? In either case, people sometimes start fights because they are looking for an "out" to the relationship. You may not even be aware of it .. too painful to think of leaving the guy. So you start fights in hopes that he will leave you , or he will ask you to leave. Esp. , if like you say, they are "stupid fights" ... Either he is doing things to bother you on purpose to pull away , or you are starting them yourself to pull away. At least, that is my opinion. Good Luck ! :)

Answer 6

Why do you feel its your fault? What is it you do to start them? You need to figure out why you do it, Then you will be able to say weather or not to leave him. Do you truly love him? If you did you wouldn't be asking us ..so maybe there really is a problem here. Write Down the pros and cons of the relationship and the pros and cons of getting out of the relationship. It will help you make up your mind on what the right thing to do will be. why do you say you are no good for him?You don't think any of this is his fault? Did it occur to you he maybe pushing you in this direction? What's he doing to help cause this?
Think about it , it takes two to make a relationship and it takes two to end a relationship!!
~Good Luck~

Answer 7

Fights are NEVER one persons fault. Sounds like maybe he's not the one for you sweety. Your no good for him? Sounds like the other way around. Don't blame yourself for problems in a relationship that 2 people make. It takes 2 to tango hon and you should never lay all the blame at one persons door. Good luck! Don't ever settle for anything less that what you dream of and can have and find with a little patience.

Answer 8

It seems like he has convinced you that you are always at fault. I don't believe that to be the issue. He is a blamer. When that type of abuse stops working, he will most likely start with physical abuse. If that isn't already the case. Head games are stupid tricks and a sure sign he is not truly in love with you. He is just a user and control freak. Dump the jerk, don't look back, and move on to better things.

Answer 9

Insanely stupid fights.... are you admitting that YOU start them?? Does HE ever start them?? Are these fights over something important..or are they started just because you want his attention? Do you two have a problem talking to one another about problems, feelings and issues in a calm intelligent manner, with the intent of solving them through compromise and change??

Answer 10

if you love him. you should stay with him. Just be calm and try to realize what lead you to this. Try to forget that past, try to be ready for everything to happen. just tell him that you want to have a fresh start, and he'll accept. you can work on him. try to care about him more. Be kind to him. Giving love to someone is the best way to bring the good days back.