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Why is it the military families get benifits and rent free but a single mom with no other half has to apply for benifits and gets called welfare trash? Do we need to rethink about where our taxes are going? Do you believe some children should have more privelidges when their parents refuse to work just because one half is in the military. Shouldnt all adults be incouraged to work, including military wives? Military families vrs. Civilian families. I work hard for everything we have, just wonder why our taxes go to this. Why do we turn the other cheak when its a military house hold, but call a single parent house hold trash? Should she not be required to get a job when her man goes away like every other single parent?

2006-09-23 18:22:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government Military

before any more people post or presume that I am on welfare or single....please read the whole statement.

2006-09-23 18:50:24 · update #1

I love America and am patriotic as can be. To say I think a mother should support her family military or not makes me a bad American? oh sheesh...If my other half left tomarrow I would still have to work.....why not them?

2006-09-23 18:58:32 · update #2

30 answers

Wellll, the major difference in the scenario you bring up is that a military family has 2 parents, but a single mom has by definition 1. Both involve a family with at least 1 parent working. Many military wives are employed as well, it's just that the jobs available are limited because of how frequently the family is forced to pull up stakes and move.
The detail may qualify as a "nit" being picked, but military housing is'nt free. It's incredibly cheap, but not totally free. In many ways it's better that a serviceman's spouse has it this way. The divorce rate for servicemen is incredibly high. The strain of having one frequently gone, and maybe never coming home alone puts a strain on a marriage. The military wife often has to perform as both parent figures, and manage the details of family/home life without help, because her husband is gone 24/7 for months at a time. It makes the life of a military wife remarkably similar to that of a single mom.

2006-09-24 08:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

My wife and I get housing and the other benefits because im in the Marines. I have to be away from her all the time for exercises and deployments. Some of the benefits are just compensation and the rest is just like any other job... if you worked at any job with benefits you would receive health benefits and everything else. In some cases the benefits would be better. A military family is not the same thing as a single parent, I understand single parents should maybe get more help than what's available, but they can't really be compared.

2006-09-24 01:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Muff 2 · 1 0

The question you ask could be about Lawyers. A lawyer's spouse probably doesn't need to work, because the lawyer's salary and benefits are enough to cover the whole family's expenses. The spouse could work and bring in more money, or not, that's their family's choice.

It's the same for military families. The military spouse might make enough to cover all the family's expenses, in which case the other spouse has the choice of whether or not to work. Truth be told, I don't know too many enlisted military families who can afford a completely non-working spouse. The vast majority do some kind of work to bring in additional money. But if the family is really frugal and can make ends meet on one paycheck, why not?

It almost sounds like you are advocating cutting military pay. Do you really want to reduce the quality of people in the military? Because that's what will happen if you lower their pay - you'll stop enticing quility people to join up. If anything, I think military pay should be raised by about 10% across the board. It's getting harder to retain good people in certain high-need areas.

2006-09-24 01:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Charles D 5 · 3 0

Military families do move around frequently and it would be impractical for the spouse of such to keep a job.

And besides, why worry about what the next person is doing in there household.

If you are concerned about the money allocated to Military voice your concerns with those damn Republicans! They are the ones that LOVE war and raise taxes to pay for more.

Unfortunately War is Big business.

Your Article seems a little insensitive especially because of it's timing! We are currently at war (or what ever fancy title they want to call it) and while most Americans may be displeased with our president we LOVE our country and support are troops and their families wholeheartedly. This is our patriotism...are you not American? Were you not born here? Do you even understand why a person would risk their own life for others?

Military families deserves every benefit that they have and quite frankly they need and deserve much more.

There are a lot of distressed family members out there, please be more considerate

2006-09-24 02:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by californian 2 · 1 0

who says that someone refuses to work just because the other half is in the military? I worked full time while my husband was training for a year with the army going from basic, to officer candidate school, to officer basic course. Once he graduated and we got our duty station, I applied for jobs and couldn't even get a call back for an interview. I'm unemployed because I have no choice. I don't choose to sit at home with nothing to do. I've been here six months and almost everyday I check my computer for job openings and apply, I drive around and drop my resume off at tons of places. I get nothing. I have applied at this one place online so many times I don't even realise it until I get the familiar rejection letter. If a single mom wants benefits and free housing instead of being welfare trash, maybe she should join the military if it is such a big deal. The only thing requiring someone to get a job is the fact that bills have to be paid. So what you're saying is that, because my husband is in the army I should be required to get a job? I live in el paso texas, 5 miles from the border of mexico, where 90% of the population is mexicans and 60% of the population doesn't speek english. I have a career in the dental field and I had to quit a $14+ an hour job to move here so I can be with my hubby. Where am I supposed to work with the experience I have, McDonalds? I have education. Why should I lower my standards? Why can't someon just give me an oportunity to try for a job I'm qualified for more than the illegal mexican who has no credentials instead of being discriminated against for not being mexican? The men in the military don't get that great of pay, by the way. I know a man who has been in for 15 years and just started making 29k, and he's risking his life for your freedom to choose to be trash. That is why we get "free" housing. Oh, and by the way, housing isn't free. We get an allowance, we can live off post and use it towar a place to stay and related bills, or it goes to the housing people who supply us on post housing and other related bills, except cable, phone and internet which we have to pay. Oh and we don't get extra money because I'm unvoluntarily unemployed, we have to budget and make ends meet. My husband makes 15k less a year just to be in the military rather than in the civilian work place. He feels appreciated as a soldeir when the Army gives him free health and dental. The military can only pay so much when YOUR taxes pay for him to be able to fight for your freedom. When you have to start forking out more money in taxes and we suddenly live extavagant lives, like Hitler and Sadam, then you can complain. Oh, and another thing, those welfare checks is money that is being taken away from soldiers, so someone else can be lazy and collect a free check. Someone who is single and strugling isn't our problem. We shouldn't have to pay for someone elses mistakes when we lived our lives making the right decisions. That's what we call LIFE.

2006-09-24 02:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by afafae25 4 · 0 0

It's because military personel are not paid the same amount of money as your or your husband is. They or most of them do not even make minium wages if you consider the time they spend.Your bitching should be with the federal civilian service employee who average about 2 to 5 times more than does a soldier. Soldiers do not make enough to feed their families and besides you are not in Iraq with a 65 lb pak on your shoulders getting your butt shot off for 2 bucks an hour, and if you compare your time at a McDonalds for 6 bucks an hour(40 hours-$240) with their time 80 to 100 hours for the same money you will fine them making 2/3 per hour.
Military families can not just stop in one place . they are required to move on demand with little notice, and most military spouses do work . What you don't know is that on a military base in a foreign country the spouse of an American Military person will make up to 1/3 or less what a civilian who is a citizen of the that country will on the same base doing the same job. Years ago MY sister as a military spouse worked on a base in Germany. She made 2.50 an hour compared with the German women making 8:50 an hour.
And the next time you are mugged call a drug dealer to protect you, not some poor worn out cop, Move to Iran where you can have soem equality in life.
Because you can come on here and ***** and gripe is due not to anything you ever did, it's because soem soldier and gave his or her life and his family paid the price of losing them.
But your problems are over; venezuelan president hugo chavez
wants you down there. he's gonna take care of Americas poor. Haven't you heard.

2006-09-24 01:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

My husband is a Marine and I don't work, but it's not because we can neccessarily afford it. We have enough to pay for all our bills, but it would help if I had a job. The reason I don't work is because he just got home from Iraq and anytime we have together is sacred. I don't want to be tied to a job when I could be with him. For instance, he gets his combat leave next month and if I had a job we wouldn't be able to use our time together to the fullest.
Yes, we have a lot of good benefits, but it's not like we get paid a lot on top of that. Sure, there are higher ups that do get paid a lot but they definitely earned every dime. In the civilian world those guys would get paid more in most cases for the jobs they do. We receive these benefits because he chose to fight for our country, he chose to risk his life so our country has the freedoms that it does. Members of the military put a lot at risk when they enlist and the benefits we receive is gratitude for that. You should show a little more respect and thanks for the freedom to insult the military as you are.

I would also like to add that after reading some of the answers, it is true that us wives are required to up and run a household at moments notice. My husband and I got married December 28th. He came to this base on January 2nd. I drove 3,000 miles across the country on the 13th to be with him and on February 28th he left for Iraq. We lived together only that time before I had to be on my own in a strange place doing things I've never had to do before. I worked back where i'm from but we decided it was best for me not to. We weighed our options and this is the decision we chose to make. I can't help the decisions you chose to make. If you got a better job, maybe you would get better benefits. This is how our country works, sure maybe things could be better, but you can't fix anything by sitting at home complaining.

One more thing, a military family, even in my case is not a like a single parent family. For you, there is only one income if you work, but my husband works and if we decide it's best for us with me not working, so be it, but we still have an income.

2006-09-24 01:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 5 · 3 0

Well, the person that is in the military is SERVING OUR COUNTRY and his/her family DESERVE to get special tratement - B UT the person that is in the military DOES have have a SALARY and if they can afford for the other parent to stay home, who's to say they can't? Many people choose this option, military and non military, they just really plan what they do with their money and stick with it in order to make it work.

Single mothers CHOSE to have those babies and should provide for them, regardless of whether there is a man there or not.

Trash? no, not really, there are many different circumstances that make a woman a single mother, but that's not exucuse for wanting to sit at home and expect the government to take care of them. I know i am a single mother and have never relied on charity to take care of my own, on the contrary, having a family has made me work even harder.

2006-09-24 01:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Gaby A 4 · 2 0

As a person who works and is a Tax payer I can say this...

Its understandable that the Spouse of a Person in the military gets financial support, after all these men and woman are sacrificing there partners wo are often away for very long periods and to an extent are risking there lives for the benefits of there country.

In saying this I do believe that single parents are VERY unfairly treated. The single parent is trying to do whats best for there children by staying home to care for them. Good support (including financial) is imperative, it keeps children out of poverty for a start, which reduces the likelyness that they will adapt a life of crime/drugs etc..but just as importantly I think tax payers need to see the great investment they are making. If these children are provided for and are educated, cared for and grow up in a happy household, they are more likely to become a generation of stable intelligent adults who contribute to society and pay tax themselves !

Tax Payers answer me this...would you rather support someone elses child via tax and enjoy the contributions these kids make thanx to your money...or would you prefer to keep your tax and have them mug you and sell your children drugs later on ??

2006-09-24 01:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by psycgirl25 4 · 0 0

It seems as though you have some serious problems. The government is not responsible for choices that single mothers make. I don't feel that there should be a welfare system. I struggled through school and make a good living for myself without making illegitimate children. You sound like you have made some poor choices in sexual partners and now someone owes you something. I'm a tax payer and I don't think I owe you a damn thing because you can't keep your legs closed. So who are you to compare single mothers to military mothers. The big difference is that there is a member of the family enlisted in the military and providing a living for their family, whereas, you are without a companion because of poor choices, bad ethics, and irresponsibility.

2006-09-24 01:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by joe 3 · 2 1

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