My husband loves his kids (9 month old son and 5 yr old daughter), however, he will leave my 9 month old son alone on the floor. I work nights and I sleep during the day. Sometimes I wake up to find my husband on the computer and my son alone down stairs. I don't know how long he leaves him down there, but he always tells me it was only for a minute. I am getting very frustrated with the situation. He has left him alone on the bed and my son has fallen. Today he placed him in the high chair and he did not place the strap around my son, nor did he secure the tray. The tray came loose and my son fell out of the high chair and he split his lip open. I checked him out and other than a bruised lip he is ok, but my husband's reaction is "oh he is ok, he is going to have some bumps and bruises." It drives me crazy. We constantly fight over it. My husband just thinks I am a nag, but I feel I am the only one fighting for our children.
2006-09-23 18:48:07 · 6 answers · asked by Beth V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He shouldn't leave a 9 month old downstairs alone .. that is for sure ...
But make sure you are not being over protective either ..that is not good either... and I am not saying that you are ... it's just that I was at a function tonight where we all agree that the Mother is extremely over protective. The father on the other hand is very 'under protective' and we believe that he does so to get his wife to 'loosen' up a bit .. I just caution you to make sure that your husband is not doing the same. It's a little different in that this case is related to a 2 year old; and the mother will not allow her to walk from one side of the room to the other without jumping up and holding her hand over the corner of the end table in case the child would get too close to it and bump into it.
I think you need to sit down with him and have a conversation and it sounds like the two of you need to find some common ground somewhere in the middle.
Best of luck.
2006-09-23 18:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are definately not a nag. Dad is definately being irresponsible. Sure bumps and bruises are going to happen, but the ones your child received could have been prevented. In some states, that's neglect honey. If hubby has a problem paying attention to the children, remove the cord to his computer while you are sleeping so that he has nothing else to do but watch the kids. If that won't work, send him out to do errands with the little ones while you catch some sleep. Or you can teach him the ultimate lesson. Arrange for Grandma to sneak in and take the baby while you are sleeping and he's left baby alone so he can be on his computer. Eventually he's going to check on the little one and he's going to freak when he can't find him. It'll be an eye opener.
Until he gets the point, don't stop nagging honey. It's your job to protect that baby. And if that means you are getting less sleep to make sure he's taken care of, you may just have to do that.
2006-09-23 19:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a husband and father of 2 (boy 10 girl 6) and while i can't say how you can get him to do it I can say that he shows no respect for you or the children. It is a matter of time before the child falls out of the highchair and breaks a bone or worse. Yes, bumps and bruises happen, but why not put a litte effort into at least trying to stave off the unneccessary ones. You are not a nag, he is simply irresponsible.
2006-09-23 18:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by citizen_chandler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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