B/C he thinks I could never measure up to be a Pastor's Wife. What a jerk!! And he tells me now!! On mon, he said he loves me 4ever!! The hell is going on here?? This isn't the first time!! He has done drugs in his past life, I think if affected him 4 decision making, what u all think.? I still love him. But if he no longer loves me what can I do. B/c I can make him love me. It hurts, Love STINKS! And MOST men are liars. MY QUESTION IS>>>>>
IF HE COMES BACK LATER, END OF THIS YR, TO APOLOGIZE. (HE IS IN BIBLE SCHOOL NOW) SCHOOL I TAKE HIM BACK>???? IF HE SAYS HE IS SORRY, HE WAS CRAZY, ETC... THANK YOU SO MUCH AND ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 18:23:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not the heart of a true christian that beats in his chest if he believes himself superior enough to judge your future potential. Self-Respect is the only thing you have to lose if you take him back.
2006-09-23 18:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well right now of course you would take him back because you still have feelings for him and want to be with him, but hopefully once you get over the heartbreak, you will be able to sit down and think about if this is someone you really want to be with. Only you can decide if you would want to take him back.
Usually when people turn their lives over to God, they start to judge everyone else around them and that is totally wrong...especially considering all the wrong doing he has done in the past. So it's up to you if you take him back IF he decides to come back...But at the same time, you have to accept that he might not. In the meantime, move on with your life. Who knows, if he does try to come back, you may not even want him anymore.
2006-09-24 01:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think if he is judging you now what is it going to be like if you go back to him and you 2 get married. His thoughts on you not being a pastor's wife material is a cope out. He has other reason and he is not telling you. Yes you are right most guys are liars and we have to decide what we have to do to make ourselves happy. If you take him back you take back someone who has judged you wrongly. Then if you move on with your life you could find someone who will not judge you but will accept you for who you are. my big issue with this is why did he wait 4 yrs before he decided this and why? Just thinking out loud.
My advice is to move on and find that someone speical. He rejected you so you need to reject him.
2006-09-24 01:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't sound like you would make a preacher wife. Maybe he was right in thinking that. If he comes back later then that would be between the two of you what kind of a decision is the best.
2006-09-24 01:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't come back and stop fantasizing... you'll only hurt yourself more.
Be happy for him, he's fulfillin his calling in Bible school.
If you really love him more than yourself, let him go.
The only thing left for you to do is to leave this in God's hands. Cos your ex will prob be hearing alot from Him now onwards...
take it easy, girl.
2006-09-24 01:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I dont think he doesnt love you. Just because you love someone doesnt mean that you have to be with them.
Dont sit around and wait for him to come back because it may never happen..move on with your life. Get closure.
IF he ever comes back...make your decision then, you might not want to be with him then.
2006-09-24 01:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take him bk. really he sounds like a jerk. how can he judge u when no1 is perfect? and if ur not 'perfect ' for him now u will never be. dnt get me wrong. im sure ur a wonderfull person. he is just being a self richious prrrk. ur way better than that im sure. be strong
2006-09-24 01:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, alot of guys will say stuff that they FEEL at the time, but feelings change. It doesn't mean they lie though. It'll hurt at the time, but you'll get over it. May God be with you and may he watch over you
2006-09-24 01:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Paul W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one lets see i wood let him go CZ of the drug thing he may be burnt out i know the love for him is in your heart if you can let it do so sorry that's what i think good luck to you
2006-09-24 01:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way you just insulted him several times,I find it hard to believe that's the only reason you split up;)
2006-09-24 01:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋