I can forget about stuff, but deep down it still p!sses me
2006-09-23 19:30:13 · 25 answers · asked by owner4nothing 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Its called pride and i suffer from this very same affliction. People do me wrong and i try to forgive but the images keep coming back again and again. I think that this is the devils way of breaking my link with God. Everyone has trials and perhaps this one is yours. Don't give up keep trying.
2006-09-23 19:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If things like that still piss you off, there is no way you "forgot" about it. What you need to do is realize that no matter what happens, your life is still going on. You need to realize that it just doesn't matter when you wake up in the morning. I mean...do you really want whatever people do to you throughout your whole life, rule how you think and feel? I would hope that you are better than that. Beyond that,...you need to get over yourself. Who are you to hold grudges, just because you were inconvenienced for a minute? I'm sure you're not innocent as far as that sort of thing. The universe only gives you what you deserve, so take it and learn from it and shutup about it.
2006-09-24 02:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by kharmaangel328 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thin about it this way:
When u forfive them you are letting them go and therefore ridding urself of their bad actions. Why should you carry oround this hate? Just let it go and live free and light.
You r not showing any weakness by doing so only wisdom and learn from your mistake.
Ex: If X pissed you off once by standing u up or something, ignore her for a bit then forgive and never agree to go out alone with her.
2006-09-24 02:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by Gal in red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must just make the choice to forgive- but sometimes, if there is a bad relationship- friend or otherwise....you can forgive, but you should not have to keep forgiving for the same offense done over and over.
2006-09-24 02:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you? Personally, I'm not an instigator (much) but when push comes to shove, I won't back down. So if someone hasn't forgiven you or keeps taking advantage of you or whatever problems you're going through, don't forgive. Why reward people for their stupidity by forgiving them?
2006-09-24 02:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, so I read all of these answers and decided Debby B is correct.
SO correct that I typed out this sentence and posted it on my refrigerator (Thank You Debbie!)
"Un-forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Let it go - let God deal with them."
Wisdom can be found everywhere!!
2006-09-24 09:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by carole0103 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only human. However forgiveness is a strange thing, sometimes it can be therapeutic and allow us to move on. Sometimes it can be selfish or even self righteous. However it is all down to individual circumstances and how we individually choose to respond to those. So, don't beat yourself up just try and move on with your life.
2006-09-24 02:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone about your anger issues. I know it's hard to forgive people, but you really need to... not for them, but for yourself and your health. Try seeing things from their perspective.... as our native american ancestors would say, walk a mile in his mocassins... maybe that will help you forgive others more easily. I wish you well!
You DO NOT need God or religion to be able to forgive. That is total nonsense. I forgive people every day of my life... for cutting me off in traffic, for lying to me, for hurting me with words. And not once did I need God or prayer or religion to enable me to forgive.
You just tell yourself that, in the grand scheme of things in this life, this little event is a non-issue. It makes no sense to waste time and brain cycles worrying about it or dwelling on it... and you let it go.
If prayer helps all that much, there would be nothing to forgive to start with.
2006-09-24 02:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by Rogue Scrapbooker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a choice- forgive an you shall be forgiven- Forgiveness doesn't mean what they did was right = or that you should trust them-there are all kinds of jerks- unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die- let it go- let God deal with them- D
2006-09-24 02:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Bad news. Try dealing with it by turning it on it's head. Never forget and always forgive.
Also..try thinking about somethig bad you have done that you really really regret. Look on what the people who pissed you off have done to you as absolution.
2006-09-24 02:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by dws2711 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋