how should i feel about this problem with my X?

Question

i broke up with my gf 2 weeks ago, n we stayed friends, n then tonite she talks to me saying " i messed aroudn with these kdis at this party when i was drunk" and this happened a week ago.... should i be calling her a slut, like i am, or should i feel sympathetic....i went out with her for 2 months, im only 18, and shes 17, and it jjust makes me upset, i didnt think she was that kind of person...idk how to feel

but she comes to me saying "i made some bad decisions lately, n your the only one i can talk to" so i try too help her out, n she says that like idk what to say

Answer 1

move on or lay her

Answer 2

Being that the two of you stayed friends after the break-up says alot about what type of a person you are. Having her tell you the intimate details of some party lets me believe that she trusts you enough to confide in you. Although I understand you're upset, calling her names isn't going to make that hurt go away. You need to confront her on this. Tell her that it upset you to hear that. Tell her that you didn't think she was that way and tell her that if she has any more stories like that one, that you would prefer not to hear them because you like her as a person and don't want to think less of her. That should pretty much do the trick. It might not stop her behhavior, but it will make her think twice about her actions....especially if she values the friendship she has with you.

Answer 3

If you broke up with her 2 weeks ago and she got drunk at a party a week later, that's no reason to call her names. It seems like you still have some feelings for her. If she's your friend now, advise her not to do that unless she wants a bad reputation.

Answer 4

Well its one of two things.

1. You broke up with her but you are suffering from the whole I don't want her, but I don't want anyone else to have her scenario. Which really means you truly don't want her either - you just want her as a back up plan because you don't have a plan B yet. This isn't fair to her - just get over yourself and let her go. If you didn't care you wouldn't have left - then again, maybe this is what you needed to realize you did care more than you thought.

2. She's simply trying to make you jealous and it's working.

*wink*

Answer 5

Well she was drunk but if you really really like a person the other or neither or you guys should be drinking. Yeah so drinking is not acceptable, so really dont blame her, but if she was completely sober and knew it was wrong and did it anyways, then call her a ****. Right now, dont exactly be sympathetic, just understanding. Maybe things will work out again, if trust is regained.

Answer 6

i dont blame u for feeling upset who wouldnt be u broke up wit her and then a week later she goes and gets drunk and messes wit people that aint right and u shouldnt feel sympathetic

Answer 7

I WOULD SOME SYMPATHETIC FOR HER, BUT I WOULD
NOT CALL HER OUT OF HER NAME THAT NOT FAIR, BUT
YOU WERE WITH HER FOR 2 MONTHS, SO IT NOT LIKE
IT WAS A LONG PERIOD OF TIME. BUT SHE MAY NEED
A FRIEND, BECAUSE IF SHE GET DRUNK AT PARTIES,
THAT NOT GOOD AT ALL.

Answer 8

She's probably trying to make you jealous, but no matter what, if you broke up with her, you have no right to be mad at her for hooking up with someone

Answer 9

Sounds like she has a slutty background, hang on to her and use her until something better comes along, then drop her like a hot potato !!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

i no how you feel, happend to me before, i just moved on as im not that sort of person, and she might do it again,
think carefully dude

Answer 11

awww. tell her that it's ok and to get checked by here Ob Gyn (vagina doctor) she'll know you care and she'll definitely be happy that you "thought" of it