why do i feel that i want 2 get pregnant @ 14?

Question

i dont kno why i want 2 get pregnant but i do and everytime i see a person wit they baby,i get jealous cuz i want a baby,wat do i do?

Answer 1

You get an education and someday when you get married you will have a baby, you are very young and it is LOTS of responsiblity, however it is good that you love kids and want them, and all the more reason to be all that you can be to give them a good home someday!!!!! In the mean time take time to enjoy life, it is very precious and you want to have a lot to give your children!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

just chill...you're only 14. I hate to sound like every other person in the world, but it's true; you have your whole life ahead of you. 14?!...c'mon. Seriously. Do you even have a job? Babies cost money. People won't give you free s**t forever. Anyways...Hopefully, you have thought this out COMPLETELY. What do I mean?...I mean ALL the pros and cons. Do you have any idea how much choas is concerned when considering a baby? You're talking the whole nine yards...bottles, (every 4 hours at first), diapers, (they use the "potty" a lot more than you do...they eat every 4 hours), crying, (there will not always be a reason other than the fact that they are uncomfortable in some way), etc. If you think about this at all, you should notice, at first, that they eat and need diaper changes, roughly, about every 4 hours. You are 14, and I assume are in school. you already don't have time to have a baby, (if you want it alive and healthy). There are many more points, but I'll let someone else point out all that. One more thing,...it doen't look cool when you are hanging out with your friends with a baby. The first 4 years of a child's life is the most influencial. You don't want your child growing up to think that your babysitter is the mom. It's hard to take the love a child has for someone as your own. It's not healthy for the kid, either, to be confused as to who it's mom or dad is. Speaking of the dad...do you know what kind of legal responsibilites you are wanting to give some guy? How do you know they want, (or can handle), that kind of thing? Live your life and when you are ready to settle down for good and, (idealy), happily married, THEN think about a child...a family.

Answer 3

My ex-step daughter was the same way, but it started when she was about 8 or 9 insisting that when she got "old" (15 or 16) she was having a baby. Both her mother and father pretty much neglected her, i was the only one to really show her love and affection. When this happens and a child/teen does not feel loved you might get it in your head that if you had a baby you would have someone that would love you no matter what. Someone who is there for you always.
At 14 yrs old you are far to young to support a child and be a good mother. I had my son at 20 and it was too young. Graduate high school, and go to college, meet someone and be truly in love and get married, THEN have a baby. Too many people are having babies these days who can't take care of them. This affects the child greatly. The best situation for a child is to have two adult(25-30 atleast) parents who love each other and have an education.
Please, please don't get pregnant, you will regret it, give yourself time to have fun as a teen before you rush into adulthood/motherhood.
My ex-step daughter is now 17 a senior in high school and has agreed waiting for a baby is the right thing to do.

Answer 4

It's okay to want to be a mom, I have known I wanted to be a mom since I was a young girl, but having children out of a jealous urge isn't the wisest choice. Babies are very hard work and they grow into toddlers and then children. You aren't just having a baby, but you are responsible for another person's life 24/7 for the next 18 years. If I were you would would try to think to myself "I can't wait to have a baby someday when I am ready" and then focus on other hobbies.

Answer 5

I don't know why you're having these feelings of wanting to become a mother, but I have some advice for you...DON'T DO IT!! You'll ruin your life before it really starts and may end up resenting the kid because you can't "have fun" or "be a normal teenager". If you're wanting a child simply because you think it would be cool to have a baby, you're in for a rude awakening. Being a mother entails more than just pushing a baby in a stroller and feeding it. When you become a mother, your perspective on life changes, mostly for good, unfortunately for some, for bad. Believe me, I went to school with girls who become moms WAAAAAY before they should have and complained endlessly about how they couldn't find a babysitter and wished they had never had their kids.

Some teen mothers have abused and even killed their children because they blamed them for their lack of freedom. At 14, you're not mentally or emotionally ready to be a mother, let alone take care of yourself without any help, so having a baby shouldn't even be a thought in your mind.

Rethink your priorities, enjoy being a teen, and stop trying to grow up too fast!

Answer 6

I feel the same way, except I'm 18, but I've wanted a baby since before I can remember. A lot of people will talk down to you and say you just want a doll, or your still a child yourself, or you can't handle the responsiblity. Now, that being said, I was very fournate I got through high school without getting pregnant (I didn't try to either, and I'm not trying now) because having a baby changes everything, I knew some girls that dropped out and I knew some girls that went to our Alternative school and some who stayed in regular school. I've talked to them. They told me it was soo hard to stay in school espically when they felt sick. The best thing I can tell you, and I can only give advice, is to just wait untill your out of school because it will makes it at least 50% easier, but having a child is never easy, sometimes they get really sick, sometimes their dad takes off, sometimes they cry and cry and cry and it gets frustating. I would also recommend getting a job, when your a little older, at a daycare (like I did). I got to see and talk to parents and see what babies are really like.

Answer 7

Alot of young girls feel like they want to get pregnant, and I think its due to a combination of 2 things. 1. Uncontrollable, changing hormones that all teens have and 2. insecurity and lack of sense of self. The second sounds harsh but I don't mean it that way. the changes we go through at 14 are big, and we're all trying to get to know ourselves and carve out our identities. This makes people feel insecure, as many teens, boys and girls, frequently do. Basically, alot of girls think they want a baby because in their minds they think the child will be something that will love them unconditionally, and give them an identity. This false logic seems like a shortcut to security...until the baby's born!

So what should you do? Start babysitting! It'll make you put the baby thing in perspective, as well as make you feel better about your capabilities (if you're good at it). It'll also give you an opportunity to be trusted and respected by the children's parents, which will boost any teen's self esteem and confidence (to be seen as trustworthy and mature by adults, I mean).
You can also try volunteering. When I was your age I felt the same way, and found that volunteering at my church's daycare really helped me to feel responsible, charitable, and more aware of how much a pain in the butt kids really are :)

If that doesn't do it for you, find other teen moms that you can talk to about the reality of teen parenting.

Answer 8

It is a balance of hormones and "missing" something.

However, it is normal to go through "wanting baby" stage. My mom went through that after she had me, cuz she knew she couldn't have any more. (hysterectomy after I was born). Sometimes she wants one even at her age, late 40's.

I went through the "baby" stage at your age too. Sometimes even at 21 I would like to be a mother.

You just need to realize it is a blessing, but you must be ready for it. At 14, you are not as ready as you could be. The baby is relying on you to support and provide. At 14, not able to due to being a student, no job and not able to support yourself. Can't support a child if can't support yourself.

A baby doesn't stay a baby either. They grow up. If you realized what goes on in carring for a child, you would quickly change your mind until you live your life more, knowing you don't need to find babysitters, work hard to provide for the baby and go with out a goodnight sleep most of the time.

The best advice you can ever recieve is to wait until you are an adult and lived your life to the fullest. Then when you feel you had your "play time" and ready to settle down to raise a family, then do so. At 14, your life is just barley begining.

What would you tell your 14 year old who wanted a baby, that you are still supporting and raising your 14 year old, now going to raise your 14 year old plus a baby since she can't? Have to think of it that way.

Being a mother is a 24/7 job. You can't quit your day job, you can quit school, you can call in at work when sick, you can stay in bed all day when sick.

But you can't do that with a child. You can't quit being a mother unless you give up your legal rights. You can't hand the baby off to someone else when you are sick nor stay in bed all day. The child depends on you, no matter how sick you feel. I remember my mom getting amonia (spelling? or however said) and she still had 3 kids to take care of, plus work to provide, plus school. All being a single mother. Which being a single mother is much harder than if had a spouse/father in the picture.

Answer 9

looks cute but you dont see when those people go home with those babies and are up when your sleeping feeding a crying baby, they are cute but their a really big responsibility your not old enough to work how will you support a baby and you need to get your education first so you will have something to teach your child. And get married. Thiers alot of thing you have to look into before makeing a decision like that. Remember when that baby starts crying you cant give it back.

Answer 10

volunteer at a daycare..start babysitting for people...your too young for a baby. Get your licenses and tghen get a diploma find a good bf...a baby just doesnt love you you have to give it every part of you. everything you have in you day in and day out theres no break time to hang out with freinds or play on the computer nothing you cant even go to the bathroom with out them most of the time. They are sooo expensive and you cant just work a fast food job and make it by trust me sweetie wait til you find a good guy and a good job before you want a baby til then go babysit or something

Answer 11

You are a lonely girl looking for a place in this crazy world.Having a child is more than holding .Do you have a good relationship with your Mom? If yes go talk to her about this. If no then i think maybe you want to give the that you arent getting from your mother.Go talk to an older person you feel cares. good luck and please wait until you are older and secure in money. A Baby cost alot now.