my boyfriend hit me and i dunno wat to do i love him but i dunno if i should leave him?
2006-09-23 17:52:56 · 19 answers · asked by PrincessDee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Lets think about this one for a moment, shall we...hmmmm..i just got hit by a guy claiming to be my boyfriend....do i a) knock the crap out of him and run the risk of having him put me in the hospital. b) sit here like a fool and run the risk of making him mad in the future, once again with a possible hospital bill or c) dump him, get a restraining order if he tries to get near me and move on to a happier relationship....hmm...the choices the choices....listen dear, i have been there and done that in a 2 year relationship. dump the guy, if he tries to mess with you call the cops and get a restraining order.
2006-09-23 18:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE IMMEDIATELY!! I am speanking from experience. I was 13 when I accidentally hooked up with this guy. and I couldn't get away for 2 years. In that time, i have had eveything imaginable happen to me...getting tied, (or duck-taped to a chair, beat, then beat when I passed out because I passed out, beat when I woke up cause I woke up, and so forth. I have been "given" to his friends when they were in bad moods for whatever reason, to "do what they want to me" to feel better. There is much more, but I would not like to go further. This all started with him slapping me once every month or so. It snowballs fast, (if you stay for it). I have tried to leave numerous times. I've even gone a state away. He would always show up at my door in 24 hours or less. It was hell to get away, (women and children's centers, friend's houses, family, etc.) Besides what you have to deal with, your family and friends have to deal with the fact that this is happening to you. They love you and will not want you in that situation.
Above all else, though, YOU don't need to put up with that. You are better than that. I am 26 now, and have a daughter that I had when I was 15, as a result of one of the many rapings I've dealt with. I had to give up custody when I was 17, (after raising her for 2 years), to my best friend, (6-7 hours away from me). I don't get to see her or anything. I haven't even been able to talk to her in 4-5 years now. I had to give her up because I had to leave where I was staying, move a state away, and had no job and no place to live. It was insanely hard to deal with, but it was the best choice I feel I could have made. She is in great hands, and I couldn't have had a more perfect friend for the "favor".
2006-09-24 05:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by kharmaangel328 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him. You can find someone else to love who will treat you better. Once a guy hits a girl, it only goes downhill from there. You will end up being abused, controlled, have low self-esteem, become unhappy & feel trapped. You have to leave him, it's for your own good, you'll get over him with time. Start hanging out with friends & keep your mind off of him.
2006-09-24 01:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by tanner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE. Run away from him as fast as you can. If htey hit once they will do it over and over because they think that they can get away with it. If he is hitting you he does not love or respect you AT ALL! You need to tell your family. I told my husband if he ever hit me I would hunt him down. The woman below asking if there was a reason! There is NEVER a good reason to EVER hit a woman, unless she is trying to kill you!
2006-09-24 00:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Advice is something you usually ask when you already know the answer.... Yes leave him. It will only get worse. Love is only love when two people feel it. He doesn't... If he did he wouldn't have hit you. Don't waste your time there are plenty of guys out there that will treat you right! Raise your standards! Good luck!
2006-09-24 01:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keywords: BOYFRIEND & ABUSE!!! apparently he doesn't love u or respect u enough to keep his nasty *** hands to himself. Fool u once shame on him; fool u twice shame on u! do not stick around. U have no obligation/commitment to stay with the abusive prick, unless u want this to continue happening GET OUT of this...it doesn't stop; they don't change no matter how much they tell u they will. Have some respect for urself and stand up for urself! U need to take care of u!! good luck...
2006-09-24 01:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by drcil 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Charge him with assault, you sound very young and honey that is not the way you show your woman you love her. How can you love someone who is abusive to you, get out now, trust me, he does not love you, and I hope you don't have children because the kids are usually the next in line to be at the receiving end of abusers. Please be strong and leave his sorry ***.
2006-09-24 01:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A man/ boy should NEVER hit a female, NEVER! If he really loves you he would not hit you. Depending on your age you should talk to your parent or legal gaurdian or an adult you can trust immediately.
2006-09-24 09:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by ~Angel Eyed Pookie~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if reallly it is the case then u have to leave him and find the nice friend . if he hits u bcoz of some reason that is deservable then u have to analyse it again don't be silly and it is very difficult to find the true friends . if he really hit u hard with out any reason then it is very wrong and he is not ur true friend .
2006-09-24 01:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LEAVE him, even if it is VERY hard. Doesn't matter what he is telling you, what excuses he has, what he is promises. He is going to do it. It's proven. I'm from overseas, it happens there and if it happens once it repeats over and over.
You are the one who are going to make the decisions. We are just suggesting. But be reasonable in your decisions.
Svetlana
2006-09-24 01:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by Svetlana G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋