She was house sitting at my mom's apartment, and she was talking to a friend on the porch. They were both drinking, so I decided to knock on the door. I herd them putting bottles in the trash and when she opened the door, I walked in and looked in the porch to see the beer and wine coolers were gone so I was like man I could use a beer right now, do you have any? My sister looked at me funny, but her friend offered me a beer so I took it. My sis told me not to tell because mom would freak out. I told her that I have seen worse, and I would not tell. Did I make the right call, or should I have told on her?
2006-09-23 19:13:56 · 23 answers · asked by james w 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my roomate said that I should of told.
2006-09-23 19:16:02 · update #1
You should probably just encourage your sister to be careful. Telling mom ain't going to stop your sister from drinking .. she will still drink if she wants - just hate you while doing it.
You drank with her .. how could you tell on her now? If you really feel mom needs to know, then you should encourage your sister to tell on herself.
But I still believe the best idea is to just tell you sister to be careful and make sure she doesn't drink and drive, etc.
2006-09-23 19:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not honestly think it is a problem you may want to consider keeping quiet this one time. If however it happens again you may want to give your Mom a heads up, that is NOT being a tattle tale it is being a concerned brother. Do remember if you say something you will be ticking your sis off and keeping her from wanting you to know anything about what she is doing and that is not necessarily a good thing b/c one day it may be something more serious that she is into and then you won't know anything about it. (not to imply that drinking is not serious just that she wasn't wasted or anything).
Also if this seems out of character for her it could have been more of who she was with than her really. I mean who bought the beer? Did she just not want to seem uptight so she drank too? I guess I just mean try to see it from her angle you don't really know the complete story of what was going on till you talk to her. If it will make you feel reassured that it is not an on going thing talk to her about it. In a nor confrontational way.
Just be honest and tell her it worried you and you are concerned about her. She will feel good that her brother is watching out for her but also feel like she can trust you b/c you did keep it between you two.
2006-09-23 19:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by SpecialK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had something to drink, also. Are you planning on telling your Mom that both of you were drinking or are you planning on just snitching on her?
If you Mother doesn't want you drinking at her house then you both disrespected her Home and her wishes.
Your sister is Grown...but it's no excuse to dishonor or deceive someone so dear.
2006-09-23 19:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Vera W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing but the reason for not telling your mom wasn't right in my opinion. As a brother it was important for you to apprise your sister of the sinister & harmful effects of drinking... not because "mom would freak out".
2006-09-23 19:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should, but not in a tattle tale way. Tell your parents in a subtle way, ease into the subject. The more people that know would maybe help encourage her or teach her to be safe when alcohol is involved. Not saying drinking is bad, but do it safe. It could save her life in the future
2006-09-23 19:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your right she is too young and if you tell she will only hate you and loose trust in you, look she has too grow up and make her own decisions in life just give her a talk and tell her the dark side of alcohole and that balance is everything, telll her not to abuse it or it will abuse her thats all....
2006-09-23 19:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by king cobra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your sister drinks on a daily basis or she is in some way going to hurt herself or others, don't be such a tattletale. If you are concerned about her talk to her. If you keep catching her then you maybe should inform your parents.
2006-09-23 19:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, at 18 ur sister shouldnt be drinking anyway. U wouldnt be snitching but just think about it: would she tell on you if she caught u drinkin?
2006-09-23 19:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by good4u06@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your sister is an adult. She is free to make her own choices. The drinking ange should be 18 where it belongs an adult is an adult period.
2006-09-24 02:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be a good idea. You don't want this to become a problem in her life. So please tell your mother. It is really in your sisters best interest.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-09-23 19:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋