My 20 month old daughter?

Question

My daughter is a great girl she is very smart! I have a problem she has started falling out and throughing things on the ground she is a screamer very loud and i can not seem to make her stop, when she gets mads she will fall on the ground or shoot her cup, toy whatever she has across the room, she also will pinch you and try and scratch you if she gets upset or something is not done her way, I do not believe in spankings so I just tell her no stop it, but it does not work really!! I have a 11 year old son and they are night and day I never had this problem before!!! Please can anyone give me something different to try!!! Any help would be appreciated

Answer 1

I have a 21 month old daughter. I have set up her playpen in her room as her time out area. She's too young for the traditional time out - she wouldn't stay there- but I put her in there for about a minute when she bites her sister or climbs on the kitchen table (a favorite past-time of hers.) It gives me a way to discipline her without spanking or swatting her hand.

Answer 2

I have an 18-month-old daughter, and she is the light of my life. She is very smart for her age also, and it surprises me to find out how much she really knows and understands. I was raised in a world where spankings were the only way to get to me. My mom even had a spanking paddle named "The Last Word." So, when I had my daughter, I do believe in light spanking, but not to an extent where she is teary-eyed from it.
When she began to have temper tantrums, I finally figured that she needed to have a time out space for her self. We have a small toy room for her to play in during the day. In that room is an extra Pack-N-Play I own. I finally figured that when she got to the point of a tantrum that I couldn’t bear anymore, I would but her in there, and close the door.
I know most people can’t bear the thought of hearing their child cry…but you just need to turn a deaf ear. You may not think it, but you honestly progress more with her understanding if you give her a time out. Just make sure you “show” her the reason why she is getting punished. Because not only are you with holding her from doing damage on you or your house, but she understands that she did something wrong to deserve this punishment.
I only leave my daughter in there for about 3-5 min, unless she is still screaming or crying or throwing a tantrum. But when it is time to get her out of the time-out area, teach her to say “I’m sorry,” cause then not only are you showing her how she will be disciplined for her actions, but she will also learn that you have to take responsibility for her own actions.
It sounds really hard, but if you get her on a schedule when she gets in trouble, she will learn quickly that she did something wrong. And she will finally get to the point where all you have to do is say “Do you want a time-out,” and she will stop what she is doing, say no, and go on to another activity.

Answer 3

Your reaction plays a part in this too.

Try keeping a calm voice at all times. A loud voice will only wind her up even more. (Unless of course she's about to hurt someone or herself then it's ok to raise your voice to prevent an accident)

Try time outs.

We do a 1, 2, 3 warning with our daughter. If she gets to a three, then she has to sit in the thinking chair. She hates that. We hardly have to use 1,2,3 anymore because she hates the thinking chair so much. Once we say "1", she usually stops that behavior right away. It took a few weeks though.. There's no overnight solution for that.

Answer 4

ok first thing is what your 20 month old is doing is to get your attension..play with her love her and talk to her polietly and you will see the results..you might think that you are giving enough attension to her but i dont think she thinks the same..play with her 2 hrs a day and always talk to her polietly..and you know dont start belive in spanking because these yahoo answers people say that you should..spanking is against all the laws of child psycology you spank and your daughters tantrum will reach to extreme..so never ever use spanking.try to solve out the problem by love it will be solved..make a reward system for a good behaviour..

Answer 5

You need to start taking away things that are important to her. Have a box set up where she can see it, but cannot reach it. Explain to her that every time she acts up she will lose something new. The only way to get them back is to do something good to earn them back. It works- but YOU must be firm and make sure she understands the rules. Most of all- BE CONSISTENT.

Answer 6

I would take her and put her in a time out, like in a playpen or her crib. She'll learn that she doesn't get an audience when she is tantruming and it doesn't get her what she wants. I'd use the word "time out" when you are carrying her over to the area and she'll learn real quick what it is and pretty soon all's you'll have to do is say "Do you want a time out?" and she'll stop.

Answer 7

I think "TIME OUT" is the best thing. And take away something that she really likes , until she can calm down .But you have to be consistent about it. Good luck:>

Answer 8

You need to smack her hand,spank her,or put her in the corner.Thats what I have to do with my little 3 year old sister.Once they get used to it then they will stop pinching or thowing things across the room.I know I'm 11 but,it really helps.

Answer 9

Time out.

Answer 10

dont give her scream any attention, later on she will come to know that nobody is giving me due attention so she will at least to do something else to attract others