i know he loves me but sometimes i feel like he doesn't for example little stuff really bothers me like if he is paying more attention to a football game than me it makes me feel like he doesn't care about me...i had a very very messy childhood my parents abandoned me and i was raped and a whole bunch of other stuff...i think that is the reason why i sometimes feel like that how can i make him understand that he needs to be gentle with me?...i have told him little stuff hurts me but he doesn't really understand
2006-09-23 20:09:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should first try to repair yourself, rather than try to change him. Also I am a girl and I love football, try to get into the things he finds joy in.
2006-09-23 20:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by neon49 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what is the reason you can get from him to proof that he loves you ? Nope... he is getting tired or getting bored already ! If a guy loves a woman, she would be his whole world. He would care about her than his "football match", he would listen to his lady as long as she could talk no matter how tired he is. I means... hello, I love you and I can do, can hear, can care, can watch you from behind, in silence. How come he loves you but he just igrone you as nothing is happening ???? Asking yourself and talk to him. If he still love you, he will change. If not, girl, you need to think another the way out for you because you definately don't want your future life the same as your childhood !
2006-09-23 20:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ngoc L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your relying on him to much when the problem is yours and I'm not saying that to be mean, I'm saying it cause I know when you are coming from.
You have to stop smothering him, find some friends to go do stuff with when he has a game he really wants to watch better yet get y'all some chips and dip a couple of beers and sit and watch the game with him.
Are you seeing anyone for counseling or like a psychiatrist to deal with your feels of abandonment, trauma from being raped etc? That would be a really important step.
Realize if he did not care about you he would not be with you. You have to care about yourself too. Chances are he will never fully understand b/c it is not something he experienced but be patient with him but realize also your happiness is your responsibility not his, don't count on him to find it for you.
Hope it all works out for you.
2006-09-23 21:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by SpecialK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way about my boyfriend. He says I know that he loves me but, he can say the words to everyone else but me. He can tell everyone that he loves me butt me. I always come last. I too had a bad childhood and at my age my life has been dealt so many blows. Take time to heal yourself or you will ruin any relationship you are in
2006-09-23 20:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety your man don't understand what or where your coming from! What us men/guys need most of the time is a good wake call, next time your with him & he's paying 2much attention or concentrating on his football instead of you simply get up leave & say that your going to visit your mom or a friend & that you'll be coming back the next day so he should wait for you to come back. SEE HOW HE ACT'S OR REACTS TO THAT!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 20:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Darksword 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry hun, this may well be a tricky concern. ok permit me initiate by making use of telling you what I understand out of your short paragragh. you sense as while you're in love or a minimum of quite like this female and he or she purely isnt there or up for something, exhibiting you affection or something like that. yet she would act like she desires to be with you suitable purely no longer all there interior the affection ingredient suitable? How previous is she...is she youthful? Is she incredibly waiting for a dating? Has she ever been shown affection formerly by making use of her mum and dad or yet another relatioship? SHe would desire to easily be at beginer stages yet while no longer then all i will propose is this.....you're able to take a seat together with her and look her suitable interior the eyes and communicate together with her approximately this. Ask her how she feels and what she needs out of your dating. If she even is conscious. Ask her if she is waiting for a dating? tell her what you advised us. I comprehend you mentioned youve tried chatting together with her and you're constantly getting your coronary heart broken...yet examine out it this type, Do you actual need to proceed in a dating that isn't assembly your desires and needs, a loveless dating. everybody has there desires and while those desires are not being met in a dating (with the severity of yours) then your dating is barely going to worsen. Your coronary heart would be broken even worse interior the long-term. i'd could propose you are attempting one very final communicate and that i propose incredibly make her comprehend what it incredibly is doing to you and in case you dont get a reaction from her then i assume it wasnt ment to be and youll could pass on. Itll be difficult to do whether it perchance what it takes for her to awaken and comprehend what shes completed. sturdy success.
2016-10-01 07:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMg and how old are you
He really needs to be gentle with you
Try to explain to him what all that youve ben through
im 13 by the way
2006-09-23 20:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself and let him do stuff that he likes. It doesn't have to be all about you. It's not his fault you had a difficult childhood. If he loves you, then that's great. He doesn't have go out of his way to please you. Stop being selfish.
2006-09-23 20:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let your insecurities ruin your relationship. If something bothers you, let him know without accusing him of anything. That should help.
2006-09-23 20:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and if he doesn't understand dump him
2006-09-23 20:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by Enthusiast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋