My teenager runs to dad about mom, so he will get his way. I feel I'm my teenagers sibling and he's telling on me to dad. He's doesn't do this when dad is gone but as soon as dad shows up he just wants to sit on the couch and not participate in the household duties. Then I get angry after 3 or 4 times asking him (nicely)to help then we get in a big arguement then he runs to dad and then I get in an arguement with dad. It works out pretty good for my kid cause usually he gets out of work. I find it difficult to be around him whenever his father is home, I almost want to avoid him completely, but I don't see as only MY responsibliy for the house. I know I could avoid all arguements if i just done everything myself and let my kid do whatever he wants all day.(that's dads remedy)but I need to teach him responsibilties, and his father is only teaching him to run over women. but i'm not allowing it,I feel if my husband is out of the picture things would be easier, but thats not an opTION
2006-09-24 03:19:22 · 7 answers · asked by CRAFTYLADY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your family needs to go to family counseling so that they can get your husband off of his ****. He is ruining your child's understanding of responsibility. Parents need to work together on these things. Children need consistency... and you are going to face hard times doing it now, but it MUST be done. Only thing that I can suggest is family counseling where the counselor can set down some rules. Your husband is treating both you and your child like crap... he is not being a responsible adult... and you say that not having him around is not an option.... Love can work through many things.. but if you are thinking it would be easier to not having him around... then you guys need marriage counseling. I don't care what it costs... find your states help and get some counseling in your home... if you don't.. .you'll stay right where you are at
2006-09-24 03:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by breathofvitality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your entire family has no respect for you. You need professional help if you are going to run this household. In the meantime, stop with the cleaning, cooking, and any catering to the husband and the kid. Make them take some responsibility if they want to eat or wear clean clothes. Quit being a doormat.
2006-09-24 10:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your child that he has options, he either does as you ask or you will withdraw any and all of the things you do for him,As he is a child and has to live at home, you can give him absolutely minimal support, he can get his own meals, laundry,clean after himself, do not do any thing he can and must do for himself. may be his dad will be happy to do this for him as you should not
2006-09-24 10:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him deal with it for a while. Don't tell your kids to do anything and don't punish them then dad will have to do it and will see what you go through with them. Good Luck.
2006-09-24 10:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he will do what you say and running to his dad isn't going to do him one bit of good. Tell hubby to stay out of your way, you'll handle this, sit back, watch and learn.
2006-09-24 10:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move the couch andtake out the tv till he works
2006-09-24 10:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by warmaster952 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tear their *** up
2006-09-24 10:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by kachinagrays2008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋