I'm a guy, and my girlfriend of many years-she has many many guy friends and not very many girlfriends. She hangs out with them just about every night when I'm at work after she gets off work. I try my hardest to trust her, but should I be accepting of her hanging out with so many guys or should I put a stop to it?
2006-09-24 02:53:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would accept it, but I'm not a very jealous guy.
Jealousy has the potential to ruin even the greatest of all loves. That is even proven in History.
If she has never broken the bond that is trust, let it go. If they only seem to be friends, let it go.
If you're that upset about it, maybe having a word to her about it all, is the way to go. Be sure to steer clear from accusations, or sounding controlling. Just tell her how you feel, and depending on what she says, go from there.
Good luck.
2006-09-24 03:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Most of the women I know like hanging out with guys and most of them have more guy friends than girlfriends.I think it could be that guys are more interesting in their every day life. Don't get me wrong, please, I'm not being macho here. Guys are pretty dull too.She just wants to be and is being actually more diversified than her girlfriends.Guys have a different dullness than girls.Everybody is dull after a while. Just ask any married couple.Now, should you accept it. Yeah, she won't change. If you don't ,2 things will happen. She'll say you're jealous and that proves your love.Or she'll say you're jealous and you don't trust her and don't really love her. So , at this point I would just rise with the tide.
2006-09-24 10:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the way she was when you went with her...accept it and don't try to change her, but if she started this recently then I would assume it's a red flag to keep your eye opened. I don't like the thought of changing someones life style, because if I change for anything other then because I WANT to, it won't last, and it brings on a sense of bondage. People should change because they want to and not because they have to. Another point of view too, if you tried to get her to change then she could she you were controlling, and you don't want that. This is only my opinion, but it seems to me that you are wanting more of a commited relationship with her then what she is giving you, which there is nothing wrong with that. Try to find things that you both like to do which requires just the both of you and do them. Here's some suggestions.
Fishing
Hiking
go to a new place you two haven't been to before
to to a zoo/amusement park
camping
go to a movie
2006-09-24 12:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by WV_Nomad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you only wants guys answers, but men and women think differently on the topic. Since you are asking about your girl a woman can shed a good light. If you say that you trust her you need to act on it. I know for a fact that I enjoy the company of men and can be with them and never once think of anything sexual. If your girl is insecure by nature, though, I would ask why she needs to be the only girl among guys. She might love having her ego stroked by flirting with men that she knows can't have her. It might be a game that you want your girl to have no part in.
2006-09-24 10:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by shewaxetheloquent 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you should put a stop to it - then do. Actually, then put a stop to the whole relationship because deeTrust is everything. If you feel like you can truely trust her, then continue on your relationship and try to figure out why you are having trouble trusting her. Is there something you are insecure about? If you want this to last the long haul, you need to be able to trust her, and be secure about yourself. Good Luck
2006-09-24 10:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Methos113 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
dont put an end to it bro....she's only gonna throw it in ur face...the majority of women have more guy friends cause women are very jealous of each other and rather be friends with guys....as far as trusting her....well has she always had guy friends? if she just started hangin out with guys then i would keep an open eye....but really....i have alot of women that are just friends and i dont hit on them....even though their very attractive ....if u love your girlfriend ...let her be who she is ....but if your unhappy then its you who has to make the change and decide if you can live with the fact she has guy friends ...by makin her stop she's gonna despise u....its a no win situation....either you love her or.....you leave her alone.
2006-09-24 10:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by geodesy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is from my husband. Depends if she's hanging out with them for common interests or just hanging out at the bar. You should ask women too.
2006-09-24 09:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love only matters in a relationship. If you really love her, tell her so.
Watch her further moves. If she is going out as earlier, then take a decision yourself...whether to continue with her or not.
2006-09-24 09:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Electric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should let her know you don't feel very comfortable with things as they are. Second ask her how she would feel if you had "girl-friends" that you "hang out" with. She should see your point.
2006-09-24 10:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Duckjuice3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a stop to it dude. Think about why you hang around women...You want to sleep with them that's why. These guys want to have a piece of your girl, and she is giving them that opportunity. Nip it in the bud dude. Good luck!!
2006-09-24 09:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋