okay I am just recently starting to date this woman and tonight she has plans with a friend who she is going to have dinner and watch a movie with. Now she is open to telling me this guys name and how she has alot of male friends and I have acted nothing but cool with it...but my question is should I ask how she knows this guy or should I just continue staying cool about it because we are just dating and I will see her tomorrow as a matter of fact
2006-09-23 19:13:26 · 8 answers · asked by chewey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
chill for about a week, and then make a decision based on how things go
2006-09-23 19:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say dating do you mean you two are open to see other people? If so you have no choice but to act cool about it. If you have a commitment with her still act cool, but next time ask if you can go out with them next time. If the answer is yes then likely like the majority of women she does have alot of guy friends. If the answer is no either commit to her (b/f & g/f) or tell her you will be seeing other girls. If she is really into you she would not like the thought of you with another girl. Last if you can't deal with it cause you'll only be able to act cool for awhile before you blow up let her go she does'nt deserve you. You do not deserve to be used, taken advantage of, walked on like a doormat, etc...
2006-09-23 19:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by umcntry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its early days so you gotta show trust....She also at the same time needs to earn it.Basically let her be herself,however if a situation becomes suspicious or scary for you then dont hold back.Let her know that you have not stopped her loosing her identity but you are human with feelings.Of course you too should be enjoying female friends too.This way the other person willl always have to understand as you are both in the same circumstance.Its hard I know but you dont want to lay down the law about something you never needed to because she is indeed genuine.
2006-09-23 19:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jade V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aah, timeless situation and question
Understanding Different Types of Guy Friends:
The Ex - Very Bad. People don't talk to their ex's unless they still have feelings for each other or are legally bound to due to children. very simple.
The Co-Worker - On a professional level, you never go out with an opposite sex co-worker alone. NEVER. Group of co-workers - that's fine
The Sandbox Friend - This is the guy she's known forever. He's like a brother. The thought of ever being in a relationship with him makes her want to puke, but she still is his friend after all these years. These are usually safe. You might be jealous when they hash up some old memories, but keep in mind if they were yours, you wouldn't be with her now.
The Committed Guy Friend - He has a girlfriend/wife of his own. These can be healthy - gives each of them someone to talk to about their own relationships. But this shouldn't be a daily or weekly thing - once every few months
The Gay Friend: 100% SAFE - might be crazy, he might not like you, but at least you know he isn't trying to get in her pants. Though do watch out if all of her friends are "gay" - she might just be telling you that - do some research if that seems to be a trend.
The "Just a Friend" Guy Friend: You don't know much about him. You're not sure if he's single or married or how the two of them met. They do strange things together that you don't ordinarily do together or its mysterious and unknown as to what they do or she seems to disappear for hours - with him. These friends BREED jealousy and trust issues, even if 100% innocent. Beware.
So Now For My Advice:
You say you're "just dating". And yet you seem to like this girl enough to maybe take it to the exclusive level.
i'd stay cool about it for a little while - maybe a few more weeks yet - but eventually you need to be upfront with her: say hey i'd like you to be the only person i am dating - i'm not asking for committment or anything like that - just if i start to let myself fall for you hard like i want to, i want to know you're not sleeping with anyone else - its cool to have friends, I respect that, etc. etc.
She's being pretty honest and upfront with you about what she's doing with the other guy - that's a good sign. whatever you do, don't be demanding or jealous or posessive - most women hate that.
hope that helps :)
2006-09-23 19:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Chelle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are just dating then stay out of it act interested enough to show her that you are very interested in her but not so interested that you look like a controlling and manipulative jerk
do what you are doing and if you get serious with her let her know that she will not be having in male friends like that and that it will not continue out of respect and common corteousness.
beware that she may be having sex with these friends and perhaps you need to brace yourself for that if you hadn't thought of it already... thats alteas the way is sounds to me
2006-09-23 19:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that she has friends who happen to be male.
If she's been friends with him for years, she's not gonna drop that for some guy (you) she just met who doesn't trust her and is already showing demanding- and jealousy-type behaviours. And if she does, then you'd have to question her loyalty to those she supposedly cares about.
2006-09-23 19:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by dreaming1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you stay too cool about it and she'll get insulted. because she's a girl, that's why.
2006-09-23 19:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by nobudE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill all her other guy friends-- problem solved.
2006-09-23 19:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by LOL IDK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋