My 2 year old daughter is in the habit of biting i have tried telling her no and explaining why she shouldnt do it. ( it may sound mad but believe me she understands more than people may think a 2 year old should!!! ) but this doesnt seem to work.
All ideas/suggestions would be great.
2006-09-23 21:16:58 · 54 answers · asked by rsrs782005 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Its a timeless remedy for pinching and biting .
if your child bites bite it back
2006-09-23 21:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by kevin d 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
My life experience is that some people who cause harm only learn when the same harm is caused to them.
You can get in a great deal of trouble if you bite back and your daughter tells other adults. They can report you to social services and some like teachers are obligated to do so.
The first thing I'd do is tell the child if she bites again, she will lose all of her toys for a week or that you will give away some of them to the child she bites. You could pick out a few prize toys and tell her that these toys are staying on the kitchen counter because she bites even though you have told her no. You tell her these are the toys I am preparing to give away the next time she bites. If you don't bite today, I will let you pick one toy to have back.
I would also buy treats and give her no other treats but these treats if she didn't bite anyone that day.
In this way you have created a reward and punishment system that will be stronger than words.
2006-09-23 21:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2yr old daughter so no it doesn't sound mad, they are so clever, they understand so much but it's selective hearing syndrome!
You didn't say who she's been biting so i'll just assume it's adults being too near her mouth and/or children playing with her toys!
If she bites another child, tell her exactly what you've been telling her & then pay the other child more attention, play with him/her for a few minutes (if you know the child). If it's an adult all you can do is tell her off & explain that it hurts.
I've been using the naughty mat strategy (supernanny), if my daughter is really naughty (hits siblings) I put her on the mat for 2 minutes then go & ask for an apology. Just recently she knows when she has been naughty because she goes directly to the front door where the naughty mat is & sits on it!
Other than that i'd like to say it's just a phase & it'll pass shortly but i can't as every child is different, just stick with what you're doing though, once she's been told off just ignore her as she's looking for attention.
Just an after thought, maybe you're giving her too much information, if you just say calmly to her NO, that hurts, maybe she'll take that in rather than the long explanation of why she shouldn't bite!
2006-09-30 08:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my kids went through a phase of biting at age 2. I had tried to get the message through but was failing. It stopped the day he bit my mum - and she immediataely bit him back (not hard but enough to give him a fright). We don't see her very often so I think the fact that someone who doesn't normally discipline him fought back was enough of a deterent not to do it again.
She understands alright - just pushing her luck as far as she can go! Not everything can be resolved with explanations. Sometimes the short sharp treament is the most effective.
Jodo - I did not have the mother from hell. In fact the opposite and never once was I spanked. Not everything can be resolved through talking calmly - if it can then it will take months of continued unacceptable behaviour to resolve rather than the 30 seconds it took my mother. I was taken aback she did it let alone my child, so sometimes the most unexpected is the most effective. I could say a lot more about parents that insist talking calmly is the only way, but I see their children's behaviour and it speaks for itself. But this is not the time or place for that and I apologise to the questioner.
2006-09-24 21:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most toddlers have a bad habit - in my case my boys liked throwing toys at people when feeling frustrated. I know biting could potentially be even more dangerous, but I would recommend responding in the same fashion to other naughty behaviour. Calmly remove your toddler from the situation immediately - time out on the naught step or in her cot - a minute for each year of her life plus 2 minutes for good measure. Explain clearly that 'we don't bite, biting hurts people' - use the same goods and actions/tone of voice every time and remember to praise when she plays nicely with children. Eventually mine tired of the toy throwing - thankfully all this is just a stage. Don't worry your daughter won't be biting her friends as a teenager, she'll outgrow it!
2006-09-23 21:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Nikita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think she's old enough to understand, you can try a time out. Explain to her why she is getting the time out and the appropriate behaviour. Good rule of thumb is 1 minute per age of child. I tried biting my son when he bit me, he's hyposensitive so that didn't work. The two things I have done that work are:
1. When he starts putting things in his mouth to chew on, I give him a licorice stick instead. It helps with his oral motor needs and they're sugar free anyway.
2. When he bites me, I cry. I tell him I don't like it when he bites me, and I leave the room. He gets upset because I am not giving him the attention he wants. Then I have him say sorry, explain again why I don't like it, and we make up with kisses and hugs. That actually significantly cut down on the biting. Although, he still goes through the biting thing every now and then.
2006-09-23 21:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by chafer17 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a great question cause i have a two yr old little boy that does the same thing MAIN THING IS DON'T GIVE UP JUST KEEP ON MAKING THOSE STRONGGGGGG SUGGESTIONS TO NOT DO THAT IT'S A BIG NO NO TELL HER , MINE bit me today to but so much as a big as a digging in with his teeth in the back of my foot when i was laying and she may be doing for same reasons as he might maybe cutting some teeth or the ones they are hurting due to ear problems . yeah the ears can cause alots of problems. TRy giving her some hard like those animals crackers and such . Hope this helps. ALSO SAY A FIRM NO THAT HURTS AND KEEP DOING THAT ,cause you say these children are soooooooooo smart right !!
2006-09-30 14:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by dixieprayerlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spray listerine in her mouth. And not the minty flavored version either. The good old fashioned medicine version.
It's along the same line as the hot peppers except I have heard of some kids developing a taste for hot peppers when this trick was used under other circumstances. Nobody ever developed a taste for listerine.
Get a small spray bottle and keep it in your pocket. When she bites, you can immediately pull out the bottle and spray her mouth. There's no delay so she knows exactly what she's being punished for. Plus, she's not being hurt so it's less harsh than biting her back.
When my kid started biting at 1 year old, we used this trick. We only had to do it twice. He got the picture immediately.
2006-09-24 15:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Here is my advice...
Kids love their toys... they always have a favorite something... if not more than one favorite. For each time she bites someone, she loses a toy. Keep going, even if it means she will have no toys or stuffed animals left in her room.
Do not give the toys back just because she says she is sorry and promises not to do it again. She needs to learn that certain actions have certain conseqences and that "sorry" does not fix everything. If you give her back her toy everytime she says sorry, then she will continue to bite, but just apologize for it.
She should not get her toys back until she has totally broken the habit... months should go by without one biting incident.
If toys aren't her thing, does she have a favorite dress (the one that makes her look pretty like a princess) or favorite shoes? Tell her if she can't be good "princess", she can't wear her favorite pretty dress.
Your daughter may cry, may scream, may totally hate you... but be strong and stick to your punishment.
Good Luck and Best Wishes...
T.
2006-09-23 21:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Theophania 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may sound evil, but bite her back. My 2 year old son has just started i have also told him no and explained, yet he tries to lick (as a game) and ends up getting over excited and biting. I warned him if he carried on i would bite him back and i have done. Now when he goes to do it i remind himand he stops.
They all go through it so don't worry.
Good luck
2006-09-23 22:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by mum2bogey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a reason/s for her biting. However, two year olds like to assert there autonomy over things that belongs to them by saying "No", or result to biting. They do not know the consequences of their actions. They only know that it feels good to bite at that age. What I might do is to approach the situation very calmly. If she does that, ask her to stop, send her to her room, or to a room for two minutes, take away the toy. Later, you have to process the situation, that is, explain to her why you sent her to her room. You may have to repeat it several times for her to understand that there is a consequence for such an action.
Have a good day.
2006-10-01 09:06:34 · answer #11 · answered by jango 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋