i want to call my ex bf and curse him out and i mean a good down southern cursing. he really hurt me and lied to me and it really hurt. its over between us but i get flash backs of what he did to me and i get mad all over again. i know i need to move on but at this point in time i cant stand his guts and i just get where i want to curse him for it. im trying to stop feeling this way. is there any help out there. i really need some advice and please dont tell me to just move on. i have but i keep having flash backs. time is not healing this. i was down right hurt by this guy and he did it over a period of time. yes i was a crash dummy and kept going back for more. but im out of it now. im just trying to build my confidence back. but i keep having these damn flash backs and my self esteem keeps going up and down like a roller coaster. plz help me.
2006-09-24 01:21:58 · 15 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Eagle! Ok listen hun the first thing you need to do it really get over this once and for all. I don't think that when you two split you said everything you wanted to say to him. I think you still have a lot to say to him, but calling him and telling him off is not the answer! The answer is helping yourself get over it, and how you do that is , I know you might think this sounds stupid but it work! Write a letter to him and in that letter tell him everything, from how you feel about him, and all the things he has done to you. Just let it all go in this letter. Get it off your chest and out of your mind on paper. Now after you do that if you want to give it to him then do so, if you want to mail it to him then do so, but if you feel much better after doing this then put the letter in a drawer under a lot of stuff and leave it in the past. You have to heal before you can move on. trust I have been there and it really worked for me! Wishing you all The Luck you can find!
Always Amy
2006-09-24 01:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write it all down, get it all out, then burn the letter. As long as you try to contact him in any way, even to cuss him out, he will feel like he still has a hold on you. That is not what you want. Time, perspective and a new man will all help to heal, but these things can't be rushed. It never pays to let a man define your self-esteem. Hard though this has been, you have learned something about youself and the kind of man you want. Next time you will choose more carefully and more wisely.
2006-09-24 01:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over being "stuck". What you are experiencing is a form of grief and loss about the betrayal. There are five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. You are stuck on the second tier. Instead of wasting your time and energy on confronting him, get a book on the stages of loss in love relationshipsby Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross and begin the healing process.
2006-09-24 01:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
did you think that if you did tell him exactly what you think then later it will calm you down so much that you may want to go back with him? i have a friend that's the same way, she wants to have the last word to let the bf know what she thinks. later, she wants to return to what is familiar (him). i know you may want to give it to him good but try not to. IF YOU DO, don't do it ALONE. have a friend present so you can stick to your guns and don't let up. good luck, he's a jerk and you can get a real man to replace this liar in a boy's body.
2006-09-24 01:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, at first.. substitute ur extensive type have it unpublished, and get a cellular telephone that she will touch ur husband on.. that way u can turn it off till a good hour of the day in the previous she calls to *****.. 2d of all , she doesnt could paintings nor can he or a court docket stress her to paintings.. with the point to think of he can do something approximately that is stupid on your section.. with the aid of fact he cant.. Now so a good distance as stroller is in contact.. he could of helped u pay for a stroller and im guessing with the aid of fact u especially say "help" meaning u have distinctive money owed.. however the data are the two u understand that u could try this your self or you will get out of this situation with the aid of fact he will no longer substitute, and the situations of his situation along with his x spouse and older infants arent going to alter.. so u could decide for if u can tolerate this or no longer..
2016-10-17 21:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know what to tell you move on I had too I cought my ex with someone else in my bed in my house so I packed my stuff and left and never looked back but I still get flash backs and that was 20 years ago so you learn to live with it and not let it get to you
2006-09-24 01:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by jbmasterdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a picture of him, wack on it several times with a baseball bat.If you try to call him,what if he has caller ID and doesn't want to talk to you?
2006-09-24 01:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some one to talk to about it,, if it was abuse theres help out there anger is still a healthy emotion you just need to find a way to channel it in other directions..good luck
2006-09-24 01:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of the expression do not get mean get even. Go for it.
2006-09-24 01:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes do cal him n give him hell!!Get it out of ur system if it'll make u feel beta.
2006-09-24 01:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋