I truely and honestly love her. We have known eachother for over 11 years now and went out for 1. She has this problem with making everything my fault. We broke up last because I decided to go home instead of fight infront of my friends. She then went out with one of the neighbors. She writes to me talking about how she needs me and then next minute she attacks me and tells me that I am a pitiful worthless person but returns only to tell me that she is sorry and wants me to still stick around. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and she says tha is what she wants to but she never makes a move to get back with me. So yea....
2006-09-23 22:32:03 · 14 answers · asked by Johnny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she is very confused about what it is she is wanting and in the mean time your suffering from the back and forth.
Until she figures out what she wants it is going to continue being this way.You need to figure out if all of this is worth the heartache.
You deserve to be happy.
2006-09-23 22:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by kandn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from girls who emotionally & verbally put you down. If it happens once or twice at most, then tell them to stop. If they don't, get away from that person because they do not love you. She sounds emotionally unstable & immature. She doesn't sound like girlfriend material for anyone, let alone you. Relationships do require some maturity, & she doesn't sound like she can successfully be in one. This is the golden hour of your relationship, the lovey-dovey time of your relationship that should proceed a marriage. Its not going so good, it sounds. Marriage will make this worse for it will legally lock you in with someone who is putting you down. No one can carry a relationship 100%, 100% of the time. She's not ready to get married right now. She may have a mood disorder that needs professional care. You can love someone very, very much, but that alone will not be able to carry the two of you together. Two need to show up for a marriage. Its no wonder you didn't want to fight in front of your friends. Is she a drama queen? If she is addicted to drama, then she is going to need emotional help. Is she your friend or just your girlfriend? If she's your girlfriend but not your friend then you know the marriage will never work. Help her with her emotional issues by suggesting help for her when you two are alone. You will get tired of the drama eventually if it does not end & you'll want out because your emotions & heart will be exhausted & hurt. If things do not start clearing up eventually soon, then graciously get out of it & move away from her to protect yourself. Then really move on if it doesn't look like its going to ever go well. You'll figure out just how much you can take. Almost everyone has been in a similar situation as you are in. We all learn & you will find out stuff about yourself through this that you did not know about yourself. Its a growing experience we all go through. Good luck.
2006-09-24 06:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Bronweyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can continue with this drama for another 11 years, then go ahead since you love her so much...
But it really looks like she's indecisive and can't give you as much you need/deserve/want in a relationship.. I think you should stop this false hope and start afresh with someone else. There are other nice girls out there who are just waiting to meet a sincere man who wants to be serious.
2006-09-24 06:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you've played your part, now It's up to her. If you can walk away and honestly say you've done your best to make it work, then you should leave the ball in her court
2006-09-24 05:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by the S'bu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is still not your ex! don't give up so soon!!! true love sometimes have to go through many storms!!u assume the role of Mr. Receptive!!let her throw all her emotions at you!!just stick around!!love is full of pain and joy!!but pride or fear may kill love!!May God bless you!! just hold on brother!!
2006-09-24 05:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry mate, it's going nowhere - get out.
The longer you stick around the worse and harder it's going to get.
2006-09-24 05:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a very very similar situation. back away now. please, u will only be saving yourself from lots more grief to come. girls like that are only hassel. she doesnt know what she wants. she hurts u and then feels guiltl afterwards and so says sorry. back away... trust me
2006-09-24 06:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by 96degrees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not worthy of the title 'girlfriend' nor 'friend'. Throw her in the dumpster.
2006-09-24 06:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by MICKEY MOUSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on she is emotionally unstable. I only gather that from what u say.
2006-09-24 05:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by Brad B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MATE BETTER LEAVE HER AS I KNOW THESE KIND OF GIRLS. AFTER MARRIAGE IT WILL NOT WORK OUT AND BECOME THE WORSE.
2006-09-24 05:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋