I know this sounds really strange but it's staring to make me really depressed now. I WANT to have a boyfriend in my life, I feel ready to have a boyfriend and when I meet a potential boyfriend and go out on a date I wind up getting this feeling of being terrorized....like Im about to DIE and litterally lose my life, unless I get away as fast as possible from the boy. Even though he doesn't do anyting wrong, and I really like him. I don't understand why I do this. I abandonded the potential boyfriend.
...couple of months later I find somebody else and the same things keep happening. It really feels like I will DIE if I get any emotionally closer to him. I feel sad when I have to avoid his phonecalls and abandon a potential boyfriend again. I want to be happy and I WANT a boyfriend.... :( So why do I keep doing this?!!!
2006-09-23 22:50:09 · 8 answers · asked by charming_imogen 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
...I know it's normal to have a little anxiety with dates,love..etc......but I wind up having a full blown feeling of horror and impending doom and that isn't normal. I try to control it with logic and rational thinking but that horror feeling overcomes me to the point I pray to god to help me. What's bizare to me is that I can't understand why I feel this.
2006-09-23 23:13:01 · update #1
its hard to say without knowing more about you but
in general some ppl will hav this problem when
they hav an unusually strong sense of identity--which is to say
they could not stand the idea
of havin someone or somethin intrude into their "selfhood".
it would be like dying,,,,and you did use the word "die"
yet at the same time they know
its pleasurable sometimes to merge themselves with someone
else,,,,,so now you hav a deadlock between two forces
2006-09-24 11:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by use 2b light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you don't need a boyfriend, for now. Call Dr. Phil or talk to a psychiatrist instead.
2006-09-24 03:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Liwayway 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would probably help you greatly to see a professional counselor. I too felt frightful when I first started dating. another thing that might help is only go on double dates for awhile. A karate class might help with your sense of self control and awareness!take care and don't be afraid >>>>TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE! GOOD LUCK TO YOU! P.S.I am a girl>>this is my husband's e-mail name
2006-09-24 00:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Glenn H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, it looks to me like you should talk to a mental health professional about this situation. So I suggest you get counseling for your problem. I really do believe you need help, and I hope you get it. Good Luck.
2006-09-23 23:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like a neurotic disorder
2006-09-23 22:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You want it to much. calm down. Its normal. You will find the right guy someday.
2006-09-23 22:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by lovebite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you go on a date, take a freind, so u feel confortable.
2006-09-23 22:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Photographer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might want to consider therapy, this could be a true social disorder
2006-09-23 22:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by momoftrl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋