Here I go, I am 20 yr old from Washington, I’ve been dumped by the first love year and a half ago. I haven’t gotten over it since. Yes you might think pft what a loser, GET OVER IT. To me, in my heart, it’s serious and I cannot get over it. I tried going to church finding a replacement, does NOT work. Before this incident I had lots of friends, lot of girls interested in me, I loved life. After being dumped (first girl I told “I love you” to) my friends are all gone (none whatsoever), no interest in girls (I tried). I am a real example of low life. Here is ordinary week, I mean EVERY week and I am not kidding. I wake up go to work at 11 am and I get off 4 pm mon-thur. After I get home I sit home watch tv, read, internet, or drive around randomly around town drinking starbucks. Fridays I work ALL day 11-9 and rent a movie right after work and pass out. Fridays and Saturdays I just sit home or drive around town pointlessly.
2006-09-23 20:01:35 · 13 answers · asked by Dispirited 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I bought a rental property hoping to find a sense of importance, that didn’t work because tenants never need anything fixed. I am starting college next semester hoping to just get busy doing something? I am sick of watching movies cause I seen every single dang one. College is like a hobby to me cause I got nothing else to do. Is this depression? I don’t think so don’t tell me to go seek medical advice. I am just not happy and this girl screwed up my life. I tried EVERYTHING. Who else do you know who drives around town for fun for 3 hours? Yea call me crazy, I can’t help it something is wrong w/ me. I try to keep busy reading.. I bought a rental property, pft, that was pointless. Tried getting friends they all seem to screw me over one way or another. Maybe I am just too nice? I am a REAL LOW LIFE. I am just looking for suggestions go ahead judge me, make rude remarks it’s okay I don’t mind that’s what I am hear for 3rd party perspective. Deeply appreciate it . God Bless!
2006-09-23 20:01:48 · update #1
Yes there are woman there, but I am not interested in woman, I am NOT gay trust me. They are pretty and everything... but it's just not working out for me, I just feel all alone, unimportant, I have no motivation whatsoever. I get attention from girls all of the time, I just don't respond because I just don't want to, it's just not a want in my heart. I am sick and tired of this but I can't fix it because I have no motivation to do ANYTHING, I just live life day by day and that's it. I hope this ends *tear* you people don't have any idea how sick and tired I am of feeling like this a YEAR AND A HALF oh my gosh, i actually am getting worried about myself truely. =(
2006-09-23 20:09:50 · update #2
By the way, suicide, I have no guts to do it. Plus I don't want to go to hell, I want to be with god and if he thinks I should live my lowlife than let it be. If he wants me dead than he will do it for me. So suicide is out of the question, I just CANT do it!
2006-09-23 20:11:07 · update #3
Starting school is a good thing...it will take up some of the space in your head that keeps all those negative thoughts. You can replace the negative thoughts with some knowledge.
Your depressed, it's all right. But a year and a half has passed, so get moving.
You will start to meet other girls and before you know it you'll be watching movies with them. Of course you will probably have to watch a few you have already seen over again...
Don't worry your not a "low life". I think your inviting people to make negative comments about you so it will give you something else to feel bad about. It's time you see the glass as half full not half empty.
Your normal, you got dumped. And I hope you get dumped many times to come. That will show you are part of the human race that wants to love and be loved. You're young and there will be many people interested in you to come. You'll be fine. Keep telling yourself that and one day you will be. Good luck and enjoy school.
2006-09-23 20:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm only 15, but here's my advice. 1. Stop drowning yourself in the past and look forward into the future. 2. Be confident in yourself for who you are. Otherwise you won't get out of this problem that you are trying to overcome. 3. Find something you like to do that involves interacting with other people. I would suggest finding a sport or hobby such as dancing or maybe even tennis or running. This will help you open your mind to the world and you will feel wanted and loved by friends. 3. Try getting involved with the community around you, unless it's a bad environment. Never hang out with bad influences no matter what you do. 5. Again, don't think about it soo much it'll bring your self esteem down and you will waste your precious time as an adult.... It's never to late to start something new. Have confidence and love yourself. Good luck :) I hope this helps man.
2016-03-27 06:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes a long time to get over someone. Sounds like she really broke your heart. But that doesn't make you a low life. Do you have any interests that you could take up? Also, I know you said not to tell you to go get medical advice but why not. If it would help you then do it. It sounds like you could use some anti-depressants. There is nothing wrong with getting a little help.
2006-09-23 20:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by k b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy, it's gonna be alright. Listen, Ive been in worse siituations and I've come out alright. The problem is whe you put all your eggs in one basket, you stand to lose everything. A girl can be like a drug. You sort of lose the ability to function normally. Nothing matters that used to be important to you, even things you used to enjoy. It must be a real pain in the *** to have this girl knock your self confidence down.
I'm not gonna get on you and tell you that you shouldnt feel how you feel, dude. Thats what happens with women sometimes. I think you need to find this girl and confront this. It sounds like seeing hers the only way you'll get out of this. Don't give up!
2006-09-23 20:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by sTRIKER 81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need yo get out and find a hobby or jog, bike , hike or at least go to the mall and be seen ! Get off your apathy !!! Stop doin' Starbucks ~ that's just overpriced java ! Have you ever noticed that all the lonely people only hang at Starbucks !
2006-09-23 20:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she didnt screw up your life....she just left you and yeh it hurt and you loved her BUT you are the one screwing up your life by letting it get to you like this. Go out and find ppl to play with and i dont mean sex......... jion a club even if you dont feel like it and eventually you will feel like it and you might even surprise yourself one day and find out your enjoying life again. Don't ever say that some one else screwed up your life though...its is your life and what you chose to do with it is on you not on anyone else. Getting your heart broken is a learning curb so learn your lesson then take your heart out there and get ready to learn the next one.
2006-09-23 20:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it one day at a time and find some new thing that interests you.Meet some new people etc.
2006-09-23 20:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Slaide2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not the only one who's been dumped by the person you truly love! okay, yes, it hurts, but life goes on. you can wait for her to come back for the rest of your life, but that doesn't mean that you should be a "dead man walking". reach your goal!
2006-09-23 20:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by Inquirer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you think your life is over!
2006-09-23 20:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be on the charming side. Where do you work? Aren't there women there?
2006-09-23 20:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋