I have a friend who I met in College. She is 24 and Married. She does not have any biological children yet. She told me that she does not have a problem with people of the same sex getting married. However, She told me that she hates it when a girl touches her or gives her a quick hug. Even if the girl considers herself to be straight. She also said that if she ever had a girl baby she would never breast feed her, because she says its gay for one girl to be sucking on another girls breast. What would you all say to her?
2006-09-23 18:39:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
she is very ignorant or is trying to hide something
2006-09-23 18:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
That she is really silly, her child's nutrition has nothing to do with sex or sexuality.
She maybe having a phobia because she might have been sexual abused in her child hood. Or had bonding issues related to her mother, she may have been abused by her mother so that why she sees a correlation between beast feeding a daughter?
I think she needs some help working through this, because if she ever has a daughter, she will have bonding issues even if she doesn't breastfeed given the fact that she views the suckling of a child as sexual?
2006-09-23 19:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by pirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as far as the breast feeding goes I would tell her that that is a natural thing . Before formula was made, mothers had to breast feed. That is the way we were all made, if it were gay to breast feed a girl then mothers wouldn't make milk when they had girls. It is every mothers choice to breast feed or not, but it shouldn't be thought of as gross. As far as the hugging and stuff, I think that is fine. For me personally I don't like it when anyone hugs me unless it is my signifigant other or a child, or an animal. I guess you could say that I have a "bubble" and maybe she does too.
2006-09-23 18:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by wentdownkickin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'd say she has had some sort of event in her life to scar her (ie a rape or molestation from a female). i don't think she's quite homophobic because she's ok with same sex unions but not girls or the touch of a woman. i would urge her to go to a psychologist to get to the bottom of this issue. i'd also encourage her to invest in a breast pump or let her know it isn't "gay" to breast feed your child. that is the best form of nutrition for a new born so she shouldn't deprive a daughter of that but not a son.
2006-09-23 20:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am like her. I don't have a problem with gay marriages either, and I also am not one of those touchy-feely people that has to touch someone on the arm or give them a hug. Some women are uncomfortable with the idea of breastfeeding, and if they attempt the baby can pick up on it and it can end up being a very frustrating event for both the baby and mom.
2006-09-23 18:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To not breast feed a baby because she is a girl is really out there, she needs help.
I have a friend who freaked out when she was told that another girl thought she was attractive......now they are in a relationship together for 3+ years
2006-09-23 23:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Laura G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she either needs counseling or she is homophobic. If she is confident in her sexuality why would it matter if another girl hugged her? And breastfeeding isn't a sexual experience, it's a way for a mother to nurture and feed her baby! Sounds like she has deep rooted issues.
2006-09-23 18:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not extra so than heterosexuality. And while you're arranged to call heterosexuality a phobia, then I haven't any issues of accepting that definition for homosexuality to boot. yet while this have been the case, why are we drawn to our comparable gender? i will understand turning on your very own gender romantically in case you have been worried of intercourse with the different one, yet homosexuality is lots better than that. that is not something we do out of convenience. we've an overpowering charm to our very own genders that is autonomous of how we experience concerning to the different gender. i do in comparison to men with the aid of fact ladies do no longer do it for me. that is extra that i'm so into men that ladies become an afterthought. i'm no longer prompted by ability of concern, yet charm. additionally i does no longer evaluate homosexuality a phobia of reproducing, with the aid of fact maximum homosexuals i be attentive to wish infants. Our maternal/paternal emotions stay intact. finally phobias tend to be irrational and in some way debilitating, and that i'm undecided heterosexuality or homosexuality qualify for this.
2016-10-17 21:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has there own comfort zone. Some guys don't like to be touched by other guys. And some guys go around hitting each other on the butt. Some women are very comfortable holding hands or hugging or being around each other naked. Some are not. I didn't want to breast feed because it didn't feel conferable to me. I don't think it's gay, it just didn't feel comfortable to me. I think she just has her own opinions on things, as do you. Just let her be herself. Her opinions aren't anymore wrong then yours.
2006-09-23 19:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Feeding a baby is not sexual and a girl deserves to have the same healthy advantages of breastfeeding as a boy. I think your friend has some sexually confused ideas.
2006-09-23 18:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she needs counseling. Maybe she suffered some kind of trauma when she was growing up, and she needs to get over it. Breastfeeding a baby is the most natural thing there is.
2006-09-23 18:45:28 · answer #11 · answered by Baby_latina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋