Why Me (So depressed. Please help!)?

Question

Is there some kind of mental health disorder associated with one subjecting oneself to multiple sexual abuses? Serious answers only please.

Answer 1

Low self -esteem. Being victimized and abused (emotional, verbal, physical or sexual) can make you feel as if you have no value, so you look for something to make you feel, even if it only makes you feel bad.

You are not worthless. You are the victim of abuse and that is nothing to be ashamed of. Stop subjecting yourself to the abuses if you can and see that it gives you a sense of power. Tell yourself you deserve to be treated with respect and begin to do it for yourself. You are a lovely and valuable person and you don't need the abuse to make you "feel" or be someone.

There are lots of self help books, therapists and web sites that can help you. Please know that many of us care about you, and want you to care as much for yourself as you should. Every time a thought comes up that feels bad, say STOP and block it and find something else to think about. Reframe the bad things in life and start walking towards the good. Even if its hard to find, its a journey you need to start. Good luck. Don't ever forget how valuable you are. One day, you will be in the position to help others.

Answer 2

I am unsure what you mean by "multiple sexual abuses". If you are referring to relationship where you are physically abused by your significant other, there isn't. It is most commonly associated with "that's what you are used too" and you just keep going back to it. Possibily you are afraid of something else because you don't know anything else. If you are referring to actual sexual abuse, it could be a variety of reasons. If you were molested, raped, etc as a child, that definitely comes back to how you are going to act and who you are going to seek in a partner when you are older.

From the time I was 12-14, I was raped by my "big brother" - one of those programs for young boys. He told me it was perfectly normal and that all big brothers did this for their little brothers and it was part of growing up. That went on for a long time and then he started "selling" me to his friends and such. When I was older, I looked for the people that would use and abuse me, cause that is all I thought I was worth. It took till the time I was about 22, to break out of it and it took going to a counselor for over 2 years to break me out of it. You might want to look into a counselor or someone that you can talk to about these issues, as I am not a professional. I only have life experience and I can tell you that it isn't healthy at all and it is just doing more damage to you in the end. I hope to hear about this in the future on your progress.

Answer 3

The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network is the nation's largest anti-sexual assault organization. RAINN operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline and carries out programs to prevent sexual assault, help victims and ensure that rapists are brought to justice.

The Online Hotline, which is a secure web-based crisis hotline, provides live, secure and completely confidential help to victims through an interface as intuitive as instant messaging. For the first time ever, victims who need help, but are reluctant to call the telephone hotline, have the option of communicating securely online with someone who has the training to help them take steps toward recovery.

The Online Hotline is available from 4 pm to 6 pm EST, Monday through Friday. More days and times will open within the next few weeks and months.

Please contact them and get yourself some help immediately.
Good luck for the future.

Answer 4

There can be many reasons why one would partake in such practices.It can be related to past sexual encounters ,possibly abuse of some sort.Feelings of insecurity and lack of self esteem can also be another reason.There are options for help.Perhaps seeing a social worker to start with and taking each visit at a time.Seeking help is a huge yet positive step.All the best

Answer 5

Do you mean a disorder where you let yourself get abused by others? If that's what you mean, it could just be depression. People might let others hurt them in such a way because, for ex, they feel guilty and that they need to be punished, and that is an ultimate way to be punished. Or, they may feel that they are nothing and it doesn't matter, and they might want to hurt themself in that way. Also, some people are naturally drawn to abusive relationships, which could lead to sexual abuse. Does any of that help? Is this question referring to you or someone you know? If so, you need to get help (for you or someone else) immediatly. If it is you, call someone and tell them. I would suggest a counselor right away, you need to curb this before it gets worse, and you need to deal with this. If it is someone else you know, take this same info, just tweak it for use w/ others ya know? well, don't really know what else to say. If you need to talk, feel free to contact me. Good luck, and please keep safe.

Answer 6

PTSD?
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Answer 7

yes there is but I cant diagnose it. If one subjects oneself to multiple sexual abuses and one has a free choice, you are making unhealthy choices. mental health professionals help us with our health choices. they can help you see why you do what you are doing and help guide you to make healthy choices. a simple mental health disorder does not mean one is crazy but that one needs help. so please seek the help from a professional counselor.

Answer 8

Yes...

Sometimes, people associate pain/sex with love and approval. Especially if it is all they have ever known. And when someone tries to be gentle in sex, it feels weird and wrong.

This happens to many woman who were sexually abused/raped as children(or teenagers) by someone they trusted... i.e. a father or a father figure.

Perhaps you should see a doctor. It is better to ask these kinds of questions to someone who is truly qualified to answer them.

I hope you feel better...
T.

Answer 9

yes, it's another form of self-punishment, similar to cutting. You are addicted to causing yourself harm. This can happen if you've experienced childhood abuse. You should talk to a professional about it. Therapy may be helpful, and an antidepressant may help underlying depression.

You don't need to abuse yourself in this way. You can face other serious consequences like AIDS, hepatitis or other sexually transmitted diseases. Get help as soon as you can.

Good luck!

Answer 10

with multiple sex abuses u get the mental disorder this is very natural . don't get panic and try to resolve multiple sexual abuses