My bf recently quit his job, it was a sales job and was a scam i would say. It took him a few months to find it after he got laid off from his other job. He made no money at this scam place, and actually spent around $2000 on expenses that arent going to be reinbursed. We were already in the red before then, but now it is rediculous. I am working at a call center full time bringing in about $1000 a month. He is not responsible with money. We have a very limited income now and the house is gone into foreclosure. We have had help financially but it still does not cover expenses. The gas has been shut off for a few weeks now. I have been very thrifty lately and for good reasons! He does not have access to my funds because he has a record of poor spending habit and impulse buys. He is mad because I will gove hima few dollars here and there but I do not give my money to him carefree like he has done to me in the past. I think he is just trying to ignore the fact that we are in dire
2006-09-23 19:15:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
straights. He thinks I am being selfish for keeping the money the way I do. I know I am right but why does he think I am selfish?? I have a car payment too!!
2006-09-23 19:15:36 · update #1
Send him packing you'll save money...
2006-09-23 19:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He figures by calling you selfish that you'll give in and do what he wants. You should tell him that he can go to the man-power office before 6 am every morning and work for the day. 40+ hrs/wk and he might even learn some new skills. I don't care what his education is, he can get a job flipping burgers until he finds something better. Some income is better than no income. Burger King starts their cooks out higher than any other place except for In and Out Burger. If you have the desire to be employed...you will be.
2006-09-24 02:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up and and frickin' get off his lazy apathy butt and pound the pavement everyday looking for work ! You need a real man and not some stupid punk with an attitude ~ He'll always try to take the easy way out !
Tell him if, he doesnt get a job he can sleep with the crickets outside ! Mc Donald's is hiring down the street ! What a loser !!! Give him only a PB & J + bus money to find a job !
Tell him you need a REAL MAN !!!
2006-09-24 02:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... it definitely sounds like you need to have a tight grip on the money if the house has gone into foreclosure. He needs to get a job (ANY job)... Mc Donalds... whatever... and yesterday. He shouldn't be worrying about spending money... he needs to be working to help you out. -- no "few months" in between jobs either. Sounds like times are VERY tough right now and he needs to swallow his pride and get any job he can right now to bring in his own money and add to the household income.
2006-09-24 02:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider my story for a moment.....
I am sitting in a room which is in the middle of my house, and the entire structure is on fire. I can hear the crackling of the fire as it eats away at the wood skeleton of my dwelling. I am starting to feel the heat, and my breathing is becoming labored as the oxygen is depleted from the air I breathe.
Yet I refuse to make any effort to save myself, because I just know that this devastating condition is going to stop before it consumes my life.
Wait.....this is not my story...it is your life.
Get the picture..........GET OUT !!
2006-09-24 02:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried explaining it to him in your own, carefully chosen, words? Be honest with him, even if you need to be blunt. With that bad of past financial irresponsibility, it's fairly reasonable that you would take matters into your own hand. Someone has to make sure you both will still have a place to live and food to eat.
If he continues to show such unnecessary and immature behaviour, both in finances and relationship, I would take a good look at your future with him and see just how far it would go - both the good and the bad.
2006-09-24 02:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by universetiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl, sum boyz dey jst wana spend da money but dey really dont knw all da hard work u put in to earn as much as u can...rite?
well u r not bein sellfish datz for sure but u r tryin 2 use da money on important thingz rather den spendin it unwisely. plus u bf has 2 get a job coz u cnt b buyin thingz 4 him...it has 2 be equal share of work. all tha best with ur life
2006-09-24 02:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just feels upset that he can't help YOU out better, so he is expressing it in anger, the way most men express their emotions! :)
I think you are right to not let him control your money if he has such a bad rep with money. Have you talked to any sort of Health and Human Services places around? Maybe they can help you out? Low-income help type stuff.
2006-09-24 02:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by ucd_grad_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you are selfish because he is-as well as being immature and irresponsible.
Fighting over money is the pits in any relationship-
send him to college to get a trade or a degree in something so he can make something of his life and cultivate independence and self esteem.
Best of luck to you
2006-09-24 02:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by meema 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men react differently in situations in which he has lost control. Inside, he probably feels that he let you down. You're doing the right thing with the money side of it. Now just try to get him to talk to you about his real problems.
2006-09-24 02:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by civicsound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope he s the selfish one tell the bum to get a job or hit the road there s no reason for you to be pickin up his slack life is hard enough carrying your own weight let alone draggin around a whole body of dead weight i wish you the best
2006-09-24 02:19:45 · answer #11 · answered by glass_city_hustla 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋