me and this guy were friends since like middle school (now we're both 18) and then in the past like year and a half we kinda got closer and closer and would hang out a lot just the two of us but we never did anyhting physical...eventually we hooked up a few months ago tho...we didnt actually sleep together but not far from it...now we're still in school together and we still kinda talk once in a while but not very much...he just kinda tries to mess with me when he walks by like poking and tickling and other stupid stuff like that, but then when i show a bit of interest he doesnt say much...what does he want?? i still kinda like him but i feel like when i had the chance to let him get to know me better i kinda closed up and only let him see the fun laid back part of me rathen then the deeper side...
2006-09-23 18:09:44 · 13 answers · asked by fini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well. Maybe my story will help you.
I was in the EXACT situation you are in right now.
Me and this guy were great friends, one night we were hanging out at a friend's house partying and we ended up hooking up...a few times after that actually. okay maybe more than a few times.
but it was driving me crazy. we were just "friends".
i let it go on and on for months - back and forth, sometimes talking, sometimes not talking - everytime we ever hung out though it was just great. eventually i got him alone once and basically just confronted him about everything - what was going on with us cause it was driving me nuts and either we are just plain friends, we be together, or we're not friends at all anymore. i let him choose - mostly just that it couldn't stay the way it was.
we ended up being together for 4 years after that.
at any rate, life all works out eventually. you'll find someone who respects and cares about you. it may or may not be him, and don't settle for someone you can't talk to. one thing i've learned is don't be afraid to open up to a guy. if they laugh at you or whatever, so what. when you close up you feel worse.
2006-09-23 21:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Chelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he just wants to treat you like a piece of meat. If he was really a good friend than the little 'hook up' u 2 had wouldnt effect him in that way. Everything shouldve been the same afterwords.Don't stoop to the level that he makes you feel like its your fault. You'll eventually feel so guilty that you will give him to him and go all the way. And trust me you wont like how you feel after that.Try just being friends and see if he can handle that. And maybe he'll grow outta that stage and see what a good relationship he missed out on.
2006-09-24 16:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any physical contact from an 18 yo guy is a good sign for you. Consider that most guys that age are all about hooking up. He is flirting with a girl that he already knows likes him. He is ahead of the game. It may feel like he is sending mixed signals, and he may be, but he is a good catch. Good luck to you both.
2006-09-24 01:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you know what you two like. You spent a lot of time together.
Say, a certain music group. If they are playing in town - invite him to a show.
Remember the things you shared or enjoyed together - maybe it's a certain restaurant that has apple pie and ice cream or skating or a museum. And then, ask him to join you.
You need opportunity, that's all.
2006-09-24 01:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you. shameless flirting is always a sign. At that age its time to stop tip toeing around. Jump on the next opportunity. He's probably afraid to open up to you. You'll have to sit him down and tell him how you feel and tell him you want a response on his feelings. don't let him leave. He's bashful and will have a hard time saying what he wants but you'll get it out of him. Good luck.
2006-09-24 01:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you gitta grab this bloke push him in a corner and let him know what you feel and want of him..seriously sit down together and talk be open and honest,least you know where you stand and if he is interested in you he will listen and understand or show he's trying..well thats what any normal loving person would do....
2006-09-24 01:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do like this guy do NOT have sex with him. Sex always kills a relationship, period. Talk to him, he's just as shy and scared of being hurt and rejected as you are(though he'll never admit it). take relationship back to being basic friends and go from there.
2006-09-24 01:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this answer has nothing to do with the question its about the answer you just left me....one thing to say to you. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU! im not going to chang myself just to fit in...thats the thing i dont want to fit in....its people like you that makes me hate "people" and life so F8cking much!n
2006-09-24 16:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by AngelicaMarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be one of two things,,one he wanted to go all the way , and since you two didnt he prolly got turned off the idea of making it with you at all and has his sights on another woman,,or two,he is or was involved with another girl at the time you two messed around and you were his way of getting back at his other...
2006-09-24 01:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be with him 1 on 1 again, that should clear up what he is thinking
2006-09-24 01:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tha A-Train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋