my girlfriends best friend is allso like my best friend we have ben friends since forever but ever since she found out that im going out with this grl she acts diferent now she is allways flirting with me now when my grlfriend isnt around she allways wants a hug from me when i leave school and stuff like that i only like her as a friend tho and my grlfriend is getting really jelous so does it sound like this grl is jelous and wants me cause she has never acted like this before and its kinda not really comfortble for me
2006-09-24 02:48:15 · 22 answers · asked by crash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she may be afraid of losing both of you as friends now that you are a couple. She is feeling a kind of separation anxiety at this time. Give her time -- evidently she loves you and that's okay. If you really love your girlfriend -- just reassure her that what this other girl is going through is probably normal in a siutation as yours.
2006-09-24 02:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow! poor you ...piggy in the middle...your two girlfriends are in competition, similar to what sometimes occurs when a bloke meets a girl and his best mate gets jealous because he's spending more time doing stuff with the girlfriend instead of at he pub with his mates,etc...its an adjustment thats all and the reason that your friend is flirting is to get your attention diverted to her...unless she fancies you really coz im not altogether sure that 'platonic' actually really ever works unless theyre a relative,lol...just talk to her and explain that you feel akward and in the middle. Tell her that you love your girlfriend but maybe set some time aside for your friend too...if your girlfriend doesnt like this maybe just explain to her that this is helping your friend adjust to you having a girlfriend now and hopefully she'll support you...other than that...get out of the way when the big catfight ensues,lol...good luck with it all ;0)
2006-09-24 09:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking that she likes you and she didn't realize it until now. Or she's just jealous that you and her other best friend have each other. You can either set her up with another guy, confront her about it, or just stop hanging out with her.
I know it stinks, but guys and girls can't be friends forever...either something like this happens, current boy/girlfriends come in between or you end up dating.
It's an inevitable part of life.
Good Luck
2006-09-24 09:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by tmreiber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is doing it because she is afraid she is going to loose her best friend, this happens sometimes when men and women are just friends (best friends) they do not want to loose the friend they have to another woman. Maybe you should talk to her and just let her know that she will always be a part of your life and that no one could replace her, but you really like this girl as a partner and would like for her to be supportive.
2006-09-24 09:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are just like that. She probably doesn't want to lose your friendship. Now that she sees you with another girl she is second guessing that she might want to be with you? Just ask her what is going on, and tell her you can still be friends with her and have a girlfriend at the same time. I don't know, Good Luck ; )
2006-09-24 09:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by lottie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes sweetheart she is jealous! You need to just tell her that you only look at her as a friend and nothing more, and now that you are dating you can't just give her a hug all the time. Tell her she needs to respect you and your girlfriend!
You have to just come out and say it!
Good Luck to You!
Always Amy
2006-09-24 09:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How has she acted with other girlfriends? Is she only doing this because you are going with her friend? Sounds like the green eyed monster is alive and active in your world.
2006-09-24 09:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by twoshotjudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have this problem it may not be that she really wants you, she just doesn't want your girlfriend to have you. Give your friend the cold shoulder when she does this stuff. Don't confront her she will just deny it, she's just a girl. She'll stop when she gets the cold shoulder.
2006-09-24 09:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by JustAGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she maybe thout of you as more than a friend all along, and did not feel threatened until you started dating this other girl. You will need to talk to her as a good friend to let her know how uncomfortable she is making you feel.
2006-09-24 09:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she sees things different now since you have a gurlfriend. she probably thinks that your gurlfriend is taking her place.anyway my advice would be to calmly talk to her and ask her why she is flirting now and not before. also lay it down that you have a gurlfriend and their is no way you are going to cheat on her. she might be hurt but thats what you gotta do if you want to save your relationship with your gurlfriend.
2006-09-24 09:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋