If my boyfriend does not ask me to marry him after 7rs and a kid, plus he had a kid on me should i leave him?

Answer 1

what, you are still there??

Answer 2

What do you want? Why give him the power? He's obviously satisfied with the status quo, so are you? And when you say he had "a kid on you" does that mean he had another child while he was with you? (I'm sorry, I'm not familiar with that vernacular) if that's the case, he's definitely OK with the way things are. And who wouldn't be? No responsibility? Get to screw around? Some Missy waiting for him whenever he decides to show up? Do you really need a team of strangers to answer this question for you? Do you want to raise your child to think that this is acceptable? You have the answers and you have the power - get out...

Answer 3

YES! and NO!

Its about what you want? Do you want to get married? Some couples stay together too long, that they fill there already married so whats the point.

IF you want to complete your family by doing the right thing then am happy for you. You need to sit down and talk to him about it.. I should ask why do you want to get married.. do you really feel you love him unconditional as well as he loves you. you have to know in the depths of your soul this man is for you. Ask him straight out is Our love deep enough to get married within (give a time frame) if he can't then its best to wash your body, soul and mind to start fresh on a man that loves you so deep that he wants you has his wife,,, not is girlfriend, or something to do type of person. or a live in....Find your heart search it deep you have the answer.

Keep prayer in your life.. God can change anything.

Answer 4

I do not understand why you are asking this now. Was there an agreement that you would marry after 7 years?Or did you just think that if you lived with him he would marry you? It does not sound like you are every going to marry, in addition you now have a child, and that is a whole other lot of problems.

Answer 5

are you happy with him? marriage will be no different than it is now except you will have that piece of paper and bills from a wedding . unless he is doing well (money wise). that piece of paper really isn't worth the the paper it is written on. if he is doing well give him a choice because with that many years you deserve 1/2 of everything. but if it is the other way around? well that goes with out saying . sometimes that piece of paper can ruin a relationship trust me been married twice it really is over rated. my aunt and uncle lived happily ever after for over 20 twenty years with no marriage certificate and they had three boys and she had three girls from two prior marriages . life was great for them just that way until the day she died. marriage is once again it bares repeating is over rated. aside from weddings being expensive divorces cost three times as much so if you are happy with your day to day keep it that way. happiness far out ways any marriage certficate. however if you need that paper talk to him tell him how you feel with a child and all it is the right thing to do. if not tell him that if you get married before the end of this year you will get a nice tax return. thats how my first husband got me to marry him good luck think about this for a moment it is real easy to get married even harder to stay married and a real ***** to get a divorce good luck remember one thing you have to live with you so if there is outside pressure tell them step back it is your life not theirs soul search honey take a weekend to yourself who could not use a vacation every now and again

Answer 6

why doesn't he want to marry you???? that is the question....but if you are all happy then it would be hard just to pick up and leave...but after 7 years i think he should marry you...but if you want commitment then i guess you will have to leave and maybe he will realize that he does want to keep you.....i understand waiting some time these days before getting married but i do think you have waited long enough...if he really loves you what is the deal...men sometimes think why should they when they have you there now...make it plain if that is really what you want that you are going to leave if he does not want to make a commitment...be really sure though that is what you want..like if you really love him. and he does take good care of you and the children then you need to think about all that before you take any action.....

Answer 7

After seven years, and no marriage proposal, I would think that you would have to resign yourself to the fact that there would probably never be one.

But then again, my sister got married to her man after 15 years together, and two kids. Only because he was worried that his family would cheat her out of any property they had accumulated together.

And look at Dog and Beth...they finally got married after 15 years together (at least I think that's what she said), as well.

So I guess you're going to have to make up your own mind at what you want. If the piece of paper is important to you, then I would ask him about it. If he says no, then you can make your decisions from there.

Answer 8

If you don't love him then leave. All marriage is, is a piece of paper saying that you are legally married. I understand your frustration but that isn't the right thing to do. At least your baby is with its daddy.....don't ruin that because of the small stuff.

Answer 9

gf u shoulda been asked about/ talked about this b4 now 7 yrs and a kid? either he is satisfied w/ u or he's not and i aint even gonna touch on the havina kid on ya part... u better think do u really wanna b w/ him and married??

Answer 10

Well, if you expect him to marry you, yes. If you are OK with being a common-law wife, then deal with it. Why weren't you asking these questions when you had the kid?

Answer 11

Gee, I think you really know deep down the answer to this one. He has had no "need" to marry you - you gave it all away. Now you must act in the best interests of your child - not on how you feel.