I am "head over heels" for my guy friend that is 17 years older than me and I really want to ask him on a date. Everybody says we will wind up together because we have so much in common and people say our faces just light up when we see eachother. My mother thinks it's great , but my father dispises it. What do you you think? Is he too old? Should I ask him out? I really love him.
Thanks!
2006-09-23 17:31:20 · 29 answers · asked by cindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry I left out the part where we have been friends for about 5 years.......thats why I said I love him becaus he's my best friend. He has allways been a best friend to me but now we have started flirting, and I love it.
I'm 25
2006-09-23 17:45:14 · update #1
i think i depends on how old you are as long as you are legal. dont think its too far of a difference. Once you hit a certain age i think it depends on your maturity level not age
2006-09-23 17:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by bambi81377 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worry about the fact that you mention your parents' opinions - exactly how old are YOU? If you aren't over 18, the whole thing is inappropriate. If a guy in his 30s "lights up" when he sees a teenager and continues to be around her, there is something seriously wrong with him. I also wonder what these things are that you have in common with him. Seventeen years is almost a generation different. Are we talking about, "we both like the color blue and long walks on the beach," or are values and life experiences what you share. It is the latter that make for a long-term relation, not just shared hobbies and activities.
2006-09-24 00:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by neniaf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm old fashion, and I think the guy should ALWAYS ask the girl out. And I personally think 17 is too much. 10 years is probably the most I'd go. And I have to agree with the girl above me, nothing good can come out of loving someone from a distance.
2006-09-24 00:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by PANDABEAR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the ages of both parties. A 50 year old man and a thirty year old woman is fine. But a 35 year old man and a 15 year old girl is prison. If you're under 25, it probably won't work. Over 25? It may.
2006-09-24 00:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by Slut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I say that if you have dated awhile and you have an idea on what you like and do not like, and you like this guy -- go for it. I do not know what the stats are, but when it comes to age difference, a larger difference seems to matter less the older you are -- possibly because you have enough life experiences to find common ground in a mutual give and take relationship. That's my own experience, nothing scientific.
As for your father, he's your father and he loves you. He is concerned about you and your future. I do not know what the situation is, but maybe he has concerns about celebrating his future grandchild's birthday with a father closer to his age.
2006-09-24 00:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends how old you are. If you are under 18, forget it. If you are 30, have fun. It is mostly only a question if you are in your early 20s. It depends if you have similar interests and views of the world. If he is a "young"40 and you are relatively mature, it could work but it's much more difficult if you don't have much life experience or if he is more of a stick-in-the-mud type.
2006-09-24 00:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is quite a difference. I feel it's best overall if you stick to someone maybe 5 yrs. older than you. This will make a difference later in your life if you ever decide to marry. Otherwise his retirement will be wayyyyyyyy before yours and you'll be out working all the time while he's home watching QVC or something.
2006-09-24 00:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 years older? I'd say go for it if your over 18 years old and legal. So the poor guy won't go to jail. After you hit 18 age isn't really an issue unless the guy is younger than you.
2006-09-24 00:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by Liliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened with my older sister when she was in her mid-twenties. He is 16 years her senior. They were even currently in relationships with other people, but decided to go for it. My folks weren't ecstatic, but they just wanted her to be happy. Now it's been 20 years later, they have one daughter in college and a son in high school and while there's no guarantees in love or life, how will you know unless you give it a try? I met my future husband when I was only 15 and it took me until I was 31 to say yes. But we sure partied our way to the altar and have been for 16 years now. :)
2006-09-24 00:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by HisChamp1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a crush more than love. My guy is 14 years younger than me and we get along great. Just his family and I don't. I think it really depends on the two people. If you haven't even gone out with him, I don't know if you're really in love with him. But who am I to say. I believe in love at first sight here and there.
It's either love or lust, who knows. What does he think, and why hasn't he asked you out. And dad's are always going to be protective of their daughters. Hopefully anyway. I really think you need to go out on a few dates before you decide you're in love.
2006-09-24 00:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by one_sahara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even going out with this guy and you "love" him? This is a disaster waiting to happen.
Whether you're of age or not, you're both at very different places in your lives. You two probably have different goals in life so I don't think it will last too long...but there are exceptions.
2006-09-24 00:32:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋