to spank your child, or not to spank? what is your answer?

Question

(psssst...this is for college research, i need statistics.)

Answer 1

Sorry, Didn't mean for this to be so long. Hopefully you can use several parts of it for your project.


Well...PSST... I last remember "spanking" my daughter when she was three, and old three, just two days before her fourth birthday. That's why I remember it so well I guess, because I know I told her "Do you want to be four and still get a whiiping?" She probably had 4-6 spankings in her entire life and all of them were in her "terrible threes" - don't belive the "terrrible twos" -I don't know who came up with that - ask any mother, that's a joke - it's the "terrible threes". Anyway...my daughter is 10 now and to spank her is not even an option, not even a thought. It seems barbaric! My daughter, and I believe that all children know at the oldest of age 5 when they are in trouble or have done something wrong by the tone of the parents voice and the look on the parents face. I am a single mother and have been for the last 6 years of my daughters life. My life is on "hold" for her. I believe that a stable environment is best. And the only way to keep that stable with one parent is to stay as "one" parent. My daughter is at the age where she may accept a person that came into our lives, but she would also cling to that person, which is a whole other subject, so I just stay away from it. I work my butt off and pick her up from school everyday with a smile. Back to your question, I did spank until almost the age of 4 - ONLY A FEW TIMES. One time I remember was probably her worst spanking ever - she ran out of the grocery store in front of me - 3 years old (those terrible threes) she ran into the parking lot, thank god there were no cars coming either way, but I spanked her butt bad and told her all about cars and traffic again (we'd already learned this, I thought). So spanking... in young children is sometimes necessary to get the point across - if the point is a dangerous or life threatening situation - they must know how important something like that is. When they get older, they understand that turning off the video game or TV is something that you told them to do, and they do it! If they don't listen once older, I'm lucky with this but have a friend that is not so lucky and her child (9) gets grounded from the tv, video game, computer, bike, trampoline, whatever it is that she didn't listen to and her mom gets to pick another vice to be grounded from. So she's grounded from two of her favorite things for not listening, it works well. Spanking is out of the question when they get older. The dissapointment on a parents face is bad enough, and to be grounded from something they love is....bad!

Answer 2

I would only spank a child if it was an absolute last resort or they did something to put themselves in harms way maybe. I would just try as many other tactics as i could and be consistant and try to do everything else i could before resorting to spanking. But then again every child is different so it depends on that factor as well. So I would say not to spank and never spank out of anger cus it could turn ungly and never abuse. I would say just to get down to their level first and explain the consequences adn what they did and why and what eillhappen next, but whne i have kdis i plan to never spank them, but i guess it depends on the situation.

Answer 3

I have 2 children and I don't believe that time outs and talking always work. As long a spanking is done with out real anger and not using a weapon. I do it, sometimes a crack on the butt gets the point across alot better than " Now stop that" or empty threats.

Answer 4

NO.. I think that parents that spank there children and yell at them 24/7 are worse than if u just tell them not to do it anymore and kinda let it go.. i have a friend who has three kids 4,8,14 and i have two. they are 4,2 and she yells and screams at her kids all the time and the 4 years old is a brat..i don't yell and scream over little **** they do i just tell them not to do it again.. and he is sooo much better behaved...

Answer 5

I have spanked all three of my children at one time or another. But never in anger.

I see nothing wrong with a swift pat on the backside if the infraction warrants.

I also have smacked a little hand that was where it did not belong.

But using anything other than your hand is abuse.

Answer 6

Its illegal here in Aus to physically hit ur kids in any way, that said, lots of people think the reason young people are so disrespectful is due to lack of discipline
My sister and I were often hit as kids, dunno if it shaped our personality but we certainly respected our parents and by the age of 6-8 didnt need spanking any more cos we had been 'trained'.
I think its a useful tool in young children but after a certain age it loses its impact, it also depends on how its used.
For instance if a parent uses it all the time cos they are out of control themselves, its useless
If its used infrequently, it can become a good detterent.

Answer 7

Yes for spanking.

Answer 8

I will not spank my child at any circumstances as he is more precious for me. He is only 9 months old right now. When he will go to school, I will defenitely look for the school who don't punish the children by spanking. But it is hard to find such schools here in India and spanking is not an offence here.

Answer 9

i think that there are some many ways that you can get your child to understand that no means no. I get mad alot because sometimes people dont take the time out to understand that sometimes kids will be kids. you dont have to spank them for everything. try other ways. that is what i am going to do for my son.

Answer 10

I do not spank my daughter. She get time outs and I talk to her about what she did that was wrong.