I have been ill for 6 months and i don't know why but he does everything for me and my (our) 3 kids but we never have that communication anymore ..Its almost like he's afraid to even talk let alone touch me because he'l hurt me..I've tried to talk to him but he doesn't listen he is pulling away I feel like Im losing the most important person in my life other than my kids??
2006-09-23 17:55:39 · 15 answers · asked by Alli 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
maybe you two need some one on one time, get away, no kids, no phones, just the two of you. enjoy the time you have relax and talk with out any distractions. good luck i wish you the best.
2006-09-23 19:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Zoey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation with my partner-but we've only been together almost 4 years. The first 2 were great-but i'm falling into a depression lately cause' i get treated very different lately. To be honest- i don't feel loved anymore. I know what you are talking about! I wish i could give you advice-but i can't even help myself.
I wish u the best of luck!!!!!!!
2006-09-24 01:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been ill for six months, he's afraid he might lose you. When someone is or has been sick for as long as you have, the people around them start to wonder if they will recover. Once you are feeling better and back on your feet he should start to be his old self. Until then be patient. Try not to worry.
2006-09-24 01:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by ugogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's finally realising what you've been doing for him these past 9 years and he doens't like it.
he's feeling guilty for being a lazy buzzard and is looking for a way out.
you have to communicate with him and do it sooner rather than later, coz it's just going downhill and fast.
write him a letter if he won't listen, then at least he'll see how important it is to you to get your point across and hopefully he'll start to open up more.
best of luck with it all.
2006-09-24 00:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wo wo same thing happened to u and me but I am not married so its a little bit different. so what u have to do is just take him around with you for the discussion and even it doesnot work try for your next honeymoon with him if again it doesnot work try to forget him it may be difficult to u but it will went up.In this senario you must conveince him to stay and keep in touch you. Either rearing, smearing or bearing.
thankyou
2006-09-24 01:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by horrorspirit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is dealing with it the best he knows how. He cares for you our he wouldn't take care of you or your kids. Guys sometimes do have a hard time expressing themselves. Its hard seeing a loved one ill.
2006-09-24 00:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are differnt languages of love, you just need to find out what love language he speaks. Not everyone shows and reacts the same to love. Your trying to talk to him, maybe it's not talking but rather doing something else that may appeal to him. Instead of telling him you love him, how about "showing" him you love him. :)
2006-09-24 01:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you guys young in age? It's probably just called growing up.
2006-09-24 00:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by DeadxStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that. Dont hold that back. Pull him close and hug him and tell him how special you think he is and exactly how you feel.
2006-09-24 01:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were you expecting? He has not made any commitment to you, otherwise he would have married you. You are the one who has allowed him to use you. What are you complaining about?
2006-09-24 01:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋