Is it rude to just attend the wedding reception?
2006-09-23 20:41:39 · 21 answers · asked by Random 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've been invited to just the wedding and not the reception, and I've been invited to the reception and not the ceremony before. No, it's not rude, and you may be doing them a favor if it's crowded and they are paying by the person for seats. Just make sure you RSVP early and let them know -- with your apologies and congradulations of course -- that that will be the case.
2006-09-23 20:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many people would see that as rude and disrespectful. The reception is a thank-you for attending the wedding.
2006-09-24 01:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez. The Miss Manners crap is WAY out of date. I have only attended weddings I have actually been in. (and my own!!) NO one shows up at the church hardly unless you are a close family member or friend. Knowing this, some couples choose to get married at the reception hall so that everyone is already there and does not have to go fromplace to place.
However, I hear it is a cardinal sin not to go to both if you are in the south. They are very "proper" there and would frown upon that. In Chicago here we say just come for the reception!!
2006-09-24 16:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by GiddyGiddyGoin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are invited to both, you should go to both. Yes, it would be extremely offensive to just skip the ceremony.
If there is a work conflict or another wedding or something, you could ask the couple (WAY in advance) if it would be OK with them that you RSVP yes and only attend the reception, because you are unable get out of work, which conflicts with the ceremony. But that's really a worst-case scenario and you seriously need their direct permission to alter what they are inviting you to. You'd really be pushing the envelope, but if this is your scenario it would be more polite to ask, than to take it into your own hands and skip it simply because it bores you.
2006-09-24 12:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close to either of the people then you should attend the ceremony unless there is a constraint with distance or time. If so you must tell them in advance about the problem. If you are just an aquaintance then go ahead and attend only the reception and have fun. They will not care less cause you are not that important to them anyway. Its not rude---its fine.
2006-09-23 20:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Supposedly, if you have been invited to the wedding, you are expected to attend both the ceremony and the reception. Some people are ONLY invited to the reception--so if this isn't you, than you should go to both.
2006-09-23 20:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by retorik75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's rude to just attend the reception. If you don't care enough to go to the ceremony you should not go at all.
2006-09-25 07:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I showed up just for the reception for my parents' neightbor's daughter's wedding. My brother and his fiance are having a small ceremony and a huge reception.
2006-09-23 21:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In theory, yes, it's rude.
However, if you have a legitimate reason for not being able to get there in time (for example, you have to work), most people would rather that you show up when you can.
While it is ideal that you're there to see the actual wedding, it's best to celebrate the marriage in whatever way you can.
2006-09-25 09:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not rude to just go to the reception.. my parents just did that today...they went to the reception but they didn't go to the wedding...i think as long as you go to one than its not rude...and its not rude if u don't go to any if u have a valid excuse...soo yea...its all on you!
2006-09-23 20:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by ashna03 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋